Startling to dread going out for meals

fitmom4lifemfp wrote: »

cwolfman13 wrote: »

It's one meal out of an entire week...

For you that might not be a problem. For others, it is.

Why? One meal out of an entire weeks worth of meals seem pretty immaterial to me regardless of who you are. There are also other ways to compensate if need be. In the big picture, it's just not very material.

cwolfman13 wrote: »

fitmom4lifemfp wrote: »

cwolfman13 wrote: »

It's one meal out of an entire week...

For you that might not be a problem. For others, it is.

Why? One meal out of an entire weeks worth of meals seem pretty immaterial to me regardless of who you are. There are also other ways to compensate if need be. In the big picture, it's just not very material.

It's not material for YOU. YOUR BMR, YOUR willpower, YOUR discipline...those things are all YOURS. Please try to respect that fact that we are all different and have to tackle some things a bit differently than you do.

I plan and enter my whole week into MFP at the same time. This way I can see where I can make little adjustments to accommodate for nights out. On days I'm going to eat out I make sure you do a workout so I have the extra exercise calories. When my BF and I eat out we almost always share a meal, otherwise I order off the appetizer menu, kid menu, or just I the server to bring a box with my meal and immediately put half my meal in the box. I lost 8lbs between Jan 1 and Feb 27 eating out at least once a week...no need to stress. Since you know this is a regular thing it should make it easier to pre-plan for.

Edit: One more tip, when you are done eating place your napkin over the plate. You won't pick at it and the server will pick it up faster. It also signals to others at the table that you are done consuming food for the night (for example, desert).

Lois_1989 wrote: »

cwolfman13 wrote: »

fitmom4lifemfp wrote: »

cwolfman13 wrote: »

It's one meal out of an entire week...

For you that might not be a problem. For others, it is.

Why? One meal out of an entire weeks worth of meals seem pretty immaterial to me regardless of who you are. There are also other ways to compensate if need be. In the big picture, it's just not very material.

Exactly, to you. Other people might find this a challenge. Don't down-play other peoples struggles.

I'm not down playing anything...I'm trying to show the bigger picture...people drown in minutia. And really, having a refeed day is actually good for you...

I always like to simply eat half my meal, saving the rest for later or the next day. It seems like 2 good meals

pupntot wrote: »

I too have this problem and while I'm still working on the self control element this is what I do:

I want to lose 1 pound per week (-500 cals) so what I have done is switched my goal to lose 1.5 pounds (-750) and followed this during the week. Then at the weekend I know I have banked 1250 cals which is my buffer for naughtiness, plus if I really wanted I've got an extra 500 for the weekend. It is working for me, just a thought.

Love this idea!! I go out to eat every Sunday with my family after church and even though I know I could make better choices I usually go for a nice juicy burger with fries or pizza or something equally as unhealthy. I did WW with success in the past and I think the reason is the extra flex points they gave. I would save them all for the end of the week and could eat out and still lose weight. I've been struggling with MFP - I'm losing but very slowly (1-2lbs per month). I am going to try your idea and see if I can get the weight off a little faster. Thanks!

OP, what do you normally order? Do you dread it because you feel the need to log exactly, or do you dread it because you end up making bad choices and can't seem to control yourself?

If the dread is just an anxiety that you don't have specific calories to be sure of, then you need to find a way to let that go. Once you get more practice, you can get really good at figuring out what to log.

If the dread is because you end up making bad choices, then maybe if you tell us what you tend to eat there, we can provide some suggestions?

Get a burger with a side salad and only eat half the burger. Save the rest of the burger for your dinner

Since it's only once a week I don't think one meal will make a difference as long as you are not getting an appie and dessert with it or alcohol/sugary drinks.

I usually google the menu of the place, if I know a head of time where we will be eating, pick something and log it into my calories for that day and eat around that meal. There are usually healthier versions of meals options at every restaurant. If you don't want to eat something healthy and want to enjoy a nice burger or something else you don't normally eat then go for it, log it, cut the portion in half or make sure that you workout and burn the amount of calories needed to fit it into your day. Don't stress about going out to eat, just make good choices, eat smaller portions, get sauces, dressings on the side so you have more control of your calories. Life Balance is key to success. We are programmed to think that certain foods are a NO GO, when in fact all we truly need to do is eat less of it. Good luck!

I am a petite female with a desk job (e.g. very low weight loss calorie alotment) and I have been successful losing weight while eating out frequently (3-6 times per week).

Right now, I'm eating a turkey wrap from my work cafeteria. They weigh out and portion the roasted turkey and the wrap came from a package that I asked to see the nutritional information on. Add some fresh veggies (spinach, peppers, etc.) and some frank's hot sauce (10 calories for 2 tablespoons) with carrot sticks on the side and you have a healthy filling lunch for about 300 calories--just as good as eating at home.

Pub food can also work, although it's a lot harder. Here are some tricks I use:

• Intermittent fasting: make that meal your main meal and tide yourself over by chewing sugar free gum and drinking non-sweetened tea, coffee and water throughout the rest of the day.
• Eat high protein, high volume foods to tide you over. For example, a packet of tuna on a pile of greens is very filling and well under 200 calories, leaving plenty of room for your pub meal.
• Be selective about what you order/eat. For example, (as others have pointed out) you could do fairly simple foods like steak or chicken and vegetables and log it similarly to eating at home.
• Add a buffer. I usually add a tablespoon of oil and/or butter to account for cooking styles (fat makes it all taste better and chefs know this!). If it looks shiny or oily, I'll double that.
• Make some healthier choices and some less healthy. If you love burgers, have the burger, but get the side salad instead of the fries. Or, if you love fries more than bread, get the burger and fries but skip eating the bun.
• Be ready to flex in the moment. For example, my husband wanted to go to BBQ for dinner so I planned my day around that, logging the turkey as the low calorie meat with the french fries that we love as the splurge. When we got there, they were out of turkey, so I ordered the pulled pork and made up the calories by swapping the fries for non-fried sweet potato.
• Finally, as many have noted, save extra calories on other days of the week and earn extra through extra movement that day.

All of this takes practice, but once you get the hang of it and get over the "all or nothing" mentality that we often have when eating out, it gets much easier.

Also, I can't stress enough what other folks have said about leaving food--it's okay. Your food won't feed starving children and throwing it in the garbage is better than treating your body like the garbage can and throwing it in there. That was a big wake up call for me because I was raised to never waste food. It was so liberating to realize that you're still wasting it if you continue eating after you're full.

Good luck!

Yeah, this seems like the mindset isn't helping, maybe reframe your approach.

We choose to be healthier and we choose to spend time with family and friends. This is not a must or can't scenario. You only dread it because your perception is deprivation. It's not, you can choose to eat whatever you want or you can choose to eat a bit healthier each and every time.

If you choose to eat a buffalo'd blue fried chicken sandwich at the pub (my favorite ) and have a couple beers then you have to choose to compensate for that, either by hitting your goal later down the road or by compensating with exercise, for example. If you choose the sandwich and no fries and two beers that may be a better balance. If you choose a salad, low cal dressing and only one beer then that's a really good balance.

There's a good thread re: not being afraid to be a princess when ordering over here that might help.

I like many of the ideas shared and use some of them (and will use some more) in the future. One to add, OP, is to time the meal so it can actually serve as two meals. We go out to lunch most Saturdays, but time it between 3 and 4. The good news is, we get into restaurants without a wait, and it's at a time that means I only eat 1 big meal that day. I wait to eat breakfast on Saturdays until later in the morning, make it healthy and fairly low cal, (or whenever my stomach starts growling) then just eat what we call "lupper" in our house.