Break-up

I have had a lot of break ups..none where the guy softened the blow with choc. Lol.

I indulged...but i also did stuff totally for me. Shopping, manicures, pedi..allowed myself to cry and feel the pain/hurt. Listened to depressing music.

Yes, I also run/work out hard.

how about a pamper day for yourself? Haircut, mani/pedi etc?

Hit the gym..... that way when you bump into him he will eat his heart out.:smokin:

A night (or 12) of romantic comedies always helps me. Somehow it restores my faith in romance. Also, Sex and The City. I made it through 3 seasons once after a break-up. Helped tremendously.

First of all.... what a d-bag for bringing chocolate when he probably knows you're dieting! Saboteur!

Secondly- besides eating myself into a coma, my friend taught me this- find a funny movie and watch it until you feel better. When her fiance left her she watched Big Mommas House every time she started getting sad. She brought me over White Chicks- I watched it... alot. If you don't have kids, go out with your friends! Girl time! Do things for you- including exercise, it will make you feel better in the end.

Depending on the intensity of the relationship, I always felt I needed a change- new hair cut or color did it for me everytime.

It all depends on you and what makes YOU feel good!

Go out and do something special for yourself. Treat yourself like the princess that you are. Do something new with your hair, your makeup, anything, just so that you feel special to yourself.

I also go with the punching bag/hard running

hit the gym! make him regret his decision!

Excellent advice! And pampering yourself sounds good too. Remember by pigging out you are only hurting yourself. I was doing this not even a week ago when I was angry at someone. The advice I have given so many others came into my head and I stopped and said "what the hell are you doing?"... Never allow anyone or anything have that kind of power over you! Maybe you need to get angry... how dare he bring chocolate and sabotage your weight loss goal! Punch some pillows, scrub some walls... find something to use up that energy. Call some girlfriends and go out dancing! You are worth it and you are going to win this battle!

Throw out the chocolate first off. Then make sure that you don't have any other junk food, or high fat food in the house. He probably is trying to sabotage your diet. Have yourself a good cry, then move on. Do something special for yourself, hairdo, nails, or whatever you like to do that doesn't include over indulging on food or alcohol. Find a friend, someone you trust to talk to. Then see it for what it is, over! He probably did you a favor by leaving. You are stronger than you think. You've come along this far and you can do this. Use this as motivation. You want to make yourself healthy and strong. That will be the best revenge ever that he can see you not just surviving, but thriving without him. Use your support group here on MFP to vent. I can look back at breakups I've had in the past and now see how fortunate I was that it happened. I wish you the best success ever.

What a wonderful lot of people you are!

He is not a jerk, and it only lasted a short while because it wasn't right. I really like him but it was best that he finished it before I fell in love with him. I went into it expecting it to just be a fling, so I thought I was prepared for it to end.

The worst thing - I obviously suppress my longing for a relationship, telling myself I am OK on my own (for those of you who say re-invent myself, I've done that - twice because that's how many times I've been married), but having someone in my life and that something to look forward to - it just reminds me of what I am really longing for.

To top it off this week is the 3rd anniversary of the death of my husband, I had wanted it to last at least until the end of July to get me through, but not ...

Love to all of you, you are lovely supportive people.

GG

My mother lost her first husband (my father) 12 years ago this week, then her almost-seceond husband died three years ago on her birthday, two weeks short of their wedding... I don't know at all the pain you are feeling, but I have seen someone I love go through something similar.

For her, she exercises to the point of numbness. I honestly don't feel like that's healthy, but I *DO* think the great group of friends she has found through her triathlete adventures has been tremendously helpful. Also, maybe see if you can plan something to look forward to? My mom has these crazy cycling trips where she rides like 500 miles in one week in really gorgeous areas of the country. She goes with the same group of triathlete friends. Can you immerse yourself in planning something wonderful and constructive for the future (whether it's a trip, planning a move, a "recharging" retreat of some sort, getting some big project done you've always meant to tackle but seemed too daunting, etc)?

None of this is meant to belittle your grief in any way. I also feel like if you need to, screw dieting for a day (or a week). I know around the anniversary of my dad's death, especially the first five years (and last year, near my wedding), I was just a wreck. It's ok. It's processing. You will be ok afterwards.

Fiona apple.

Last break up I locked myself in my room, listened to sad music, and cried....and wrote a letter saying everthing I would love to say and then trashed it. It helped a lot. After that I think its best to work on getting over things and finding new hobbies. Anything to distract.

hit the gym! make him regret his decision!

Same, in fact last time I quite a serious relationship was the time I was at my slimmest. I hit the gym and hardly ate