does this make me a jerk? Probably...

I admit I've been guilty of this :embarassed:

My SIL and I are very close and very good friends. She started losing weight before I did (so I was the copy cat here) and we are very close in both weight lost and current size. We're built a little different, but close. She's rockin' fours now and I'm just getting where some fours fit and am mostly wearing size six. When she cleared sixes on her way down, she gave me all of her size eights and 10s. It was way nice of her, since I really didn't want to waste any money buying clothes I wouldn't wear very long. I was jealous, though!

I feel like we are competing a little, and when I got to size six I was elated to let her know. I didn't send her pics or squeeze into them but was excited to tell her about it. She's at her ideal weight now and I've still got about ten pounds to go!

It's been a real motivator to have the little competition, though, seriously and we are really good spirited about it.

The thing that I was trying to say, but some missed is that my sister in law is NOT trying to lose weight--nor has ever had to. I have lost almost 50 lbs and my whole group of family and friends know that I am working hard at changing my life to a healthier one.

My SIL has always been smaller than me and now Im gaining on her! She didnt take the pic to show me her accomplishment of working out and losing weight. She was simply showing me her size 6. Thats the difference!

Now, in all honesty, if she was trying to lose weight, this would have just pushed me more to beat her! (Not that it hasnt already---so maybe it was motivation!) LOL

Sounds like her insecurities are screaming! Maybe it will also inspire her to get fit! Great job on your accomplishments - (almost) 50 pounds is awesome!!

No your are not..
I dont count a size unless i can sit,squat and breath fully in it..
Im with you

take it as motivation and keep up your hard work.
after all, you are doing this for yourself, to be healthy, embrace a new healthy lifestyle.

props to you for your dedication and your hard work. it's an amazing accompilshment.

just because you can "fit" into something doesn't mean you should [justsayin]

exactly!

So my SIL started bragging to me about how she fit into a 6 at Kohls (I was stoked about getting an 8 last week). She sent me a pic of herself in them from the dressing room. They were TIGHT and theres no way she could have worn them with any other shirt than the tunic she had on...you could see the muffin top flowing over them. So---am I a jerk that I say that you can only count a size when you can zip them without holding your breath AND wear any shirt in your closet with them?

or maybe its just a rivalry thing...any opinions? (and I think I am usually a pretty nice person, for the record!!!) :grumble:

I don't think you're a jerk, but I wouldn't have said anything either. If it was me and my friend and we were shopping together, I'd say "Sure, you can wear those, but these (holding up the bigger size) look more flattering." Flattering is the key word. Not "better", not "not as skin tight", just flattering. Everyone wants to wear flattering clothing.

I was in the dressing room a few weeks ago, and I texted my best friend saying "Holy crap, I put on, zipped up AND sat down in a size four. There's no way I'd wear them because I'm NOT a four, but at least I put them on!" and I took the 6 to the register. :laugh:

I agree with everyone - fititng into and fitting are not the same. A 6 or 8 fits me, depending on the store. I can fit into a 4...but we won't be buying any of those for a bit.

No, you are sooo NOT a jerk! Muffin top or jelly belly are not attractive.... and someone did mention infections due to too tight jeans. Sounds gross, but it's another thing your SIL should consider. I don't think anyone mentioned camel toe, but IMO that's WAY worse than muffin top! Ewwwww

I was excited the other day when i put on a pair of size 1's
they fit ok every where but the waist I had a 3" muffin top
Would i say I wear size 1.... Hell no !! still a loose size 6
Only tried them on cause my niece insisted, 2 months ago they
would have never went over my thighs.... so it was a good motivator
for me.

just because you can "fit" into something doesn't mean you should [justsayin]

What she said.