Afraid to weigh myself
EloquentSelfLoathing
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I'm 5'5 and know I'm roughly 9st7 to 10st but am terrified to weigh myself - I mostly think my body looks fine but the numbers on the scale upset me if I'm above 9st. Any solutions? I want to be able to track my weight so I know if I'm losing weight but this is stopping me 
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Take progress pictures or measurements instead for a while if it is really going to discourage you to see a higher number on the scale. Otherwise you've just got to man the *kitten* up and get on with it and face the truth, it might actually inspire you to stick at it.2
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EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »I'm 5'5 and know I'm roughly 9st7 to 10st but am terrified to weigh myself - I mostly think my body looks fine but the numbers on the scale upset me if I'm above 9st. Any solutions? I want to be able to track my weight so I know if I'm losing weight but this is stopping me
work on what you want to change about your body and measure progress in other ways...
scale weight is just a number, it doesn't define you as a person.3 -
I might get shouted at for this but I'd say...
buckle down!3 -
The other problem I get is if I set a target weight I inevitably end up aiming for my lowest non underweight weight but usually plateau about 7lbs above it and can't work out if that's bad or not1
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If it's in your healthy BMI range, it's not really a problem. The last few pounds are always the toughest and slowest to come off, you just have to keep at it and be as accurate in your logging as possible.2
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EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »The other problem I get is if I set a target weight I inevitably end up aiming for my lowest non underweight weight but usually plateau about 7lbs above it and can't work out if that's bad or not
Maybe it's time to think about why your self esteem is so linked to a number?8 -
Put your big girl pants on and step on the scale.
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Either get an American scale and weigh in pounds without converting, or go to a loading dock and weigh in short tonnes.
I like the way Ironandwine69 phrased it, girl to girl, but the way I phrase it, man to girl, is "Don't be so silly! Just collect the data point and move on."2 -
TavistockToad wrote: »EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »The other problem I get is if I set a target weight I inevitably end up aiming for my lowest non underweight weight but usually plateau about 7lbs above it and can't work out if that's bad or not
Maybe it's time to think about why your self esteem is so linked to a number?
Already did, sadly it's not fixable unless I avoid the majority of my family for a prolonged period of time. They pretty much think I'm fat unless I'm literally underweight (not a thing I easily achieve).0 -
Ironandwine69 wrote: »Put your big girl pants on and step on the scale.
Is your profile picture of you recent? Cause if it is then why are you here? You look amazing! How did you do that?0 -
EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »Put your big girl pants on and step on the scale.
Is your profile picture of you recent? Cause if it is then why are you here? You look amazing! How did you do that?
She's here to stay that way. You get that way and you put that sort of "look at ME" photo up here.3 -
If you just do it, shock can be extremely motivating. If you really can't, have a trusted friend record the number for you and don't look at it until you start feeling you are making progress losing. Then compare and be happy.2
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EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »Put your big girl pants on and step on the scale.
Is your profile picture of you recent? Cause if it is then why are you here? You look amazing! How did you do that?
Yes, that pic is from last Saturday. And thank you.
Alot of hard work and 4.30am wake ups.3 -
EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »The other problem I get is if I set a target weight I inevitably end up aiming for my lowest non underweight weight but usually plateau about 7lbs above it and can't work out if that's bad or not
Maybe it's time to think about why your self esteem is so linked to a number?
Already did, sadly it's not fixable unless I avoid the majority of my family for a prolonged period of time. They pretty much think I'm fat unless I'm literally underweight (not a thing I easily achieve).
Sounds simple enough to me... why have that sort of toxic influence in your life?2 -
TavistockToad wrote: »EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »The other problem I get is if I set a target weight I inevitably end up aiming for my lowest non underweight weight but usually plateau about 7lbs above it and can't work out if that's bad or not
Maybe it's time to think about why your self esteem is so linked to a number?
Already did, sadly it's not fixable unless I avoid the majority of my family for a prolonged period of time. They pretty much think I'm fat unless I'm literally underweight (not a thing I easily achieve).
Sounds simple enough to me... why have that sort of toxic influence in your life?
It's complicated 0 -
Just do it *shrugs* measure yourself in kilos if it stops you fretting about the number as much. Most scales will have a setting for it.0
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Ironandwine69 wrote: »EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »Put your big girl pants on and step on the scale.
Is your profile picture of you recent? Cause if it is then why are you here? You look amazing! How did you do that?
Yes, that pic is from last Saturday. And thank you.
Alot of hard work and 4.30am wake ups.
OP, I think she meant to say that she did it by lifting heavy and weighing her food and logging it in.0 -
Your weight is just a data point, but can be useful to determine if you are losing, maintaining or gaining weight. Use other methods along with the scale to measure progress... measurements, photos, the mirror, fitness/gym performance etc.0
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EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »The other problem I get is if I set a target weight I inevitably end up aiming for my lowest non underweight weight but usually plateau about 7lbs above it and can't work out if that's bad or not
Maybe it's time to think about why your self esteem is so linked to a number?
Already did, sadly it's not fixable unless I avoid the majority of my family for a prolonged period of time. They pretty much think I'm fat unless I'm literally underweight (not a thing I easily achieve).
Sounds simple enough to me... why have that sort of toxic influence in your life?
It's complicated
Only if you make it so2 -
Also is 1200 too low calories? Cause opinions seem divided but myfitnesspal seems to think that's the amount I should eat to lose weight... and technically I can but it's kinda stressful...0
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gebeziseva wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »Put your big girl pants on and step on the scale.
Is your profile picture of you recent? Cause if it is then why are you here? You look amazing! How did you do that?
Yes, that pic is from last Saturday. And thank you.
Alot of hard work and 4.30am wake ups.
OP, I think she meant to say that she did it by lifting heavy and weighing her food and logging it in.
I don't want to hijack the post, but no, I log food only 5% of the time. Heavy lifting yes.
OP, scale is important to me because that's how I adjust my food intake since I don't log.
Scale it's like a speedometer. You slow down when you see you're going too fast, you maintain when you see you are fine (or whatever the goals are). It's nothing more than a tool to keep yourself under control.1 -
EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »Also is 1200 too low calories? Cause opinions seem divided but myfitnesspal seems to think that's the amount I should eat to lose weight... and technically I can but it's kinda stressful...
What it really comes down to, is that without the support of a doctor and nutritionist, going any lower is likely to cause health problems.
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EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »Also is 1200 too low calories? Cause opinions seem divided but myfitnesspal seems to think that's the amount I should eat to lose weight... and technically I can but it's kinda stressful...
According to the stats in your OP (I've gone with 10st) you have a BMR of 1450. That is if you stayed in bed permanently. A sedentary TDEE would be 1650. So realistically a calorie goal of about 1400, with some added exercise, should be perfectly fine for you. No need to starve yourself.
But I agree with PPs: If your family are forever making you feel *kitten* about yourself then they are toxic and require removing. You need to stand up for yourself because from what you have said in this thread, as long as your family stay on the scene, you will feel inadequate/fat/forced to lose weight.
In essence: You're not afraid to weigh yourself; You are afraid of your family. And until you fix that problem you won't be able to properly address you weight and self esteem.
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Just don't know how to fix it - I've grown up comparing myself to them, especially my mum and sister and they're both pretty much underweight and most of my friends say I'm skinny, especially at the lower end of where my weight can be - they've told me to gain weight before but I still feel fat a lot cause my family are forever making jokes and seem to have no idea of what normal/healthy actually is
I've moved out now but still gets to me sometimes 0 -
*that is to say, I have no idea what my weight should be0
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EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »*that is to say, I have no idea what my weight should be
Well this bit at least is an easy fix - plug your details in here http://www.nhs.uk/Tools/Pages/Healthyweightcalculator.aspx0 -
EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »Just don't know how to fix it - I've grown up comparing myself to them, especially my mum and sister and they're both pretty much underweight and most of my friends say I'm skinny, especially at the lower end of where my weight can be - they've told me to gain weight before but I still feel fat a lot cause my family are forever making jokes and seem to have no idea of what normal/healthy actually is I've moved out now but still gets to me sometimes
Until you deal with the issues you have with your family you won't be able to fix anything - because you've lost sight of what is normal. In the nicest possibly way: You need counselling.4 -
EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »I'm 5'5 and know I'm roughly 9st7 to 10st but am terrified to weigh myself - I mostly think my body looks fine but the numbers on the scale upset me if I'm above 9st. Any solutions? I want to be able to track my weight so I know if I'm losing weight but this is stopping me
I'm sorry, I don't understand what 9st7 to 10st mean?0 -
I got serious about my fitness beginning of June, weighed myself and then petered out when I didn't see any progress on a SCALE in 2 weeks. What happened? I gained a little weight back because I wrongfully trusted a number to gauge my overall success.
Never thought about the facts that: a) my "slim girl" pants fit really well! b) I felt amazing exercising and getting my steps in every day, which boosted my esteem naturally, and c) I realized I'd formed new walking and eating routines that are now almost autopilot.
Bottom line: it IS just a number. I'd rather have my pants fit, and have new healthy habits daily, than to freak out about the scale....truth is, the sooner you do it, the sooner you'll get to a better place where you'll realize it doesn't matter and learn to let go.
trust me, I was right there with ya! 1 -
STLBADGIRL wrote: »EloquentSelfLoathing wrote: »I'm 5'5 and know I'm roughly 9st7 to 10st but am terrified to weigh myself - I mostly think my body looks fine but the numbers on the scale upset me if I'm above 9st. Any solutions? I want to be able to track my weight so I know if I'm losing weight but this is stopping me
I'm sorry, I don't understand what 9st7 to 10st mean?
Imperial measurements 9 Stone 7 pounds and 10 Stone (a Stone is 14 pounds)0
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