Are your partners supportive?

Bex953172
Bex953172 Posts: 4,159 Member
edited November 17 in Motivation and Support
Are your partners supportive of your journey?

My partner will help me by getting me the food I need in the house, not waving delicious treats in my face and will help me do exercises correctly to better myself.

But I don't think he believes I'll actually be pretty skinny one day.
I mean I'm a size 14-16 now and I want to be at a size 8-10 and I'm 5'7"
I don't want to be like boney skinny but as slim as I can be without looking like I've gone too far? If that makes sense.

I don't know if I just misunderstood him but I dunno
Just made me think because he is supportive but I don't think he believes I can do it?
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  • deputy_randolph
    deputy_randolph Posts: 940 Member
    When my husband and I met (almost 20 years ago), I was between a size10-12. I'm a size 4 now. He tends to like thicker women. He's been extremely supportive, b/c he would also prefer me to be comfortable with myself...and not complain about my weight.

    I'm think he's found new things to be attracted to...like my "new" muscles.
  • amyteacake
    amyteacake Posts: 768 Member
    I met my boyfriend last year when I had already started to lose weight and was doing weight training and used to be healthy and he doesn't mind it. He's quite supportive of me and my journey and helps to boost my confidence when I feel bad about things, like if I haven't been to the gym in a few days or my diet hadn't been that great he'll tell me that tomorrow is a new day and I'll get back to it eventually.

    Me and him do eat pretty bad food at the weekends but when I stay at his during the weekends it usually is my cheat day anyway! He often makes jokes as well that I should be able to lift something that's heavy because I go to the gym and I have muscles apparently
  • Ironandwine69
    Ironandwine69 Posts: 2,432 Member
    Bex953172 wrote: »
    Are your partners supportive of your journey?

    My partner will help me by getting me the food I need in the house, not waving delicious treats in my face and will help me do exercises correctly to better myself.

    But I don't think he believes I'll actually be pretty skinny one day.
    I mean I'm a size 14-16 now and I want to be at a size 8-10 and I'm 5'7"
    I don't want to be like boney skinny but as slim as I can be without looking like I've gone too far? If that makes sense.

    I don't know if I just misunderstood him but I dunno
    Just made me think because he is supportive but I don't think he believes I can do it?

    I'm 5'10 and a size 6. I don't look skinny.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    edited April 2017
    My wife and I were both competitive athletes once upon a time turned recreational athletes...so yeah.
  • perfect_storm
    perfect_storm Posts: 326 Member
    My husband is supportive he wants me happy and me at a healthy is me happy have you asked your sig other if they believe in you are you just assuming he thinks you can not do it?
  • Vanguard1
    Vanguard1 Posts: 372 Member
    Not very much. It's not that she tries to sabotage me, but rolls her eyes if I don't want a second plate or desert. I mention IF, she says it's ridiculous...
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,149 Member
    In short, yes.
  • beginforthelasttime16
    beginforthelasttime16 Posts: 533 Member
    my boyfriend is super supportive. He wants to lose weight and be healthy too so when I tell him I want to do something (ie the Whole30) he willingly does it too!
  • happysherri
    happysherri Posts: 1,360 Member
    My boyfriend is my gym partner - so YES! It's awesome, I enjoy going to the gym with him. He also eats all of healthy recipes I find, without complaining (sometimes I get a that was delicious, other times silence). ha I am the grocery shopper, so he doesn't really bring much junk into the house.

    ***Side note: sometimes we overthink what others may think of us. Quit that, I use to over analyze what I "thought" others were thinking, this is when I had depression. Take it for what it sounds like it is - support. Be happy, a lot of people struggle because their SO/spouse isn't supportive at all. Keep going ***I am 5'7 and a size 8/9 american women size pants - at my heaviest I was 200 lbs (for me that's heavy, I've always been an athlete)

    You can do it
  • inertiastrength
    inertiastrength Posts: 2,343 Member
    me and my bf met on a bodybuilding FB group so we're very supportive of each other. We are both macro geeks
  • kenzienal
    kenzienal Posts: 205 Member
    My boyfriend is constantly supportive. He goes to the gym, I work out at home. I plan on going to the gym with him once my 90 day home workout program is over, however.

    The days he gets home from the gym(and after my workout), we usually go for a walk. Last night I was feeling pretty lazy after my workout and just wanted to sit on the couch and grub on chips. Instead, he motivated me to go for a walk with him, and told me I can have the chips after dinner (knowing I would be too stuffed by then to even want them anymore.) He's too smooth.

    He tells me I am pretty how I am, but encourages me to get better. He wants me to feel better about myself not for him, but for myself. He always compliments how far I have come when I am feeling down, and gives me the little kick in the butt I need when I am not feeling my workout.

    I would have probably given up long ago if it wasn't for him. Even at my biggest, (158lbs), he still always told me how pretty I was. Now I am motivated to get back to the size my body is meant to be (135lbs) to impress him even more.

  • stelly76
    stelly76 Posts: 120 Member
    Yes. My husband tells me he is proud of me when I reach goals or stay consistent. When I'm feeling frustrated, he helps motivate me.
  • haymanchantal
    haymanchantal Posts: 4 Member
    My boyfriend called me an ugly fat whale and when I go on holiday on the beach there will be no water left
  • haymanchantal
    haymanchantal Posts: 4 Member
    edited April 2017
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    He called me a whale
  • haymanchantal
    haymanchantal Posts: 4 Member
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    I know I'm not beautiful but I don't think I'm ugly??
  • amyteacake
    amyteacake Posts: 768 Member
    haymanchantal wrote: »
    My boyfriend called me an ugly fat whale and when I go on holiday on the beach there will be no water left

    You're not fat or ugly! What he's doing to you isn't right and he shouldn't be treating you like that at all!
  • lorrpb
    lorrpb Posts: 11,463 Member
    My husband has been incredibly supportive. I love him dearly and I know he is greatly relieved at my success, because it means our chances of living and being together longer just went up a huge amount!
  • Ironandwine69
    Ironandwine69 Posts: 2,432 Member
    haymanchantal wrote: »
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    He called me a whale

    I hope​ you're joking.
  • lorrpb
    lorrpb Posts: 11,463 Member
    Bex953172 wrote: »
    Are your partners supportive of your journey?

    My partner will help me by getting me the food I need in the house, not waving delicious treats in my face and will help me do exercises correctly to better myself.

    But I don't think he believes I'll actually be pretty skinny one day.
    I mean I'm a size 14-16 now and I want to be at a size 8-10 and I'm 5'7"
    I don't want to be like boney skinny but as slim as I can be without looking like I've gone too far? If that makes sense.

    I don't know if I just misunderstood him but I dunno
    Just made me think because he is supportive but I don't think he believes I can do it?

    It makes me sad that you are questioning his support. What more could you want than all the things you mentioned that he does for you? Do YOU believe you can/will do it? Just sayin.
  • Golbat
    Golbat Posts: 276 Member
    My husband is wonderful. We've been together for a very long time and he's very supportive. I was very thin when we got married, but then my thyroid went bad and I had a couple of kids. I've taken off the majority of the weight I put on, but he never acted like he found me less attractive or felt like I had to lose weight, and he is at the same time supportive of my work to lose weight. I am confident he will love me and find me attractive no matter what happens in the future.

    Haymanchantal: You are not ugly, and you are not a whale, and that sounds emotionally abusive to me. I recommend counseling, if not for him then at least for you. If you can't afford counseling and you attend a church or other religious organization, you might be able to get help from a religious leader.
  • Onamissionforfit
    Onamissionforfit Posts: 90 Member
    Very! Mine never judge me when I put on a lot of weight and has been awesome the entire fat loss journey. Lost 40 pounds now and still going. The real question is do you believe you can do it? You have to believe in yourself as well. He will come around when he starts seeing results and then you can say I told you so. Some people doubted I could do it as well feels good to show them.
  • Bex953172
    Bex953172 Posts: 4,159 Member
    lorrpb wrote: »
    Bex953172 wrote: »
    Are your partners supportive of your journey?

    My partner will help me by getting me the food I need in the house, not waving delicious treats in my face and will help me do exercises correctly to better myself.

    But I don't think he believes I'll actually be pretty skinny one day.
    I mean I'm a size 14-16 now and I want to be at a size 8-10 and I'm 5'7"
    I don't want to be like boney skinny but as slim as I can be without looking like I've gone too far? If that makes sense.

    I don't know if I just misunderstood him but I dunno
    Just made me think because he is supportive but I don't think he believes I can do it?

    It makes me sad that you are questioning his support. What more could you want than all the things you mentioned that he does for you? Do YOU believe you can/will do it? Just sayin.

    Well I've thought about it..

    Physically he is supportive (getting me the right foods and helping with exercise)

    Emotionally he is not.

    But a journey like this is a physical and emotional one.

    Don't get me wrong I am happy with him because he's not just dismissed it entirely.

    And I am doing it for me.

    Either he's not emotionally supportive or he's secretly using reverse psychology to make me want to do it more and prove him wrong!

    @haymanchantal
    You are not fat or ugly!
    You're very very pretty!

    If you're the size of a whale then I wonder what whales your partner has seen!

    Is he just joking? Because my OH sometimes says it to me but as an obvious joke!
    But I just cal him a fat bast*** back and we laugh about it?
    If not then maybe that's a behaviour you should look into..
  • littlemcbird
    littlemcbird Posts: 11 Member
    I don't feel like my husband is very supportive of me... but I think that's my fault with having started and stopped fitness so many times before. When I ask to train with him he can't be bother ect but if I'm about to eat something not that good for you he will tell me I shouldn't be eating that ?? So I'm not actually sure to be honest lol
  • haymanchantal
    haymanchantal Posts: 4 Member
    Thanks girls I put it down to his faulty personality and trying to bring me down but it still makes me feel like crap dreading my holiday with him I'd rather go on my own and not feel judged on what I look like or feel like he's embarrassed by me at the end of the day he is not all that great himself although he thinks he's gods gift ha anyway onwards and upwards I don't need a man in my life I'm quite capable and independent with my 5 kids I've had a c section and a ectopic previously so have a horizontal scar from my belly button down and the c section scar too so get called jelly belly blah blah blah he bores me I told him to go find a skinny woman cos I'm not interested
  • Ni_La82
    Ni_La82 Posts: 16 Member
    My husband tries but doesn't understand. It's either one extreme or the other.
    I did Lindora and the first day he brought home Popeyes fried chicken.
    Then he got over enthusiastic. When I started losing weight he told everyone I was on a diet (it was embarrassing) and he'd be irritated with me if I so much as looked at dessert. When I thought I was done he said I hadn't lost enough weight. I gave up about then. I'm ready to restart but I'm keeping him out of it.
  • Geocitiesuser
    Geocitiesuser Posts: 1,429 Member
    My partner is dat boy in the mirror. Sometime he's a real kitten.
  • bhurley100
    bhurley100 Posts: 201 Member
    I think your husband should love and support you no matter what you do in your fitness journey.
    My husband is happy to see me happy no matter what kind of workout or diet plan I want to do in my journey. He gets me set up so I can do what I want to do. He is amazingly supportive!!:-)
    Thats how it should be girl. Tell your man you would appreciate some encouragement and praise through this:-)
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