Motivation, Success and Frustration Sharing!

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  • Evamutt
    Evamutt Posts: 2,627 Member
    jdelaroy hang in there, we all have really bad days & even seasons.Pls don't give up because you've had some"bad" days, we must keep moving forward. WE all have those times.AS said above, forgive yourself & keep going. You are precious & of great worth no matter what you look like or feel like in the moment.A long time ago, I heard this teaching about feelings that are still helping me see more clearly & it is that feelings have no intellect & we shouldn't base our decisions on them. They come & go with circumstance, how we slept & how tired we are. I've been feeling down lately myself & I think it's mainly because I've been so emotional because I've been so sleepy & tired, things just really get to me, like one of my grand dtrs will be 4 & starting pre school. They (my youngest son, Michael & his wife, who both work full time)are taking her out of day care so the other grandma who is 10yrs younger than me & has always taken her places will be picking her up from pre school at 11 till mom, whose a teacher gets off work. I will plan to take her one day a week but am feeling pretty down on myself for not liking to take care of small kids & taking her more days. I loved my own little kids but I just don't like taking care of little kids any more. I'm not a doting grandma who loves to play with them & have them over all the time. We raised 4 children & I can finally enjoy doing things I hardly had time for before. Yesterday Michael & family came over along with another son & his son, so the boy in pic is my other grandson, I'm in pink.
  • janetay01
    janetay01 Posts: 1,299 Member
    @melaniedscott - hope you got your walk in!

    Jen - hang in there, as @evamutt says, we all have bad times. You have come so far and done so much and you have clearly lovely kids who think the world of you. So be kind to yourself - but don't give up girl!!! Happy to listen via PM if you need to.

    Rachel - what a great sounding weekend! And well done you on sticking to the goals - it's so good when it just feels easy. I don't get that feeling enough unfortunately but it's better than it used to be. Hope the week is continuing to go well.

    @clicketykeys - I'm with you on the strength training, I need to do more of it - need to start to cut down my inches rather than just worrying about the weight.

    @evamutt - you've raised 4 little kids of your own, you are perfectly entitled to not want to do it again!!

    Not much happening here - working from home and I've got Alistair's 2.5 year development check with the Health Visitor team this afternoon. Not really sure what benefit it is but they check speech development, gross and fine motor skills, measure him and weigh him - just another check box along the way I guess! Happy Tuesday all!
  • Rachel0778
    Rachel0778 Posts: 1,701 Member
    @janetay01 I hope everything goes great at Alistair's check in

    @Evamutt I totally understand the guilty feeling. I'm not a big fan of kids either, never have been. People stare at me like I'm crazy when I say they aren't in my life plan. You're absolutely right that this is the time of your life where you get to focus on you and what makes you happy. You're still spending time with your grandkids and they know that they are loved and that is what is important!

    @clicketykeys I'm jealous of your schedule, that sounds amazing to always have 3 day weekends!

    @jdelaroy I'm sorry you're feeling down. It sounds like you're doing a lot of things right though! Your kids clearly love and appreciate you and you've been rocking this weight loss train. A new scale will help to get things in perspective there. Just know that we are here for you!

    I dove into the chocolate a bit last night. I was feeling morose getting back into my regular routine after the amazing weekend and I ate my feelings. I did limit it to around 300 calories over...but still. I'm hoping derby today knocks me out of it. We've got a bout this weekend, but I'm honestly not that excited since my family can't make it. I will get to see them at my cousin's grad party the next day so that will be nice. My SO and I also have a fundraising dinner at the local winery on Friday that could potentially be a good time. Does anyone else get into a funk when the regular routine hits?
  • PhedraJD
    PhedraJD Posts: 1,392 Member
    @evamutt Thank you for the encouragement. I hadn’t really planned on giving up on everything, just felt like I wondered if it was worth it. I know it is. I felt much better after I did my weigh in last night. Nothing wrong with wanting to enjoy your time without kids. They aren’t yours, and I am sure you are there when they need you to be, and you love them. You look beautiful.

    @janetay01 Thank you! I am not giving up. I am here another day.  I worked way too damn hard to lose those 55 pounds. I only have 30 left to catch up to the BF. He has started calling me ISW. I finally asked him what it meant. “Incredible Shrinking woman.” I also tried picking up our puppy, he weighs about 35 pounds. I could barely do that. Holy smokes, I have lost 20 pounds more than him. How in the heck did I move? Oh weight (pun intended), I didn’t. That checkup sounds wonderful. My oldest had a checkup like that in preschool when she was 4. (Wish I could have done it sooner.) I was lucky, it isn’t something most kids get to do, unless their parents specifically seek it out, it was offered as a service at her school. They were able to diagnose her with hearing/speech and language development issues, and short term memory problems (as in she doesn’t really have any.) Thanks to this test. I was able to get her help with her language and hearing problems immediately, and get her set up on a specialized education plan before she even started regular school. Most kids it takes 3-4 years to be diagnosed with these kinds of issues, unless they have physical ones to go along with them. (Mine didn’t.)

    Well this weekend I was bad, I didn't do anything resembling healthy. My weight shows it. I am up 3 pounds. Eek! I hope it is water weight, but I don't think so. Blah, back on track.
    I finished the gym competition yesterday and had final weigh in. Overall I did pretty darn snazzy. I lost 9 pounds, 3.1% of my body fat and gained a half pound of muscle. I am impressed with myself. They won't announce the winner until Wednesday night at closing ceremonies. It is kind of cracking me up, there are a few people complaining that they can't make it to the closing ceremonies. (You have to be present to win.) It was clearly announced at the opening ceremonies, all over the rules, and you had to sign a paper saying that you had to be at closing ceremonies to win. Silly people, how did you miss this?

    I gave myself the weekend to be crappy, today I am back on the wagon. I lowered my weight loss from 1.5 pounds back to 1 pound a week. I think this will relieve some of the fatigue. I did manage to stick with my squat challenge every day though. (This is my unbreakable goal for the Hogwarts challenge.)
  • HGSmith0920
    HGSmith0920 Posts: 1,123 Member
    It has been a crazy weekend! Between messing up my teller drawer at work and then a super busy mother's day, I've been kind of indulging while still trying really hard to eat healthy.

    My DH and I took my parents for a dinner at a really nice Italian place and tried really hard to eat well. I had a spaghetti dish topped with olive oil, shrimp, myself and cherry tomatoes. It was bodacious! And didn't have a really heavy sauce or anything. So that wad nice. Lol I didn't even try to record that though. I would have no idea. Lol

    We also visited my MIL in the hospital and she was actually lucid. More than she has been in weeks. Wet had a really nice visit and a really good conversation. We surprised her too. She didn't know we were coming. So that was really nice. Haven't been doing any kind of exercise the last like four days. At least, not over the weekend. It's been pretty rainy over the weekend and I got home late last night so I couldn't do it then. So I'm gonna try and go for a walk today. I get out pretty early today. Gonna make some lasagna in my crockpot. It's one of DH favorite meals. So I like to treat him every once in a while. Lol

    So here's to brighter days and much much more weight loss!
  • bluepoppies777
    bluepoppies777 Posts: 438 Member
    Hello lovely ladies! It's Tuesday... and it's pouring rain AGAIN. We've had some crazy flooding here, and there is most likely more to come with all this rain. I live on higher ground, so no flooding worries for us thankfully. Hubs and I went on a bike ride while our younger son was in tennis lessons yesterday (rain subsided for a few hours!), and the creeks in the area are scary high! yikes!

    Eva - you look fabulous in that picture! and your family is beautiful too. Keep resting and hopefully you will feel back to 100% soon. I don't think you should feel guilty about not babysitting the grandchildren every day. I know as moms we want to do everything we can for our kids, to make their lives easier and to help them. But they have to go through struggles in life just like we did. I've talked to my hubs about this topic quite a bit lately, since our older son just turned 22 and lots of his friends are getting married etc. We said we aren't going to be childcare for our grandkids, we want to do things for ourselves once the kids are moved out and grown up. Heck, I didn't even want to be a stay at home mom with my own kids, why would I want to do that with my grandkids?! :) My parents take our younger son (9 yo) every monday after school for a few hours, and that has given them a really close relationship. We pay for childcare every other day after school. Your kids probably don't even expect that you would do that anyway, so just enjoy the times that you have with the little ones! and offer to babysit on a friday night every once in a while, that would surely be appreciated!

    Clickety Keys - my hubs birthday was May 11 too! We went to a fab french restaurant and had a very nice expensive dinner. Hope you enjoyed yours too!

    HG Smith - ok, let's talk will power....I have none! :D That is a big struggle in my life, and of course I love sugar too, and find it very hard to say no to things. I'm working on it, and will be for my whole life I'm sure! I like Rachel's policy of one treat a day. I think if we allow ourselves to have that, and log it, we are golden!

    Jane - ok, now let's talk about stress eating... I am totally a stress eater!! LOL! Obviously I have lots of issues! HA!! Lucky that you don't eat when stressed! But honestly, if I think about it, I am en emotional eater -I eat when I'm stressed, happy, sad, excited... you name it. I guess I just love food! trying to still work on that too. Food is fuel!

    Rachel - I almost laughed out loud when you asked if anyone gets into a funk with regular routines? HELLO, that is the story of my life right now! I think I'm SO sick of this crappy weather, and really have been feeling like I'm in that movie Groundhog Day. Every dang day is the same!!! LOL.

    At least this weekend is a long weekend, and last week I worked overtime enough to take Friday off, so I have a four day weekend! WOOP! I think that should help with the funk! I definitely was in a slump the last while (again... may be the weather or ?). But yesterday, my coworkers and I started up and are helping each other. I am logging and eating healthy, and am focusing on positivity! Hope everyone has a great day. I've got my spin class after work today, so that will kick my butt!
  • HGSmith0920
    HGSmith0920 Posts: 1,123 Member
    Holy Crow! Work today was terrible! I was the only one in the bank that had a cash drawer because the only other person with a drawer in the whole bank was in a 4hr long meeting in the basement with like twenty other people and all the big muck-e-mucks in the bank. So I couldnt even ask him to help me. We were relatively dead most of the day, except for three times when there were lines and complicated transactions and a million people talking to me and at me and around me and just really really distracting me, so it's kind of no wonder that I screwed up two transactions. Everything worked out in the end, but I could see the frustration and annoyance in my managers face while we were trying to figure out what I did. I ended up being a penny short when I balanced my till but if that's all that has a discrepancy than I'm kind of happy...even though I seriously wanted to cry after it all happened. I ended up really wanting a cigarette, even though I knew it wouldnt help and would probably make me really sick, but I wanted the break it would give me. The few minutes outside, by myself, to get my head together...but I couldnt and didnt. Of which I am very proud! Nothing can make me smoke again. Nothing. Quitting smoking was the hardest thing I've ever done and there is no way I am going back through that so I may as well just say no. Lol

    But I am home now. There is healthy lasagna in my crockpot and a new light beer I want to try in the fridge. I am off tomorrow and dont have to be in until the end of the morning on Thursday. So I'm gonna use this time off to do some things around the house(laundry/dishes/cleaning etc).

    I did go on a 25 minute bike ride around the neighborhood today though. That was nice. It's really nice out now. It was unseasonably cold for the beginning of May but I think winter is officially over! Woohoo!
  • Evamutt
    Evamutt Posts: 2,627 Member
    I'm still super sleepy. My nose has been stuffy & ears plugged so maybe it's my sinuses? Hope I'm not getting sick. Today was the first day since last June when I overate & not planned it. I over ate a few times but I planned it & logged it. My sis in law came by to visit & I wanted her to try some of the chocolate covered potato chips with pink salt I got for mothers day, well I had a few then a few more. Then I refried some beans with pork for dinner without weighing it & had more chocolate. I hope I'm not getting sick but it would explain everything.I wish life were easier. I'm glad everyone is hanging in there. Things are always changing
  • Evamutt
    Evamutt Posts: 2,627 Member
    glad to hear you like your new job. I remember when I got a new job I really wanted & how elated I was
  • Rachel0778
    Rachel0778 Posts: 1,701 Member
    @gemwolf110 So glad to see you! I'm glad the job is a great fit and you're able to work regular hours, it's amazing what a difference that makes! Keep us posted on how the transition is going.

    @Evamutt We all have days like that so please don't feel too down on yourself. Not having an unplanned day since last July is an incredible accomplishment! Plus chocolate covered potato chips sound worth it!

    @HGSmith0920 That sounds like a horribly stressful day. Shame on them for putting you in that position, only having 2 small errors that were sorted out is a big accomplishment. Way to go on not caving in to smoking or overeating! Enjoying your healthy dinner and going out for a bike ride are both great ways to refresh instead!

    @bluepoppies777 Did you send the rain my way??? It's pouring today! Great job focusing on positivity, I bet the 4 day weekend will be a great refresh. I've got to remember that I've got a long weekend coming up and I'm looking forward to the break!

    @jdelaroy Keep us posted on how you do in the competition awards tonight, 9lbs is a great accomplishment! I bet most of that 3lb gain is definitely water and you'll see a quick drop now that you're back on the wagon.

    Derby did help to cheer me up last night even though I spent most on the night on the ground (I seriously can't stop falling down). I made sure to sign up for a pole dancing class to keep the fun rolling. I did a quick weigh in today to see where I am and I lost .7lbs, which I will take considering I had a 4 day conference of all buffets since the last time I weighed!

    It's rainy and dreary today, but that makes it easier to be in the office then when it's gorgeous out. Hopefully the weather turns around by Friday so we can enjoy the outdoor areas of the winery (and I don't have to be trapped inside doing small talk the entire time). Today is going to be a busy day at work, I hope you all have wonderful Wednesdays as well!
  • HGSmith0920
    HGSmith0920 Posts: 1,123 Member
    Well sad news today. I got on the scale this morning and realized I gained 3lbs. Very sad indeed, but definitely my fault. I wasnt eating all the well and I barely did any exercising the last few days beside the occasional 20min bike ride. So here's to a better week! *raises glass of water in the air* To eating healthier, finding yummy yummy snacks that are going to kill my calorie deficit and spending more time walking and at the gym. I have to manage to go to the gym or take a walk in the mornings on the days that I have to work later in the evening. Or just do my walking after work. I pass a gym that I am a member of on my way home from work, so I think I'm going to start bringing work out clothes with me and just stopping there, even if it's just for a a little while to get some exercisin in. Anything I can do will help in the long run!
  • PhedraJD
    PhedraJD Posts: 1,392 Member
    Just a quick stop to say hello and vent. I asked my boss last Friday if I could get off 2 hours early this coming Friday for my niece's graduation. I still haven't heard. Plus they are giving me all the projects to do, and I have been working very hard for the last few weeks to get them done. My boss is putting me back on regular hours. (Boo, I was working early and loved it.) And is talking about making me continue it through the school next year. I went to the early shift so I didn't have to pay for daycare. If they keep me on the normal shift, I will have to pay for daycare once school is back in. This will take anywhere from half to all of my check. In which case, it isn't worth working. I will end up quitting and trying to find a part time job closer to my house. This isn't necessarily a bad thing. Just not something I want to have to do.

    Super excited tonight I find out how I did in the competition, and my big sister is coming into town.

    Okay back to work, hopefully get something else done.
  • janetay01
    janetay01 Posts: 1,299 Member
    Jen - boo! That's lousy. Hopefully it won't come to you havning to move but if it does these things often open up new oportunities - a little bit of a cliche but it is often true. Hope the competition results went well for you last night! You are very right about the development checks - we are lucky to have them and I do get a little too cynical about such things. But they are invaluable for picking stuff up early.

    @HGSmith0920 - may well be water weight, you would have to eat vast quantities to truly gain 3lbs. But yes, heres to a better week - I've not done badly this week but I'm certainly not as on track as I would want to be.

    Rachel - congrats on the loss. And glad derby cheered you up - I am in admiration of anyone who can stay upright for any length of time on a pair of skates!!

    @gemwolf110 - good to hear from you, delighted that the new job is going well for you.

    Last day of work before a week and a bit off and we go away for the weekend tomorrow - woohoo! On the down side, so much packing and sorting to do. I asked Alistair what toys he wanted to take with him so we shall see how he does in terms of choosing stuff rather than just taking everything! He had his development check on Tuesday and is fine - on track for his age. The nursery were putting suncream on all the kids so that they could go out in the garden and he became very insistent that the health visitor had to wear some as well - reached up and started rubbing the cream onto her face!!!

    Anyway, must do some work. Won't be around much till early next week - hope the rest of the week and the weekend treats everyone well :)
  • PhedraJD
    PhedraJD Posts: 1,392 Member
    It was nice to hear from everyone. Sorry another quick post and then back to work. They dropped 3-4 projects they want done this week. My boss agreed to let me go home 2 hours early on Friday, but I have to work on Saturday so I don't get behind. I have already been working through my lunches to make up for the lost time. Grrr I am behind because they keep giving me projects to work on that need to be done now.

    I didn't win the competition. Didn't really think I would, but very disappointed I wasn't even in the top part. The winner lost 26.6 pounds and 10% of their body fat. I didn't even know it was possible to do that. (He wasn't even a very big guy.) Sigh oh well.

    The rest of the week rain/and snow!

    Have a good day everyone.
  • Rachel0778
    Rachel0778 Posts: 1,701 Member
    @jdelaroy It's amazing how quick some men can drop pounds. Sorry to hear work is insane, I hate that you have to go in this weekend just so that you can take a few hours for your niece's graduation :(

    @janetay01 Enjoy the long weekend! I'm glad Alistair is on track and keeping everyone around him safe from skin cancer :)

    @HGSmith0920 Great job owning up to the gain and setting up a plan for success! It's nice that your gym is on the way home

    We had a tornado warning yesterday so I got stuck in the basement of my office for an extra half hour after work. To top it off my pole class got cancelled. Instead of doing a workout at home I sat on my butt and read my book all night out of sheer laziness. I was also extra hungry for no reason, so I ate an extra banana and protein bar. I decided not to be upset with myself since I chose healthy options and didn't let it spiral out of control, but it's still frustrating that I'm not doing a good job of meeting my calorie goals for this week. I'm committed to getting back on track today and not letting one day over turn into two. I'm almost wondering with my attitude and hunger levels if TOM isn't around the corner? After years of not having it I'm still getting used to the symptoms and warning signs again!
  • HGSmith0920
    HGSmith0920 Posts: 1,123 Member
    So I just wrote a really long post and then hit the back button on my phone and lost it all! So aggravating! so let's try this again!

    @janetay01 I'm so glad your son is doing well and on track! That must be a relief! I hope you have fun this weekend and a great time on the rest of your time off!

    @jdelaroy I'm so sorry you didn't win the competition but don't let that disappointment or the stresses of the job to derail you're progress! You're doing so well and should be incredibly proud of yourself!

    @Rachel0778 I went on a reading binge yesterday too! Finished a some beach read in an evening. Lol. Stayed up until 130am though! Way past my bedtime! Although I started the book while I was at the gym I the treadmill. I've found that I can really push myself by speed walking on a high incline for a half an hour to forty five minutes and work up a really good sweat.

    So yesterday I went to the gym in the evening and got my laundry done. Ate decent good but didn't log more than half of what I sure or did at the gym! :s Got totally caught up in a book. The DH closed his store last night so I was home by myself until late at night. So I spent most of the evening laying in bed and reading. With the air on since it was almost 90F! Last week we were wearing heavy coats, now we're all sweating to death!

    But today is a new day! I don't know if I'll hit the gym today, I think I might. At least just for a little while. Hit the treadmill again! Might even get the DH to come with me. He's got don't health issues but he can definitely ride a bike! So we'll see.

    Hope everyone has a great day!
  • bluepoppies777
    bluepoppies777 Posts: 438 Member
    Gem - So glad that your new position is working out so well. It took ages for you to get in there and work, but now that you are there, it sounds perfect. yay! Also, is that a new pic of you cycling? SO AWESOME! I love biking! If the weather would smarten up for more than a day, I would be biking way more by now!

    Rachel - good for you for choosing a health snack! That's a big NSV! I was just saying to my coworkers that I am feeling like eating the whole world right now! Gaaaahhh! But I am not going to! Weighing in tomorrow and want to see results after 5 days of being back on track!

    Jen - sorry you didn't win that competition! That is too bad, but you did great! And it was fun and kept you going. Probably got people talking about healthy stuff and exercise at your work, so overall a bit of a win! It totally bites that guys can lose so fast. remember a while ago I said my family was doing a challenge, whoever loses the most by August wins? My hubs started cycling and in 2 weeks dropped 7-8 lbs. >:) I just look at food and I gain! It takes so much discipline for me!

    HG Smith - I know, this weather is getting ridiculous! raining, raining, raining, and flooding. and today sunshine! But could have showers in the afternoon again... just up and down and backwards! Don't worry about the 3 lbs, just drink lots of water and flush out the sodium and watch your portions for the next few days and I'm sure it will drop right off.

    Jane - have a fab time on your getaway! and enjoy your time off. I'm sure alistair will pack way too many toys (my kids always did), and he'll probably throw the sunscreen in the bag too! LOL Isn't he adorable.

    Welp, the struggle is real today. Feeling like eating eating eating! I don't know if it is boredom or what?! Or excitement for a long weekend?! In any case, I've been drinking water and didn't buy any extra food. I'm just going to stick it out until dinner. I really hope the scale goes down a few lbs tomorrow when I weigh in. I was getting out of control there!! I need some extra motivation to keep going! Have a good day everyone! And have a good weekend if I don't log in tomorrow!
  • bluepoppies777
    bluepoppies777 Posts: 438 Member
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  • HGSmith0920
    HGSmith0920 Posts: 1,123 Member
    @bluepoppies777 That's stinky about your weather! I love being able to walk around my neighborhood and the end always is either a yummy cup of coffee on the cold days and a cool fruit bar on the hot days. But wet days arent cool! I hate not being able to go outside when it rains! Even in this oppressive heat we've had the last few days, I managed to spend about an hour outside yesterday. Worked on next months budget and had a nice cold beer, though I did get eaten alive by mosquitos. I live in the middle of a forest right next to a swap so the bugs can be really bad.

    Well the husband didnt go to the gym...but neither did I. I realized I didnt do any of my meal planning for this weekend and into next week, like I normally do. And since Friday night's are my food shopping days, I need to spend the night doing that! Lol. Just had egg salad and spinach on whole wheat wraps for dinner. Something nice and cold on a really hot night. I live in a tiny house but the window unit AC we have only really keeps on room cool, so I think I'm gonna buy another small one in the next few weeks. I spend most of my leisure hours in the bedroom doing random bills/lists/budgets and the DH spend most of his time in the main room, either playing video games or watching sports. The AC unit is in the bedroom so I stay nice and cool while the DH sweats. Lol. So I think I might surprise him!

    But now I am off to planning. So have a great night everyone!
  • Evamutt
    Evamutt Posts: 2,627 Member
    I wish I could share with what everyone posts, I do read them all, my memory is so bad, I get the names mixed up & have to go back & look, lol. I too love being outside in the nice weather. The hot weather here is around the corner 100+ and during some of the summer it hardly cools down during the night. We have window AC's as well & a small house. We don't have one in the kitchen so it's too hot to be in there for any length of time during those hot days. I am starting to feel better today. I was in such a deep pit since May 7, I think maybe that's why I've been so groggy. My dtr sent me this text this morning:"I pray you feel uplifted and loved and enough today" that made such a difference!! I really helped me to start recovering. She is such a woderful dtr. More than I could ask for. She is very pregnant & due June 17.(she has 2 kids, boy & girl 7&9 & she's had many miscarriages after them) She's been sick with one thing after another throughout. She's had a bladder infection for a while now, she's had bruised ribs too. She lives 3 hrs away. They moved 2 summers ago. When she lived here, we saw each other several times a week. She comes to visit us at least 1 a month. I got hit by a car about 15yrs ago. I was riding my bike to work & a car hit me from a side street & I flew off my bike. Every since then I've been too afraid to drive on the freeway & in general really hate to travel. I'm "ok" with my dtr, son or hubby driving me on freeway but it's still hard. I also hate going anywhere over night. We have 6 dogs I love & care for & I don't want to leave them, they don't know when I'm coming back . Times I did go, hubby was home with them but they didn't eat. It's just stressful so I've only visited her 2 times. I know it's awful of me, but I have such a phobia about leaving. She really doesn't mind driving & her whole family (except oldest brother lives in Texas) lives here & her close friends. She doesn't really have any support where she's at. I made a nice dinner tonight, swai fish fillets, broiled with asian style veggies. That fish is SO good & inexpensive. I'm making a kind of chicken dish with bunch of veggies in crock pot over night so don't have to think about dinner tomorrow. I hope you all have a good evening & can relax after a long day. I do appreciate this group.