Mean Things People Said That Ended Up Motivating You

SciWhiz wrote: »

Everytime my mom visits (2-3 times per year) she comments on how fit my dog looks and how my dog doesn't look like she's gained weight.

DaniMedina1 wrote: »

I moved into a building in 2012 when I was 20 kilos heavier than I am now. I've had the same next-door neighbours since then, but only became friends with them a few months ago. Once they asked me, after having dinner together: "How long have you been living in this building?" and I said "For 5 years now". They were shaking their heads and telling me that no, that was impossible, because before me there was a really obese girl living in this flat. "Do you remember her?" one says to the other. "She was a freaking mammoth".

That was me. The mammoth. Same person, only thin now. It hurt me they wouldn't even recognise me, notice my face or other features of my body/personality. The only thing they saw - and still see - is my weight.

I put on a lot of weight in a matter of months (6, 7 or something like that) and once I was strolling about a shopping centre and bumped into an old acquaintance of mine, a guy my age. First thing he said when he saw me was - sounding like he was completely disgusted by my appearance: "WHAT happened to you?!?!"

My ex-boyfriend, with whom I hadn't had the friendliest of break-ups, sent me a message through Facebook asking me how I managed to become so "large". That was the only purpose of the message. To ask me that question.

One of my closest female friends came over to my place around Easter a few years back. Upon her request, I had made pizzas from scratch. She'd told me she had a craving for pizza and that she loved the way I made them so there I was, making her wishes come true. She brought me a huge Easter egg as a present, left it on the table and then proceeded to stand next to my kitchen door, while watching me knead the dough. Lit up a cigarette, watched me from head to toe and said, unapologetically, "I am your friend so I've got to tell you this: you are FAT. You've gained a lot of weight recently. You should stop EATING."

Back at the time all these things really hurt me, but at the same time I feel like I used them as motivation to start working out again, eating healthier and "making them shut their mouths".

evilpoptart63 wrote: »

I havent lost weight since my last baby and recently my husband started making comments. Im 30lbs heavier than when we met. First he suggested i get a gym membership, then he told me i need to use it more. He asked me to unfollow a fitness motivation lady on facebook because i "gave up on myself" and a few days ago he told me my stomach was gross and turned him off and thats the reason he needs porn for sexual satisfaction. Its pretty upsetting but i think he has motivated me enough to put effort into changing myself.

mccord62803 wrote: »

I'm literally crying after reading all these. It blows my mind that people would say these things.

Mine come from a few different sources. Several years ago while I was a teller at a bank a customer came in to make a deposit. He was at the teller window next to me and my coworker was waiting on him. He had always been nice to me, even gave me a baby blanket for my baby... I don't know how it got started but he made a comment about my weight. It shocked and confused me at first because no one had ever commented on my weight before. At the time I was only about 25 lbs overweight. He started off saying something like "Don't worry, you don't have to say you're fat, just say you're fluffy. That's what fat women are called." Then my coworker (who I thought was my friend) started laughing and agreeing with him. They started talking about how my husband probably likes it because I was "warmth in the winter and shade in the summer". I just sat there in shock and ashamed. My whole body was tensed up and I couldn't even move so I just looked down and tried to hold the tears back. Then they seriously started straight up schoolyard bullying me like "aww look she's gonna cry" and "we better stop before the baby cries". I ended up finally getting up and running into the hallway. This turns into a kind of sweet story because other coworkers heard and saw me crying and rallied to my aide. They comforted me and cussed with me. Lol. My bullying coworker was reprimanded and apologized saying that she got carried away and that she thought the 3 of us were joking together (BS). Anyway, the customer ended up changing banks because every single time he came in another coworker would come and stand behind me with his arms crossed and scowl at the man. That coworker has since passed away from cancer but I'll always have the memory of him standing behind me protecting me...and his sassy "you can always lose weight but he'll be ugly forever" advice. ❤️

I also have my in laws. They are morbidly obese themselves but for some reason choose to only focus on the 30 lbs I've gained since getting married. My 300 lb sister in law has told me "Wow, how much weight have you gained? Looks like a lot!" And my mother in law took my husband aside and ask "How do you feel about all that weight Leah's gained?"

peanutbuttertuesday wrote: »

This thread makes me feel sad. I can't help but put myself in each of your shoes as I read these comments. I definitely don't feel inspired by insults.

For me, the last straw was shopping for jeans for my birthday. I couldn't find my size in long lengths anywhere. Apparently tall women aren't supposed to go beyond a size 16. I ended up finding a 22L at one store and settling for that. It was only slightly too big. I had never had such a problem finding clothes like that and decided I was never going to again.