I'm a piece of crap

A great piece of advice I was taught early on is to identify and remove negative people from your life as much as possible. If that negative person is family you may not be able to remove them, but you can limit your time with them.

Unfortunately there are some people who do not want you to get better and see any sort of improvement as a threat. There is no reasoning, no rationale that they will ever accept. With every negative comment use this as reinforcement that you are doing something right and move on.

Stop saying you don't like yourself - this is false. You love yourself enough to improve behavior that you don't like. You are not your behavior. You can change behavior.

I just want to add my two cents. I have never really felt like crap, but some days I beat myself up for allowing myself to get the the weight that I was before I started losing weight. I honestly do not like to look at my body. Although I have lost a lot of weight I still have parts of my body that I know I jacked up by gaining so much weight.
Then I stop myself and acknowledge myself for taking the initiative to lose weight.
I also remind myself that I cannot expect anybody else to love my body if I do not love it. I think very few people have a perfect body and even the people that we make think have a perfect body probably do not like something about themselves.
We all are beautiful, no matter what the scale says or what our brains or society tells us about our appearance. Loving yourself is the greatest love of all.

I have felt the same way! This year I made a decision and it was to stop all of the crazy diets and just be kind to myself! The only thing I do now is to HONESTLY track every thing I eat and drink EVERY day good or BAD and try to make healthy choices for me. That is it. Just be kind to your self.

Kindness works and so does tracking what you eat I have lost weight and am feeling better about my self. It has not been easy but just remember you are not your weight.

I've been where you are (and I'm still there some days). Part of the struggle is beating yourself up for being fat, then feeling so bad that you turn to food to comfort yourself. It becomes a cycle. For me, I was only really able to begin to succeed when I allowed myself to make mistakes. One bad day was just one bad day--not some horrible crime that made me want to soothe my shameful feelings with a pint of ice cream.

You can start today by making small changes and then slowly begin to trust yourself to make more changes. And you'll fall down sometimes. Hell, right now I would break someone's arm for a square of dark chocolate because I am feeling really upset about some work drama. But I know that the food will only make me feel better for a fleeting moment, so I won't eat the candy. (But did I mention that I want to?)

You're NOT a piece of crap. You're human being--one who has, every day, the option to make a fresh start. You can do it!

"I'm a failure at weight loss."
Lots of people fail. Losing weight is not easy, changing your habits is not easy. You try, you fail, but you try to understand your mistakes and you keep going.

"I stopped visiting my family because I don't want them to see me fat and say "Jesus what have you done to yourself!""
Your family is your family. You're not reduced to your weight. They might worry about you, wonder if you're unhealthy, but it's because they care about you. If you call yourself a piece of crap, don't you think they're right to worry ?
They also care and love you for who you are, which is more than your weight.

"And limited my socialising to closest friends. I could be pretty but I sabotaged myself into fat cage I'm in."
You are the one who closed the gate, you have the keys. You're working against your own interests. Who should be working to improve your well being ? Who should be doing all they can to free you from this cage ? It's you. Your actions, your decisions.

Everyone feels like a piece of crap sometimes. But you have to realize that you have to do everything you can to improve your situation, to go wherever you want to go. You tried, you failed, now try to understand how and why you fail, and fight.

Let some people call you "piece of crap". Everyone is the piece of crap of someone. But be the best you you want to be.

well you started that all wrong. do you want it? go get it... I will and can help you

They are probably more worried that they haven't seen you for so long. Reach out to them and just be honest. You will feel so much better once you do. Because right now, you have been carrying this around with you for far too long and it has become a heavy burden. Whether you want to realize it or not, they are sharing that burden with you, they just don't know why. Tell them how you feel.

from a mother (i have 4 kids) your parents love you regardless of your size, (or anything else for that matter) its in their DNA they simply can't help it ... If I thought my daughter wouldn't come and see me because she was overweight I would be devastated!

Every failure is just one step closer to your goal.
Our mind is the most powerful organ in our body. Once we can control the negativity we can work on us. Social media have so much to answer for in what we should lokk like. Act like. Wear. Eat and act.
No wonder we struggle with weight and self esteem issues.
You are beautiful. Unique and you've got this love.
Keep going.

Maybe you should seriously consider working with a therapist for a while. Hating your body (and youself) so much, that you are ashamed of even letting your parents see (unless of course they've given you good reason to be wary) is so bad for your general wellbeing. You will never learn to partner with your body, if you hate it that much.

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I take it someone dropped in a link to something unnecessary and asinine. Always someone trying to sell you the miracle answer to everything. :laugh: