does this make me a jerk? Probably...

awelch79
awelch79 Posts: 233 Member
edited September 30 in Success Stories
So my SIL started bragging to me about how she fit into a 6 at Kohls (I was stoked about getting an 8 last week). She sent me a pic of herself in them from the dressing room. They were TIGHT and theres no way she could have worn them with any other shirt than the tunic she had on...you could see the muffin top flowing over them. So---am I a jerk that I say that you can only count a size when you can zip them without holding your breath AND wear any shirt in your closet with them?

or maybe its just a rivalry thing...any opinions? (and I think I am usually a pretty nice person, for the record!!!) :grumble:
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  • B_L_A_Z_I_A_N
    B_L_A_Z_I_A_N Posts: 151
    just because you can "fit" into something doesn't mean you should [justsayin]
  • hottamolly00
    hottamolly00 Posts: 334 Member
    Ummm... no. You're not a jerk. She's a jerk for sending you that pic. You would be a jerk if you didn't tell her nicely not to buy them, yet.
  • Heatherbelle_87
    Heatherbelle_87 Posts: 1,078 Member
    I ony consider it my size when I can zip & wear them without a muffin top.

    I hate seeing women with huge muffin tops, or dangling belly's OVER their jeans and going what? I weight the same as you how are you 3 sizes bigger??? Um because my pants fit right!

    **And usually people guess im 1-4 sizes smaller because I wear things that fit well and compliment my body type
  • MissyFit08
    MissyFit08 Posts: 274 Member
    Ummm... no. You're not a jerk. She's a jerk for sending you that pic. You would be a jerk if you didn't tell her nicely not to buy them, yet.


    You hit the nail on the head! :laugh:
  • ACEgirl1
    ACEgirl1 Posts: 133 Member
    I definitely would have thought that!
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    I wouldn't SAY anything to her, but zipping isn't the same as fitting.

    I can zip my old high school jeans. And they hurt. A lot.
  • CaptainAmerica1970
    CaptainAmerica1970 Posts: 435
    bump
  • kiminita
    kiminita Posts: 150 Member
    when you have a muffin top and can only wear pants with a tunic, that doesn't mean you actually fit them. She's in denial, and obviously in competition with you, and/or seeking your approval. Be the better person and let it go, but also let her know that they may be a little tight....in other words....lol I shouldnt give advice on this aspect since people tell me I am an *kitten*, but I'd let her know all the kinds of infections, including yeast infections she can get from wearing clothing that is excessively tight.
  • B_L_A_Z_I_A_N
    B_L_A_Z_I_A_N Posts: 151
    also... i hope you are encouraging her to tone up and be healthier. i would consider a friend to be more of a jerk if they went around making fun of me behind my back instead of telling me that im fat to my face.
  • julieban1
    julieban1 Posts: 39 Member
    Not a jerk! You shouldnt be able to claim a size without being able to zip up with ease and wear anything with it. She isn't fitting into it. She's pouring herself into them.
  • mimiswoboda
    mimiswoboda Posts: 13
    Oh my gosh that's great! You're not a jerk. Just honest!
  • earthsember
    earthsember Posts: 435 Member
    A little schadenfreude never hurt anyone. It's a little jerkish if you say anything rude, but a little "ohhh, that's nice, but it might not be the most flattering look"
  • MissyFit08
    MissyFit08 Posts: 274 Member
    I wouldn't SAY anything to her, but zipping isn't the same as fitting.

    I can zip my old high school jeans. And they hurt. A lot.

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: I can say the same thing!! OUCH!! *barely breathing* "does it f-it??"
  • ohwhataday
    ohwhataday Posts: 1,398 Member
    So my SIL started bragging to me about how she fit into a 6 at Kohls (I was stoked about getting an 8 last week). She sent me a pic of herself in them from the dressing room. They were TIGHT and theres no way she could have worn them with any other shirt than the tunic she had on...you could see the muffin top flowing over them. So---am I a jerk that I say that you can only count a size when you can zip them without holding your breath AND wear any shirt in your closet with them?

    or maybe its just a rivalry thing...any opinions? (and I think I am usually a pretty nice person, for the record!!!) :grumble:

    rofl. awesome. I am a pretty nice person too.. but that doesn't seem to matter! hah
  • fteale
    fteale Posts: 5,310 Member
    Don't antagonise the mother in law.
  • megz4987
    megz4987 Posts: 1,008 Member
    No, I don't think so. I don't believe it's your size if you can't wear them comfortably. Anyone who claims they're comfortable when they have to lay on their bed to zip their pants are lying.
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    Two nights ago...I was going through my closet cleaning out old clothes. I've got like 10 pairs of jeans I have NO idea why I've kept...so I decided to try them all on just to see. First pair, 30" waist...got them on (couldn't do that last time I tried), sipped them cleanly...and...they buttoned lol. I was kinda in shock to be honest. I normally wear 34's comfortably, and some of my 34's only fit if they're dead out of the dryer...or they fall down around my *kitten*.

    However...the point of this is...I looked like an IDIOT! You think women look silly with muffin tops?? Try bread tops...on a guy.
    Sooo, back to the point. I am SO not a 30" waist pant size. They were...umm, wearable I guess, but you won't catch me dead in them in the forseeable future. Still a solid 34" pant...until further notice lol.
  • GypsyRose25
    GypsyRose25 Posts: 407
    Two nights ago...I was going through my closet cleaning out old clothes. I've got like 10 pairs of jeans I have NO idea why I've kept...so I decided to try them all on just to see. First pair, 30" waist...got them on (couldn't do that last time I tried), sipped them cleanly...and...they buttoned lol. I was kinda in shock to be honest. I normally wear 34's comfortably, and some of my 34's only fit if they're dead out of the dryer...or they fall down around my *kitten*.

    However...the point of this is...I looked like an IDIOT! You think women look silly with muffin tops?? Try bread tops...on a guy.
    Sooo, back to the point. I am SO not a 30" waist pant size. They were...umm, wearable I guess, but you won't catch me dead in them in the forseeable future. Still a solid 34" pant...until further notice lol.

    lol! You're awesome!
  • sesecat
    sesecat Posts: 124 Member
    It's funny... some folks I've recruited to the site have also seemed to make it a competition or top my successes. Bums me out, but I feel like a jerk not wanting to congratulate them. LOL

    Guess we just need to focus and be excited about our own successes, the true ones.

    And congrats on getting into the single digit! I've never been there myself, but the thought of a single digit gets me all excited. Maybe this time I'll get there! :-)
  • dyaniT
    dyaniT Posts: 4
    I often tell my friends that what you can "fit into" isn't necessarily what "fits."
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,458 Member
    I wouldn't have said anything. Two jerks don't make a nice person.
  • kgagnon7779
    kgagnon7779 Posts: 216
    Do you think she was rubbing it in to make you feel bad or was she just happy for herself and wanted you to be happy for her? I called my SIL from the dressing room when I fit into a pair of 4's - she seemed happy for me....huh...now I feel like an *kitten*.

    Either way I guess, you should congratulate on her for being able to fit into a size 6 and being able to WEAR a size 8,
  • dyaniT
    dyaniT Posts: 4
    lol
  • stormieweather
    stormieweather Posts: 2,549 Member
    I wear a size 6 right now...they're drooping around the crotch area and gaping open in the back waist. But if I try on size 4's, they're tight, tight, tight. I have no muffin top, my mid flab is nearly all gone. But something that tight simply doesn't look good (or classy). So, was far as I'm concerned, I'm in between a 4 and a 6. Until I'm fully a 4, however, I won't be buying (or wearing) any. Clothes that don't fit right make you look a lot lumpier and heavier than you really are. So no thanks.
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    Do you think she was rubbing it in to make you feel bad or was she just happy for herself and wanted you to be happy for her? I called my SIL from the dressing room when I fit into a pair of 4's - she seemed happy for me....huh...now I feel like an *kitten*.

    Either way I guess, you should congratulate on her for being able to fit into a size 6 and being able to WEAR a size 8,

    Give this lady a prize =D!
  • lloydmel
    lloydmel Posts: 259 Member
    I agree with you. I think you aren't truly that size if you can't wear them without spillage... Fret not, she's not truly a size 6... she is probably still a size 8 or higher :-)
  • Monica_has_a_goal
    Monica_has_a_goal Posts: 694 Member

    I hate seeing women with huge muffin tops, or dangling belly's OVER their jeans...

    Hey.. men with big bellys overflowing are just as bad..

    I'm a big woman and I KNOW not to fit myself into a small size just so I can "claim the size" !! ... Some people make me laugh.. :laugh:
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    Hey.. men with big bellys overflowing are just as bad..

    Worse...trust me. Even though my belly isn't 'big' anymore...it looked disgusting in 30" waist pants lol.
  • awelch79
    awelch79 Posts: 233 Member
    You guys crack me up! Yes, I love my SIL most of the time, BUT she is highly competitive. When we bought our house, a month later, they bid on something bigger. We got pregnant, a month later she was pregnant. We got a chocolate lab, two weeks later they had a black AND white one. People who know all of us actually laugh and make fun of us..We went to CA for my daughters birthday and everyone asked them if they were going for their daughter. They laughed and said no, but 3 months later...where did they celebrate? Hmmmm....

    The pic was to rub it in...I would gaurantee it. And when I went to her house, I asked to see the magnificent 6s and she admitted she didnt buy them...but just HAD to send the pic.

    LOL! Like I said, I do love her and consider her one of my closest friends, but Ive worked HARD to get into that 8 and she hasnt been counting calories or working out, so it wasnt like she was saying, look what Ive done with all my hard work...she just wanted to show she was still smaller than me! Guess I should take it as a compliment and RUN!
  • BettyMargaret
    BettyMargaret Posts: 407 Member
    I think she loves you and wants to emulate you, you know what "they" say, imitation is the most sincere form of flattery!
    Just sayin'
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