Do people try to tell you your weight goal is "too skinny" for you?
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yea that honestly is none of their business.0
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Oh really? I'm also 5'7, but my end goal is 160. I'm just about 175 now. (started at 245)
My mom is the same height at 140, but she has a body shape that works for her. If I were 140 without muscle, I probably would look "too skinny"0 -
I learned pretty quick after losing a good amount of weight that most people I know have no idea what a healthy weight is. I still have 25 pounds to loose to put me about middle of a healthy weight range. I lie now when people say "You don't need to loose anymore. You don't want to get took skinny". I just act like I'm fine where I am so I don't have to listen to a speech. I've lost 93 pounds, so I think they just aren't used to me being thinner.4
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Yea, people say I will be too thin at my goal weight. It falls at the lower end of my BMI. I couldn't care less what anyone says though, it's my body. 105 for the win!3
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I get it all the time, I actually had to save the height weight chart to the screen of my iPad as everyone is shocked that a 5 foot woman can weigh 115 pounds and not be starving to death. I just think everyone was so used to seeing me obese when I did get to a normal weight after 13 months of MFP and loosing they are sure I'm anorexic.I just roll my eyes!
LOL. I hope I don't have to do that myself! I'm 5'1 and 125 is my original goal, but I'm considering dropping it to 115. My husband is the only one who knows what my goal is, so fortunately all I get is support.1 -
I get told this all the time
5'8 165 is completely normal1 -
JohnDavid1969 wrote: »I get this CONSTANTLY and it drives me up a wall. I was getting comments like this from people when I was 10 lbs heavier than I am NOW.
But here's the thing I've realized:
A lot - a LOT of people who say this are people who have been overweight for so long that they've forgotten what it really means not to be. Just something to keep in mind.
OMG yes!!!! I see it especially with my 3 kids! People are always saying they are too skinny (tall and lean but not underweight). The reality is that so many kids are overweight when people see an average kid they start calling them skinny. Makes me crazy!3 -
bigmuneymfp wrote: »I get told this all the time
5'8 165 is completely normal
It's actually overweight.3 -
I think 140 lbs is goal weight for 5'7". Some people motivate you on your weight loss journey while others are just spectators. Don't share your weight loss goals with spectators. It helps to achieve your goals. You have already lose some weight so you know how to do it. So just concentrate on your goals and aim to achieve it.1
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Nvm0
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heiliskrimsli wrote: »bigmuneymfp wrote: »I get told this all the time
5'8 165 is completely normal
It's actually overweight.
I know lol I'm quite heavy at 169 right now!0 -
The average weight for people from 1960 to 2017 has changed immensely. These are pictures of two people, one from 2017 and one from 1960 which are the average weight and height (5'5") for those years.
The 1960 one is a healthy weight (23.3 BMI). The 2017 one is not (27.6 BMI)
From: conservativepapers.com/news/2015/06/21/the-average-american-woman-now-weighs-as-much-as-the-average-1960s-man/
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Yep. My highest weight was 387 (clearly super morbidly obese or Obese class III). I'm finally just "overweight" now in the 160's and want to lose about another 16* lbs. I generally don't share those goals (or those #'s, outside of MFP). There are people who have only known me to be morbidly or super morbidly obese who now call me "skinny" or tell me I don't need to lose any more weight, but they're wrong. I trust my doctors on this. None of them are pushing me to lose much more but they all feel that my goals are reasonable and feasible. Anyone else can suck it. I think the best way to avoid it is to focus on your health and keep your numbers to yourself and any medical or fitness professionals you consult.
*Even with the 16 more I want to lose I would still be classified as overweight. The deepest end of "normal" would require me to be 138, which I do not feel is realistic or necessary for me to be healthy and strong. Explaining this to buttinskis is futile.4 -
Nobody except my wife knows how much I weigh...it's not really a topic of discussion.2
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I've had people tell me I shouldn't lose any more weight but it has got to be total crap...I mean I'm 5'1" and 154 lbs...come on, LOL. There is no universe in which that could be too thin.
I think sometimes people say that either because they are afraid of you changing, or because they feel guilty for not wanting to get healthy themselves, or perhaps because they have run out of compliments since they've already told you before that you were looking good so they figure this is a creative newer compliment.
"Too thin" these days seems to have taken on new meaning. In the 80s I weighed 95 lbs. and pretty much nobody worried I was too thin. We are getting used to overweight being the new normal. Therefore, being even close to a healthy weight seems "skinny."
I'm 5ft and 157lb. My UGW is 100lb. People are completely baffled when I tell them I need to lose about 60lbs. The don't understand that I weighed 95lb just 9 years ago and I was happy and healthy.3 -
Although I agree that the avg person in america doesn't know what a healthy weight looks like, one of the people who told me I would be "too skinny" is my boyfriend who is very lean and fit (he's under 10% bf) and is actually studying to be a personal trainer. I think he just likes curves and muscle on his women tho lmao. He's actually been doing strength training with me for the past few months and it's made a huge difference but 140 is where i feel I'll look my best. Might even want to go down to 135 or 130 depending how it feels. I'd like to be a size 6 at most but like a comfy size 6 where a non stretchy pair of jeans straight out of the dryer fit easily, ya know what I mean?3
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I only share my goal weight with my therapist and my psychiatrist. But that's because I have anorexia, so they always keep an eye on things with me and how I am feeling about my body image and my weight.3
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This is me at 185
I definitely think I have room to lose another 45 lbs if not 50 lol
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I love my family, but my parents and sister are very overweight / obese, and I haven't shared my goal weight with them - my sister because she probably wouldn't care to hear about that kind of thing anyway, and my parents because I do think they'd say it's too skinny for me. My mother already told me that at 200-240 lbs, I really wasn't that big. She's also said she'd like to.lose some weight, but still be plump because being skinny would look weird on her. I was 200 lbs 7 pounds ago and she said she wished she was still my size. I'm a bit different; I've always wanted to be slim. Though I regret being 193 pounds now, I do not at all wish I was back to being 170 (whenever that was). I will be glad to hit my goal of 160 by December 31st, but then Ill have 30 more lbs to go!2
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Pretty sure it's none of their *kitten* business.0
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