I'm a piece of crap

That attitude is not going to be conducive to success. You are not a piece of crap.

I'm here! And also a failure at weight loss. If you're heavy then you've most likely already heard most of this before but there's value in learning to see your beauty no matter what the number is on the scale. You could be pretty? You already are!

That said, I wish you all the best of luck with your weight loss! I'm struggling with it as well. I don't socialize that much but I'm active in church so I do spend time with people other than my family. My biggest issue is that I would like to get healthier for my family. I have 3 children that need a better example of how to be healthy.

I hope you find the support you're looking for!

Loving yourself is the first step @ninka_polish and negative self talk is NOT loving. Trust me I know. You don't become a failure at anything until you stop working toward your goal. You're here so you can let go of that bit of negativity. Just this past weekend I went to visit my parents and my not so slender father had the audacity to call me chubby, as if I didn't already know I've put on some extra pounds. I hugged him, told him I loved him, and that I was working on it. Because I am working on it. And so are you. The only opinion that truly matters is yours, so shake it off and let's get busy. I'm here if you want to talk.

ninka_polish wrote: »

Hi Everyone, I thought I'd try this because frankly I'm a failure at weight loss. I stopped visiting my family because I don't want them to see me fat and say "Jesus what have you done to yourself!" And limited my socialising to closest friends. I could be pretty but I sabotaged myself into fat cage I'm in. I'd love to find a friend I could virtually work out with. I'm fit for a fattie. If there's anyone there:( literally anyone..say hi here or on line app ID: ninkamd

Hi @ninka_polish. I Googled your MFP handle because sometimes people come in here to bait people with fake stories but I think I found your blog. It seems you base your identity on being fat. Maybe I'm wrong but doing that might just be reinforcing your bad habits because you've made it part of who you are. I'm no expert at this as I struggle with weight fluctuation and sometimes call myself "fat". But we have to remember that fat is not who we are.

Please don't attach your value as a human being to your weight. Being out of shape is what happens when you don't exercise, it is not a result of being a bad person. While it takes willpower to accomplish and prioritize anything (learning a language, volunteering to raise money for charity, reducing clutter, visiting all the state capitals, and yes, becoming fit, or losing weight) you wouldn't have such self-contempt if you failed to meet any other goal. Focus on what you are doing to make your life better, on what you'd like to do. Think about how to make yourself feel powerful. Stop viewing your weight as the visible proof of your failure to be a good person. And stop avoiding those who can support you (although feel free to avoid those who will rip you down), and don't be afraid to ask them for their support. Start battling your own negative thoughts (because supporting yourself is the first thing you should do - nobody gets to rip you down, including you). You were awesome before you gained weight, you are awesome now, and you will continue to be awesome, regardless of your size.