Second date: guy wants to go for a run

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  • WickedPineapple
    WickedPineapple Posts: 698 Member
    Are you a runner?
  • Lana_me
    Lana_me Posts: 34 Member
    WickedPineapple wrote: »
    Are you a runner?

    I was back in high-school. Not any more to be honest.
  • toxikon
    toxikon Posts: 2,383 Member
    I like the idea of a hike instead. Then you can actually talk to each-other and enjoy the scenery.

    I agree that it sounds like he wants to "evaluate" your fitness. I assume fitness is very important to this guy and he wants to make sure the people he dates are into it too. There's nothing wrong with that... but a running date still sounds awful to me. You'll be sweaty and panting and unable to even talk to each-other.
  • legsnbacon
    legsnbacon Posts: 122 Member
    If you're not currently a runner then I would say no. A walk or hike is a great alternative.
  • Lana_me
    Lana_me Posts: 34 Member
    toxikon wrote: »
    I like the idea of a hike instead. Then you can actually talk to each-other and enjoy the scenery.

    I agree that it sounds like he wants to "evaluate" your fitness. I assume fitness is very important to this guy and he wants to make sure the people he dates are into it too. There's nothing wrong with that... but a running date still sounds awful to me. You'll be sweaty and panting and unable to even talk to each-other.

    And definitely not showing any fitness. lol

  • pinuplove
    pinuplove Posts: 12,871 Member
    If he wants something active, look for a rock-climbing wall in your area. Public places only for a 2nd date with someone you don't know well. Is he trying to assess your fitness level or something? :huh: Odd.
  • SaraMA1
    SaraMA1 Posts: 410 Member
    I have gone on a running "date", but it was more like a 5th date type of thing.
    We both enjoy running and every mile, we stopped and did a few planks, wall sits, squats and push ups so I could take a quick break. He was a lot taller than I so running a 8 minute mile, was not something I typically do when I run on my own! haha
    I just casually told him that after every mile I like to throw in some body weight exercise, and he was impressed as he typically didn't do wall sits, squats or planks. It was a good mix for us both and we enjoyed it.
    I liked the fact I got to see him in the morning, and if a guy likes me while I run or after, you know that he really likes you just as much as when you are dressed to the nines and wearing heals. However, I find that for myself anyways, I always have a super glow after a run and look happy/healthy so I was not turned off by getting a little sweaty.
    I would do it if you are comfortable! We even stopped to take some great nature pictures along our travels, it was actually kind of romantic in a spontaneous kind of way.
  • MissMaggieMuffin
    MissMaggieMuffin Posts: 444 Member
    Does he know this: " I was back in high-school. Not any more to be honest"?
    If no, then he may have a misconception of your level of fitness. Can't imagine how that will go well........
    If yes, then that is strange/weird.

    Doesn't seem that this would be a good idea in either scenario, given the (apparent) different activity preferences.
  • SomebodyWakeUpHIcks
    SomebodyWakeUpHIcks Posts: 3,836 Member
    Lana_me wrote: »
    I met him online. Now he's asking me to go for a run.

    Have you ever been on a running date? How it turned out for you? Would you go on a running date?

    Did he ask you to run in that bikini?
  • StarvingDiva
    StarvingDiva Posts: 1,107 Member
    pinuplove wrote: »
    If he wants something active, look for a rock-climbing wall in your area. Public places only for a 2nd date with someone you don't know well. Is he trying to assess your fitness level or something? :huh: Odd.

    Agreed. I had someone online grill me about hockey one time because hockey fan was in my profile. It was a turn off, it was as if he wanted to make sure I truly liked hockey and didn't just put that to "catch a man" or some nonsense. It aggravated me and insulted me all at the same time. Kind of how I would take someone wanting to assess my fitness level on a date. lol
  • LiftingRiot
    LiftingRiot Posts: 6,946 Member
    If you like the guy and enjoy being active, then definitely do it. Get out of your comfort zone to experience new things.
  • abs1970
    abs1970 Posts: 235 Member
    My second date was a gym date!! Just happened to find a guy who is as obsessed with training and logging MFP as I am!!
  • brettr23
    brettr23 Posts: 115 Member
    Do you like running?
  • Ironandwine69
    Ironandwine69 Posts: 2,432 Member
    Lana_me wrote: »
    Ironandwine69 wrote: »
    I think it's a cute idea. Different.
    But I would still pass.

    You don't like running?

    I hate running. And I wouldn't be able to keep a conversation up when I'm a sweaty mess. Second dates are to get to know the person.
  • brettr23
    brettr23 Posts: 115 Member
    Ironandwine69 wrote: »
    Lana_me wrote: »
    Ironandwine69 wrote: »
    I think it's a cute idea. Different.
    But I would still pass.

    You don't like running?

    I hate running. And I wouldn't be able to keep a conversation up when I'm a sweaty mess. Second dates are to get to know the person.

    I completely agree
  • Ironandwine69
    Ironandwine69 Posts: 2,432 Member
    abitoftrouble wrote: »
    Honestly, if you're not going to feed me on a second date, I don't see us having a future.

    I agree. It almost feels like the guy is trying to get out of a proper date where he dines and wines you before sex.
    Unless he likes sweaty sex
  • liftorgohome
    liftorgohome Posts: 25,455 Member
    I think he just wants to watch your body move!! From front or back sides!
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    My wife and I's second date was going for a run. I'm not really too into running, but I was willing to give it a go. We've been married for going on 12 years and together for 17...we frequently engage in fitness activities as dates, though I never run with her...we usually cycle or go to the rock climbing gym or go for a hike.
  • browneyedgirl749
    browneyedgirl749 Posts: 4,984 Member
    abitoftrouble wrote: »
    Honestly, if you're not going to feed me on a second date, I don't see us having a future.

    Preach!!!
  • mitch16
    mitch16 Posts: 2,113 Member
    Did you talk about running on your first date? Did you meet in a runner's forum? If not, then I would probably suggest something else, especially since you said that you're not much of a runner anymore. You might want to check out athlinks or strava as part of your background check on him...
  • strebor337
    strebor337 Posts: 168 Member
    Did you happen to mention on the first date that you used to be a runner back in the day? I would invite a girl in a running date of she had mentioned that it was something that she had enjoyed at some point. It may just be that he was actually listening to you and he's trying to connect based on something you had said casually.
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    No running dates here.
    I don't think I would go running with someone as a 2nd date unless it was our shared passion. It wouldn't be for me because I am not a runner.
    It obviously doesn't appeal to you as you are coming here asking for input. What would you like to do with this person?
  • WickedPineapple
    WickedPineapple Posts: 698 Member
    Lana_me wrote: »
    WickedPineapple wrote: »
    Are you a runner?

    I was back in high-school. Not any more to be honest.

    That makes this a very odd date request. If you were both currently runners with similar speed (so you could talk while running), this would make more sense. As others have said, suggest going walking, hiking, kayaking, etc.
  • CatchMom11
    CatchMom11 Posts: 462 Member
    I think if it's a public spot, that would be fine. It could be he's simply seeing if you have common interests. I wish I would've asked my husband to go running at some point before marriage. LOL.

    Who am I kidding, running is probably the only thing we don't have in common. He will run for beer and coconut rum, that's about it.
  • 12774
    12774 Posts: 1,416 Member
    Girl., put on your thinking cap!
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    Just be honest with him OP. If you want to do it, sure. If you're not comfortable with that, just offer to go for a walk instead.

    I mean, I can't run without hurting my foot, I can't imagine ever saying yes to a running date. But I'd totally be up for a long walk in a park (or a hike once I'm really comfortable with being alone with my date).
  • ClubSilencio
    ClubSilencio Posts: 2,983 Member
    Third date: She called the cops bro

  • Riffraft1960
    Riffraft1960 Posts: 1,984 Member
    Getting up in the morning and going for a run, is my lady's euphemism for a better morning activity.
  • EHollander89
    EHollander89 Posts: 169 Member
    It sounds like you don't like the idea of going on a run together. If you want to go on another date with this guy, offer another idea and see how he responds.

    For me, it would not have been weird for my boyfriend to make a suggestion like this. We were introduced by a mutual friend at the gym where we both happened to be members, so we have seen each other working out/sweaty from the very beginning of our relationship. I think that was kind of a blessing because he's know what I look like without makeup/sweaty from the beginning. I think it took off some of the pressure to always look put together when you start dating someone new. We enjoy working out together, and we went on plenty of active dates from the get go. He runs at a faster pace than me, so when we go run at the same time we'll run our route in opposite directions so we cross paths.
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