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EarthyEm wrote: »

I started keto, and watching my weight. Now I'm on a tight budget, and only have pasta in the house , so I went ahead and ate all the ice cream. Anyone else want to commiserate at how *kitten* fat we are?!?

Sounds like you have an issue with all or nothing thinking. So do I, and letting go of that was really important for my success (lost most of my weight in 2014), and yet still is something I struggle with sometimes.

Logging, even if one is not perfect, is important, and calories are important (even on keto), so eating pasta might not have been on your plan (I'm low carbing too, and have had to deal with a few imperfect meals from time to time), but it's really no big deal to be a little off plan, occasionally. What becomes a bigger deal is your head saying "well, screwed up and have to start over anyway, might as well make it count!" Isn't that it? I think what helps with this is seeing a difference between gradients of being imperfect, which probably starts with not having unreasonable expectations of perfection to start with -- that one is perfectly ON or one is 100% OFF.

One thing that helped me was reframing screw ups as not "being off" but as things that happen during a diet (or new lifestyle or whatever) and can be learned from so as to make them less likely in the future. So ideally I would have eaten the pasta (if nothing else was available), but noticed that total carbs were still not crazy, total calories were good, and most important, figured out how it happened I had nothing else available and planned how to prevent that in the future. (Early on in 2014 I got stuck at work for dinner for a couple of weeks and the first night I ate what was available -- not useful -- and then I figured out I could buy things and bring them to work that weren't as good as if I'd planned and premade meals, but were perfectly adequate -- I saw where I'd made things harder and came up with a solution going forward. In the old days I would have said "blew it might as well start again when this stressful period is over.")

I hope that helps, but if it's more venting and commiseration you want, I still really do struggle with the all or nothing thinking even though I know it's illogical, and even though I've largely lost the weight. It's annoying and something I'm continuing to work on!