How the heck do you eat 1600 calories a day??

grimmc603 wrote: »

Jruzer wrote: »

xandra47 wrote: »

Good lord some of these responses are rude! If you can't respond without being a callous jerk how about keeping quiet?

OP feel free to add me, my diary is open to friends. I'm on 1210 calories a day and some days its a struggle to hit that so I can totally relate. I'm really nervous about once I get to maintenance and have to up my calories, my little stomach is gonna pop!

The "rude" posters are usually the most helpful. It's just that they don't provide the answers that the OP wants.

I would disagree with everything you said. Considering I have no idea of what my "wants" really are except losing weight and getting healthy. I didn't expect such judgment by asking for help, but I'm not here to make friends. Someone wants to be rude, then so be it- just be helpful well being judgmental.

@grimmc603, I see you only have a few posts, several of them in this thread. Just so you know, there's a pattern that happens on these forums quite often:
1. New poster comes in and asks a question. Usually it is one that has been asked previously.
2. Other posters reply, each in their own style, some more brusquely than others. If it is a question that has been asked multiple times, veteran posters may give short answers. And yes, sometimes people can be snarky.
3. Either the OP him/herself, or some other poster, usually another fairly new poster, declaims about how rude everyone is. Typically this is made as a blanket reply - no individual post is called out as rude. Just a collective assessment of rudeness.
4. Usually when this happens, the veteran posters throw up their hands and stop offering advice.

Could you point out in particular which posts you thought were judgmental? I quickly skimmed back through the thread and saw what I thought was mostly helpful advice.

There's also this, from @diannethegeek. These are her words, not mine. I hope she doesn't mind my posting this here:

It's been my experience that every helpful poster on these forums, every single one, will be called rude, mean, negative, troll, bully, etc. at some point or another no matter how carefully they phrase their advice. Posts like this tend not to be very helpful. When every helpful poster is called out as mean at some point or another, then making a post like this without examples or qualifications just ends up pointing fingers at everyone.

There is some actual rudeness that goes above and beyond what should be acceptable here. Report it (use the actual report function not the flags) or call it out where you see it. But posts like this just add to the negative atmosphere that you're trying to combat instead of solving anything.

I wish you nothing but success. As someone who has been successful, I would encourage you to hear what everyone has to say without taking it personally. Take what's helpful to you and disregard the rest.