Does "I love you:love you" and "love ya" have separate meanings to you?

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  • Just_J_Now
    Just_J_Now Posts: 9,551 Member
    trytpbme1 wrote: »
    But the other day he just said "love ya" should I be worried? We were on break and I sat in the other break room and during the last minutes of break I texted him "ttyl" and he texted back "ttyl love ya" . I'm so used to him saying those three words out
    he has always texted me or said "I love you" straight out and I know "love ya" is uauallly casual and it kind of has been on my mind since he texted me it

    Just out of curiosity, how old are you?
  • FireTurtle75
    FireTurtle75 Posts: 2,014 Member
    edited June 2017
    JeepHair77 wrote: »
    I saw an article yesterday about how people were getting very het up over the use of periods in text messages. If you end a text with a period, it apparently suggests to your recipient that you're angry or giving them the cold shoulder.


    I would just assume that the person with whom I am conversing hasn't let their grammatical knowledge completely go to *kitten* like much of the world.

    I received this particular message a few days ago from a number that I'm unfamiliar with, "Dudz wat U Bez doin yo". I'm still trying to decipher it. I have come to the conclusion that the unknown person that I receive it from, must have been in the middle of a seizure when they sent it to me.
  • finny11122
    finny11122 Posts: 8,436 Member
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-8hbUqhKM38
    He just had a Kojak moment . Keep your knickers on :D
  • trytpbme1
    trytpbme1 Posts: 107 Member
    competecompetecompete wrote: »
    I think your relationship is over. Move on


    Really? :'(
  • trytpbme1
    trytpbme1 Posts: 107 Member
    finny11122 wrote: »
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-8hbUqhKM38
    He just had a Kojak moment . Keep your knickers on :D


    What do you mean
  • trytpbme1
    trytpbme1 Posts: 107 Member
    cyranda63 wrote: »
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    It's pretty obvious just from that single response he has a side piece. More than likely was with her when he sent that. Probably played it off by saying, "Dont worry Tiffany, that's just my sister I'm texting."

    Thank goodness he didn't just say ttyl, you KNOW what that means!

    Stop stressing girl...

    Okay I'm not trying to
  • paperpudding
    paperpudding Posts: 9,282 Member
    If someone sent me that message, I would be worried.

    But that's because I am old and I don't know what ttyl stands for :o
  • trytpbme1
    trytpbme1 Posts: 107 Member
    edited June 2017
    paperpudding wrote: »
    If someone sent me that message, I would be worried.

    But that's because I am old and I don't know what ttyl stands for :o


    It stands for talk to you later
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  • 43501
    43501 Posts: 85 Member
    trytpbme1 wrote: »
    But the other day he just said "love ya" should I be worried? We were on break and I sat in the other break room and during the last minutes of break I texted him "ttyl" and he texted back "ttyl love ya" . I'm so used to him saying those three words out
    he has always texted me or said "I love you" straight out and I know "love ya" is uauallly casual and it kind of has been on my mind since he texted me it

    Well, that's because it is more casual than "I love you". It just means that he's comfortable enough in the relationship to start using looser/slangier terms of affection, not that he's trying to distance himself (necessarily).

    Though if I'm gonna be honest, if you're really wringing your hands over the I love you/love ya distinction in the first place, you're already super insecure about your relationship and it won't last. o/
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  • laurenebargar
    laurenebargar Posts: 3,081 Member
    Also OP in my experience, if a guy is going to break up with you or is distancing himself, he isnt going to say love ya or I love you, he would have just said "okay ttyl"
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    No
  • trytpbme1
    trytpbme1 Posts: 107 Member
    laurenebargar wrote: »
    Also OP in my experience, if a guy is going to break up with you or is distancing himself, he isnt going to say love ya or I love you, he would have just said "okay ttyl"


    Thank you I'm overthinking as usual!
  • trytpbme1
    trytpbme1 Posts: 107 Member
    43501 wrote: »
    trytpbme1 wrote: »
    But the other day he just said "love ya" should I be worried? We were on break and I sat in the other break room and during the last minutes of break I texted him "ttyl" and he texted back "ttyl love ya" . I'm so used to him saying those three words out
    he has always texted me or said "I love you" straight out and I know "love ya" is uauallly casual and it kind of has been on my mind since he texted me it

    Well, that's because it is more casual than "I love you". It just means that he's comfortable enough in the relationship to start using looser/slangier terms of affection, not that he's trying to distance himself (necessarily).

    Though if I'm gonna be honest, if you're really wringing your hands over the I love you/love ya distinction in the first place, you're already super insecure about your relationship and it won't last. o/

    Thanks for answering I'm overthinking
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    is "Liar!" an appropriate response to: I love You?




    ..... I'm asking for a friend.
  • trytpbme1
    trytpbme1 Posts: 107 Member
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    is "Liar!" an appropriate response to: I love You?




    ..... I'm asking for a friend.

    No lol
  • MelissaThe1st
    MelissaThe1st Posts: 246 Member
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    is "Liar!" an appropriate response to: I love You?




    ..... I'm asking for a friend.

    tumblr_ol8829t5TQ1w453xyo1_500.gif

    means you are going to Harvard. Congrats!
  • notelling123
    notelling123 Posts: 14 Member
    Stop focusing on what people SAY in relationships and focus on what they DO. Anyone that's providing analysis of 2-3 words for people they don't know is speculating at the highest degree.

    Here's the best relationship advice you will ever receive.

    1. Buy a dishwasher
    2. Realize that the best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour (what he or she has done in the past is highly probable to repeat itself)
    3. Judge people on their actions, not their words.
  • trytpbme1
    trytpbme1 Posts: 107 Member
    notelling123 wrote: »
    Stop focusing on what people SAY in relationships and focus on what they DO. Anyone that's providing analysis of 2-3 words for people they don't know is speculating at the highest degree.

    Here's the best relationship advice you will ever receive.

    1. Buy a dishwasher
    2. Realize that the best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour (what he or she has done in the past is highly probable to repeat itself)
    3. Judge people on their actions, not their words.

    Thankyou
  • RastaLousGirl
    RastaLousGirl Posts: 2,119 Member
    I believe he is just getting comfortable in the relationship. He might not have wanted to spell it all out in the text.
  • trytpbme1
    trytpbme1 Posts: 107 Member
    ToniLeeAnn82 wrote: »
    I believe he is just getting comfortable in the relationship. He might not have wanted to spell it all out in the text.

    Thankyou
  • KelGen02
    KelGen02 Posts: 668 Member
    Insecurity KILLS a relationship. Has he every given you a reason to not trust him or his feelings? If no, then what are you worried about? If he has, why are you still with him in the first place. Insecurity is not healthy and a turn off. Instead of sitting around worrying, why not just have a conversation with him about how you are feeling? Communication is a lost art in society these days...
  • trytpbme1
    trytpbme1 Posts: 107 Member
    KelGen02 wrote: »
    Insecurity KILLS a relationship. Has he every given you a reason to not trust him or his feelings? If no, then what are you worried about? If he has, why are you still with him in the first place. Insecurity is not healthy and a turn off. Instead of sitting around worrying, why not just have a conversation with him about how you are feeling? Communication is a lost art in society these days...

    I guess because I feel like I'm overreacting , I just don't want him to lose his feelings lol
  • angelxsss
    angelxsss Posts: 2,402 Member
    trytpbme1 wrote: »
    KelGen02 wrote: »
    Insecurity KILLS a relationship. Has he every given you a reason to not trust him or his feelings? If no, then what are you worried about? If he has, why are you still with him in the first place. Insecurity is not healthy and a turn off. Instead of sitting around worrying, why not just have a conversation with him about how you are feeling? Communication is a lost art in society these days...

    I guess because I feel like I'm overreacting , I just don't want him to lose his feelings lol

    I'm in the same boat, but if he likes you enough, he'll stay. Just try not to do it too often.
  • trytpbme1
    trytpbme1 Posts: 107 Member
    angelxsss wrote: »
    trytpbme1 wrote: »
    KelGen02 wrote: »
    Insecurity KILLS a relationship. Has he every given you a reason to not trust him or his feelings? If no, then what are you worried about? If he has, why are you still with him in the first place. Insecurity is not healthy and a turn off. Instead of sitting around worrying, why not just have a conversation with him about how you are feeling? Communication is a lost art in society these days...

    I guess because I feel like I'm overreacting , I just don't want him to lose his feelings lol

    I'm in the same boat, but if he likes you enough, he'll stay. Just try not to do it too often.

    Okay thanks
  • JeepHair77
    JeepHair77 Posts: 1,291 Member
    notelling123 wrote: »
    Stop focusing on what people SAY in relationships and focus on what they DO. Anyone that's providing analysis of 2-3 words for people they don't know is speculating at the highest degree.

    Here's the best relationship advice you will ever receive.

    1. Buy a dishwasher
    2. Realize that the best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour (what he or she has done in the past is highly probable to repeat itself)
    3. Judge people on their actions, not their words.

    I love how "buy a dishwasher" seems to be a litmus test for you. I would have said "assemble a pergola together."

    Either way - the result is probably very eye-opening.
  • Poisonedpawn78
    Poisonedpawn78 Posts: 1,145 Member
    I had a GF once that was so insecure she couldn't trust me(or more specifically anyone). I gave her zero reason ever to NOT trust me. Eventually she started asking people behind my back I guess if they thought I was doing anything(which I wasn't). Well eventually she found someone who didn't like me and decided to lie to her by saying that I was, she believed it because it confirmed her insecurity and trust issues in her head. It basically ended the relationship almost instantly because I knew she couldn't trust anyone and would always believe strangers over the guy she was with.

    Don't let your insecurity or trust get to that level.
  • trytpbme1
    trytpbme1 Posts: 107 Member
    Poisonedpawn78 wrote: »
    I had a GF once that was so insecure she couldn't trust me(or more specifically anyone). I gave her zero reason ever to NOT trust me. Eventually she started asking people behind my back I guess if they thought I was doing anything(which I wasn't). Well eventually she found someone who didn't like me and decided to lie to her by saying that I was, she believed it because it confirmed her insecurity and trust issues in her head. It basically ended the relationship almost instantly because I knew she couldn't trust anyone and would always believe strangers over the guy she was with.

    Don't let your insecurity or trust get to that level.

    I guess lately I'm becoming insecure I'm not sure as to why
  • Poisonedpawn78
    Poisonedpawn78 Posts: 1,145 Member
    trytpbme1 wrote: »
    Poisonedpawn78 wrote: »
    I had a GF once that was so insecure she couldn't trust me(or more specifically anyone). I gave her zero reason ever to NOT trust me. Eventually she started asking people behind my back I guess if they thought I was doing anything(which I wasn't). Well eventually she found someone who didn't like me and decided to lie to her by saying that I was, she believed it because it confirmed her insecurity and trust issues in her head. It basically ended the relationship almost instantly because I knew she couldn't trust anyone and would always believe strangers over the guy she was with.

    Don't let your insecurity or trust get to that level.

    I guess lately I'm becoming insecure I'm not sure as to why

    its related to self confidence. You are sabotaging yourself(being insecure) because you think you dont deserve it or that its too good to be true.
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