How do YOU get better confidence??

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lexiiscreams wrote: »

Honesty I could never see myself wearing this outside of my home..but I want too. Just scared of others opinions. I'd like to work on getting a better mental state.

First, you look adorable! Maybe start by wearing it with a close friend or two to a lunch or show...a quick outing as a "test run". Over time you may feel more confident!

I think you look great. I like your style, it's fun.

As far as your self esteem and body dysmorphia, know that lots of people struggle with one or both of those problems too. You are not alone. I do think we are our own worst critic sometimes too.

Do you have strong negative opinions about the way other people look and dress? Probably not, and most people won't have negative opinions towards you either. If they do, oh well, that's their problem.

Consider your other attributes besides what you look like. Wear stuff that you feel comfortable in and like, clothes can be fun and give you a boost of confidence.

You look great and that's a cute summer outfit that suits you... but I suffer with the same thing (I refuse to wear shorts or a tank top in public), therefore we both know that the confidence to wear it has to come from you. I wish you luck and hope that the strength to see what those close to you sees will bring you a new found confidence that you're looking for.

When I'm not feeling too good about myself I just look at my heard and I'm reminded that everything is gonna be ok.

Wow you're beautiful

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I think you look great, but my opinion doesn't matter at all. It's all about how you see yourself.

I think we all, to some degree, struggle with confidence at some point in our lives.
Sometimes you've just got to fake it until you make it.

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Right there with ya on the body dysmorphia and lack of confidence! I so get it. Unfortunately, there's no quick fix. I'm sure the compliments and whatnot on this forum are nice, but you won't be able to (and it's not healthy to!) post everything you'd like to wear on this forum. And you don't want to make seeking validation from others a thing that you do.
I love the idea to just wear it somewhere "small" for the first time. With a close friend or where you probably won't see many people. This can help build your confidence. You may even ask that friend what they think about your outfit (although, like all of us, I'm sure they'll think it looks cute!). Just don't get sucked into seeking those compliments and validation. At some point, you've got to just be comfortable with who you are and what you want to wear and not worry about what others think (easier said than done!).

MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »

FWIW I think your look is awesome.

For the confidence thing try concentrating more on how you feel than how you think you look. Are you physically comfortable? (Nothing feels too tight, too cold etc.) does it make you feel fun or express your personality? If all that is good go with it and no matter what you're wearing you'll come off as happy and that's what people will notice.

Can you remember anything you saw strangers wearing yesterday? No one is judging you as hard as you're judging yourself.

I second this. If you're comfortable then you can pull off any outfit.