Big Boned my Butt!!!

Delaina1
Delaina1 Posts: 168 Member
edited September 30 in Health and Weight Loss
I'm so tired of people saying, "I'm just big boned!" You may have a larger or smaller frame, but "big boned" you are not. I have a friend who is an archeologist/ anthropologist and has seen many bones, and there is no such thing as being overweight because you are 'big boned." I get so annoyed when people use this as an excuse for themselves! Nobody is meant to be obese! Your bones have nothing to do with it! Sorry, I just see it on here a lot. People say, "I weigh ___, but that isn't so bad because I'm big boned." Sorry about the little rant, it just gets on my nerves!
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  • amyford25
    amyford25 Posts: 85 Member
    I agree somewhat, but some people truly have larger frames than others. It probably wouldn't make a huge difference in weight but may be 5-10 pounds. Meaning that can't be your excuse for being 30 pounds overweight!!
  • Gigi_licious
    Gigi_licious Posts: 1,185 Member
    What's the difference between "large frame" and "big boned"? I really do have fat bones. For my height I'm supposed to weigh between 108-145, but if I get below 135, my ribs look like an extra set of boobies. Not so attractive!
  • asnail
    asnail Posts: 15 Member
    I soooo agree!!!!!
  • barefootgardener
    barefootgardener Posts: 24
    i am differently shaped than a lot of my girlfriends though, we can be close to the same hight but my hands are much larger than theirs, longer arms too, and even when i was anorexic i couldn't get under a size 4 because of my pelvis and you could see every bone jutting out of my skin. I don't know I don't think bigger boned people exist, just not to the extent of being able to use it as an excuse for being heavy.

    i don't think that came out right....
  • I_give_it_2_u_str8
    I_give_it_2_u_str8 Posts: 680 Member
    Did anyone else think the title of the thread was misleading? :p
  • Delaina1
    Delaina1 Posts: 168 Member
    Having a larger frame means that maybe you are taller, your shoulders are more broad, your ribs wider. "Big Boned" means more dense, more massive.
  • ladybg81
    ladybg81 Posts: 1,553 Member
    I guess the next saying will be that "Oh, I'm just too short for my weight."
  • paperbagprincess
    paperbagprincess Posts: 76
    Ppl tell me I must have dense bones cuz I don't look the weight that I am. lol I think my height (5'7") contributes to it.
  • SweGuy
    SweGuy Posts: 78
    Some people do use every possible excuse not to get their *kitten* of the couch... I used to be one... until I lost my father (he was 61 when he passed away) due to different situations/diseases/bodily reactions to heart problems caused by being overweight and stuff like that.. Now, I am living healthier than ever and thanks to MFP, I do see progress in getting a happier, healthier and better lifestyle - have lost so far 25lbs
  • kmeekhof
    kmeekhof Posts: 456 Member
    Sometime "big boned" and "large framed" go hand in hand. I've never been more than 15 lbs overweight (according to BMI and Ideal weights). Sometimes I do say that I am big boned.... I will NEVER be on the low end of my normal weight range at 125lbs. My "big bones" just won't allow it, and I would look sickly if I managed to get there.
  • annacataldo
    annacataldo Posts: 872 Member
    big boned is a large frame, its just a different way of saying it... At my frame type, being 130lbs would make me look severally anerxic; for my frame, 160 pounds is flat abs, little body fat what so ever, going to 150 is seeing ribs, etc.
  • kgagnon7779
    kgagnon7779 Posts: 216
    I disagree. Although I don't think it's an excuse to be overweight, people definitely do have larger frames. It's just a matter of semantics whether they say "big-boned" or "large-framed". It's really just a saying anyway. Kind of like saying "Muscle weighs more than fat" - the person saying it knows it doesn't but it's easier to say than, "the same weight of fat and muscle take up different amounts of space".

    I don't have a larger frame, but I am 5'10" - so you might hear me saying, "I'm 150 lbs, which is great since I am so tall".
  • twistygirl
    twistygirl Posts: 517 Member
    I thought this topic was a way to have a bigger butt, oh well:(
  • Delaina1
    Delaina1 Posts: 168 Member
    I guess the next saying will be that "Oh, I'm just too short for my weight."

    I've been trying to use this one for years! lol I'm only 5'0!
  • rileamoyer
    rileamoyer Posts: 2,412 Member
    I guarntee the skeletal structure can affect how you look at different weights. Tell my 6 ft daughter she could wear a size six - her pelvic bones would never fit (lol). Ethinicity hand how the bones fit together count too. I am 5' 7" and at 130 I look like a skeleton
  • kmeekhof
    kmeekhof Posts: 456 Member
    Ppl tell me I must have dense bones cuz I don't look the weight that I am. lol I think my height (5'7") contributes to it.

    Same thing here!
  • Freeapollo
    Freeapollo Posts: 25
    I'm sorry but I have to respectively disagree. Larger frames e.g. bigger rib cages and large sholder bones have to add more weight to a persons body.
  • Schwiggity
    Schwiggity Posts: 1,449 Member
    I lurk the forums a lot, and I don't think I've ever heard someone say that before. Also, there are many varying frames. Not everyone wants to nor can be a size 0. kthnxbai.
  • mark03264
    mark03264 Posts: 334 Member
    Good one!
  • zeeeb
    zeeeb Posts: 805 Member
    i think big-boned is the old fashioned term that we now say larger frame....

    it is true to a degree. i am short, and i look fatter than a friend of mine who weighs quite a bit more than me, but she is tall, so she has a bigger frame, and in a size 14, she looks slim, but in a size 14, i look chubby...
  • missvics
    missvics Posts: 112
    I guess the next saying will be that "Oh, I'm just too short for my weight."

    I LIKE!!! Ever see the Cheers episode where Sam asks Norm what he's up too and Norm replies, My ideal weight if I'm 7'2"? Hilarious!!! ME TOO!!!!
  • sunkisses
    sunkisses Posts: 2,365 Member
    I'll be sure to pass this memo around.
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  • MrsCon40
    MrsCon40 Posts: 2,351 Member
    Did anyone else think the title of the thread was misleading? :p

    :laugh:
  • Ajontheguitar
    Ajontheguitar Posts: 695
    just be grateful for that "d" at the end of the second word.
  • annrum
    annrum Posts: 144
    I'm 5'8" tall. I have broad shoulders, so I have got away with carrying more weight than most people think I weigh. That said, I'm not blaming my physique for my being overweight, that's entirely due to me not eating the right things & not exercising.

    My current goal is around 12stone, but, as it's been over 15 years since I was anywhere near that weight, I've just got that as a target. I may decide when I reach that weight that I can lose a bit more, I'd still be in a healthy BMI range, or I may decide that I'm quite happy as I am. I'll decide when I get there!

    There's a reason that the BMIs (accurate or not, an entirely different debate!) are ranges - people's bodies do differ. However, the ranges are not in the remit of 46lbs.

    I also think that if someone's going to use an excuse for being overweight, be it "I'm big boned", "I have a slow metabolism" (when it hasn't been medically checked), "I can't exercise because I'm allergic to sweating" or whatever, they don't actually want to change & nothing you say or do will make a difference. Leave them to it & keep on making your own life healthier while supporting those people that do want to be healthy :smile:
  • WhomII
    WhomII Posts: 24
    Soooo.....what you're saying is my PANTS don't make my butt look big, it's my BIG BUTT that makes my butt look big?
  • millymoozie
    millymoozie Posts: 150
    lol love it ,,i have just said the same thing in one of my replies to a post ,,you are right there is no way people can be fat through big bones ,,its impossible ,,to set it straight you can have shorter or longer bones which makes you big or small & if you are fat for a long period of time your bones do get denser & tougher because they have had to carry a heavy load so they accomadate this or else they would break under the weight of it ,,,so nope i agree with you & i wouldnt want people to think there is a reason for them being overweight when there isnt as i wouldnt want them to think they couldnt lose it or there was no point trying ,as its the best thing you can do ,gain energy confidence ,look great ,healthy for your body & mind ,,its just fantastic & a new lease of life ,,,good post x
  • sarahcs424
    sarahcs424 Posts: 46 Member
    My sister is big boned or larger frame or whatever. I can get down to 120 and look good if she gets below 180 she just doesn't look good at all. Her head is to big for her body and she looks like a big anorexic. When she gets to 180 she looks healthy fit and beautiful so I have to disagree with you.
  • HMonsterX
    HMonsterX Posts: 3,000 Member
    True, big boned means larger frame, sure.

    But, most people just use that as excuse as to why are are overweight. For some people, its true. For most, its just another reason they give themselves not to do anything about their weight. Same as "Its not my fault, its my glands". 1 in a million this may be true, but for the majority its just another excuse.

    Btw, who is Big? :P
  • UpEarly
    UpEarly Posts: 2,555 Member
    I don't agree. Large and big mean the same thing.

    I've never personally uttered the words "I'm big boned and that's why I'm overweight". I am big boned and I am also a little overweight. But, I do know for a fact that I have a large/big frame.

    My doctor has said so. The wrist/elbow measurements say so. The way clothes fit me demonstrates it. Also, I had a bone density test at my physical this year. The results indicated I had some the densest, heaviest bones my doctor had ever seen. My mom is like that. My grandmother was like that. And like it or not, I'm like that. I often wish I could be daintier and more delicate, but I'll settle for strong. :-)
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