Never able to stick to anything
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I'm right there with you. I am so determined initially , but end up quitting. My husband always tells me too that I don't stick with anything.1
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Honestly this just sounds like a pacifying statement. Your initial OP was to "get ready for summer". Now you want to "slowly" get there after some advice.
Knowing and DOING are two different things though. Lots of people know what they need to do to lose weight. It's the DOING IT that's the issue.kommodevaran wrote: »
You are the kind of person you repeatedly tell yourself you are. Stop telling yourself you need babysitting, and that you're an all or nothing sort of person. You control your food intake, and you decide whether or not to exercise. I imagine your goals are way ahead, and result based? Set close goals that are behavior based. And have "strict but flexible" instead of "random but restrictive" rules - set your calorie goal correctly, and aim to hit it within +/- 50, and have something you like every day (preferably for every meal). If you exercise, do something you like - then you'll repeat it, and exercise only works if you keep exercising.You definitely right, but I am a all or nothing sort of person which sucks sometimes.
"They" say a lot of thingsThey say it takes 30 days to be able to break or make a habbit, so the first 30 will be the hardest.
Habits are very complex, and sometimes continuing is way harder than starting. "A good habit" isn't just something you think you should do, it has to be something you really need to do, and something you want to do as well. Pick your habits wisely.
Everything you said is totallyon board, and i also know already, but its all ways good to hear it from other too, thankyou
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Yeah definitely, but slowly and surely i will get there to completely understanding and physically doing what i should be doing for my body
I'll give it to you straight. If you REALLY want to achieve something, you apply yourself with commitment to doing it regardless of setbacks and deterrences. That's how successful people overcome failure. So what is your actual plan to do this? Just eat less and hope it happens? You should have a written specific plan of action on how to do it and then apply it consistently. Till you do that, you'll be like a ship without a rudder..............................wandering aimlessly and occasionally hitting land, then back out to sea.
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OP, what are your motivations? It looks like your profile is all about looking good and losing weight; are you overweight? What kind of weight loss are you hoping to achieve? What are your goals? It's really hard to cheer someone on without seeing more clearly defined goals. Also, please don't think of "too tight jeans" as punishment; weight is not punishment.
I would seriously advise seeking input from a doctor and maybe a therapist; I'm doing this and it's helping me sooo much.
And if you would like to work on overall health and fitness, start looking at strength training and nutrition, and set yourself some reasonable goals.
Lastly, fatphobia is going to be detrimental to your weight loss goals. Some fat is necessary for healthy bodily function; if you don't change your relationship with weight you will push yourself to extremes that will be unsustainable. Presumably you want something you can stick with long-term.
P.S. I really really hope this didn't come off as condescending; these are things that worked for me. I used to refuse to buy jeans that fit, for years, I berated myself for not being able to lose weight, I starved myself (and then subsequently gained all the weight back), I refused to lift weights, I used both gaining and losing weight as punishment. I still struggle with this, it's never going to be behind me. But in the end, the internal work of physical health is turning out to be way more important for me to change my habits than any amount of peer support ever did.0 -
kommodevaran wrote: »
Not true. When you eat at a calorie deficit, you lose weight. Your (water, waste) weight fluctuates from day to day, independently from (fat) weight gain or loss. You will need a few weeks if sticking to your plan in order to see a true loss. How often you should weigh in, is up to preference, as in, how you prefer to get the data. Weighing every day gives you all the ups and downs, weighing weekly gives you one in seven data points. There is no guarantee your weight will be at the same spot in your wave/cycle every time if you weigh weekly. The most consistent results come from daily weigh-ins, in my opinion. But no matter which frequency you choose, you need to understand (at least superficially) and accept (deeply) the fluctuations, and not not act on them. You should only act on your weight trend, and act sensibly.MysticGoalie wrote: »When weighing, look at the trend over time, not the daily number. Make the best choices food / exercise. Body composition will follow.
Be aware that there can be possible temporary 'weight gain', not necessarily 'fat gain', due water retention (eated to much salt, eated lots of carbs), the body holding onto water when repairing muscles.. food remnants still inside the precious body from previous meal(s)..
Which all can come off in a whoosh..
It's possible aside weighing, to take measurements, add pictures to weigh-ins (phone app myfitnesspal), to see if there's changes in how you look, and from where your precious body takes body fat first for extra energy (your tummy could be the first, or the last place where your body takes energy from when not getting enough from food)..
It's not possible to target where fat loss comes from first, your precious body decides..
Already started on that, wrote out and drew the places i wanted to change, measured. Not sure how often i should "weigh in" though, some say the more you weigh in, the more likely you aren't going to loose weight? Does anyone know if this is true?
This is awesome thankyou
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Please try to change your mindset from on/off a program or that all/nothing thinking mentioned before. You need to allow yourself permission to have/eat/do anything but CHOOSE what is the best option for your goals and health. It's a commitment to making better choices FOREVER that will help you succeed. I will go to any event or restaurant knowing I can make a good choice ...or not. That is 100% in my control. I can choose lean protein and fresh vegetables or I can choose fried food and bread. I "don't" eat worms, just like I "don't" eat french fries (or whatever!)...poor example maybe, but trying to make a point! It's not that I can't have french fries (and do on occassion, btw) or X,Y and Z... but I choose not to (most of the time) because those choices don't help me reach my goals.
Like anything in life, there are consequences for our actions and we need to be responsible with the options we pick. I think alot of us struggle with this. Keep at it and go for progress, not perfection!
Yes thankyou, and slowly i am realizing its going to take time, slowly getting out of my old habbits, and old mind sets
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Hshelton8376 wrote: »I'm right there with you. I am so determined initially , but end up quitting. My husband always tells me too that I don't stick with anything.
It happens, im learning that the more i look up on the Internet of "how to lose weight" unless a one week challenge, it is going to take more than 1 week. Like me, we've got to start realizing that its a progress, and process. If we think we can just go hard for a week and get our ideal weight goal accomplished, we are dreaming. Look up heaps and heaps of different online "this is my story" or "what to do/not do while trying to lose weight" also look up weight calculators, that can calculate how long it'll take to lose x amount of weight, usually the time span they give you is the healthy way to lose it0 -
Honestly this just sounds like a pacifying statement. Your initial OP was to "get ready for summer". Now you want to "slowly" get there after some advice.
Knowing and DOING are two different things though. Lots of people know what they need to do to lose weight. It's the DOING IT that's the issue.kommodevaran wrote: »
You are the kind of person you repeatedly tell yourself you are. Stop telling yourself you need babysitting, and that you're an all or nothing sort of person. You control your food intake, and you decide whether or not to exercise. I imagine your goals are way ahead, and result based? Set close goals that are behavior based. And have "strict but flexible" instead of "random but restrictive" rules - set your calorie goal correctly, and aim to hit it within +/- 50, and have something you like every day (preferably for every meal). If you exercise, do something you like - then you'll repeat it, and exercise only works if you keep exercising.You definitely right, but I am a all or nothing sort of person which sucks sometimes.
"They" say a lot of thingsThey say it takes 30 days to be able to break or make a habbit, so the first 30 will be the hardest. Habits are very complex, and sometimes continuing is way harder than starting. "A good habit" isn't just something you think you should do, it has to be something you really need to do, and something you want to do as well. Pick your habits wisely.
Everything you said is totallyon board, and i also know already, but its all ways good to hear it from other too, thankyou
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
Yeah definitely, but slowly and surely i will get there to completely understanding and physically doing what i should be doing for my body
I'll give it to you straight. If you REALLY want to achieve something, you apply yourself with commitment to doing it regardless of setbacks and deterrences. That's how successful people overcome failure. So what is your actual plan to do this? Just eat less and hope it happens? You should have a written specific plan of action on how to do it and then apply it consistently. Till you do that, you'll be like a ship without a rudder..............................wandering aimlessly and occasionally hitting land, then back out to sea.
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
Loving the sarcasm and the straight up.
Yes i want to get summer body ready. And yes after advise, and own person homework, it will take time, but doesnt mean im any less committed.
My "actual" plain is to cut out as much sugar as i can. Try eat mainly fruits and vegetables (another reason why ive never full comitted to diets it because im a very fussy eater, but hopefully this will help me and help build up more tastebuds.)
Exercise as much as i can, not too much where i over do it. Drinking plenty of water.
Im going for consistency and persistence.
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You asked for it
Honestly this just sounds like a pacifying statement. Your initial OP was to "get ready for summer". Now you want to "slowly" get there after some advice.
Knowing and DOING are two different things though. Lots of people know what they need to do to lose weight. It's the DOING IT that's the issue.kommodevaran wrote: »
You are the kind of person you repeatedly tell yourself you are. Stop telling yourself you need babysitting, and that you're an all or nothing sort of person. You control your food intake, and you decide whether or not to exercise. I imagine your goals are way ahead, and result based? Set close goals that are behavior based. And have "strict but flexible" instead of "random but restrictive" rules - set your calorie goal correctly, and aim to hit it within +/- 50, and have something you like every day (preferably for every meal). If you exercise, do something you like - then you'll repeat it, and exercise only works if you keep exercising.You definitely right, but I am a all or nothing sort of person which sucks sometimes.
"They" say a lot of thingsThey say it takes 30 days to be able to break or make a habbit, so the first 30 will be the hardest. Habits are very complex, and sometimes continuing is way harder than starting. "A good habit" isn't just something you think you should do, it has to be something you really need to do, and something you want to do as well. Pick your habits wisely.
Everything you said is totallyon board, and i also know already, but its all ways good to hear it from other too, thankyou
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
Yeah definitely, but slowly and surely i will get there to completely understanding and physically doing what i should be doing for my body
I'll give it to you straight. If you REALLY want to achieve something, you apply yourself with commitment to doing it regardless of setbacks and deterrences. That's how successful people overcome failure. So what is your actual plan to do this? Just eat less and hope it happens? You should have a written specific plan of action on how to do it and then apply it consistently. Till you do that, you'll be like a ship without a rudder..............................wandering aimlessly and occasionally hitting land, then back out to sea.
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
Loving the sarcasm and the straight up.
Yes i want to get summer body ready. And yes after advise, and own person homework, it will take time, but doesnt mean im any less committed.
My "actual" plain is to cut out as much sugar as i can. Try eat mainly fruits and vegetables (another reason why ive never full comitted to diets it because im a very fussy eater, but hopefully this will help me and help build up more tastebuds.)
Exercise as much as i can, not too much where i over do it. Drinking plenty of water.
Im going for consistency and persistence.
Happy? Any more criticism?
Going on diets is almost never a good idea. Don't do it again. You can't "cut sugar and eat mainly fruits and vegetables". There is sugar in fruit and vegetables. Being a fussy eater is not an excuse for being overweight. But trying to stick to strict diets can be partly responsible for your fussiness. Allowing yourself to eat a wide variety of foods you like and being open to try new things, but at the same time not feel forced, will activate your tastebuds, and you will feel more relaxed around new foods, and maybe want to extend your palate.
Don't exercise as much as you can. Exercise as much as you want and find practical in your daily life. You can always try to figure out how to make more exercise a natural part of your day.
Consistency and persistence are fine goals.
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kommodevaran wrote: »
You asked for it
Honestly this just sounds like a pacifying statement. Your initial OP was to "get ready for summer". Now you want to "slowly" get there after some advice.
Knowing and DOING are two different things though. Lots of people know what they need to do to lose weight. It's the DOING IT that's the issue.kommodevaran wrote: »
You are the kind of person you repeatedly tell yourself you are. Stop telling yourself you need babysitting, and that you're an all or nothing sort of person. You control your food intake, and you decide whether or not to exercise. I imagine your goals are way ahead, and result based? Set close goals that are behavior based. And have "strict but flexible" instead of "random but restrictive" rules - set your calorie goal correctly, and aim to hit it within +/- 50, and have something you like every day (preferably for every meal). If you exercise, do something you like - then you'll repeat it, and exercise only works if you keep exercising.You definitely right, but I am a all or nothing sort of person which sucks sometimes.
"They" say a lot of thingsThey say it takes 30 days to be able to break or make a habbit, so the first 30 will be the hardest. Habits are very complex, and sometimes continuing is way harder than starting. "A good habit" isn't just something you think you should do, it has to be something you really need to do, and something you want to do as well. Pick your habits wisely.
Everything you said is totallyon board, and i also know already, but its all ways good to hear it from other too, thankyou
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
Yeah definitely, but slowly and surely i will get there to completely understanding and physically doing what i should be doing for my body
I'll give it to you straight. If you REALLY want to achieve something, you apply yourself with commitment to doing it regardless of setbacks and deterrences. That's how successful people overcome failure. So what is your actual plan to do this? Just eat less and hope it happens? You should have a written specific plan of action on how to do it and then apply it consistently. Till you do that, you'll be like a ship without a rudder..............................wandering aimlessly and occasionally hitting land, then back out to sea.
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
Loving the sarcasm and the straight up.
Yes i want to get summer body ready. And yes after advise, and own person homework, it will take time, but doesnt mean im any less committed.
My "actual" plain is to cut out as much sugar as i can. Try eat mainly fruits and vegetables (another reason why ive never full comitted to diets it because im a very fussy eater, but hopefully this will help me and help build up more tastebuds.)
Exercise as much as i can, not too much where i over do it. Drinking plenty of water.
Im going for consistency and persistence.
Happy? Any more criticism?
Going on diets is almost never a good idea. Don't do it again. You can't "cut sugar and eat mainly fruits and vegetables". There is sugar in fruit and vegetables. Being a fussy eater is not an excuse for being overweight. But trying to stick to strict diets can be partly responsible for your fussiness. Allowing yourself to eat a wide variety of foods you like and being open to try new things, but at the same time not feel forced, will activate your tastebuds, and you will feel more relaxed around new foods, and maybe want to extend your palate.
Don't exercise as much as you can. Exercise as much as you want and find practical in your daily life. You can always try to figure out how to make more exercise a natural part of your day.
Consistency and persistence are fine goals.
Yes i know sugar is in fruits and veges, but the excess sugar is what im cutting out. And no i will exercise as much as i can, because as much as i want never works, widening my plate isnt what i want. i want to widen my tastebuds in fruit and veges. And they i am going to do that is to restrict my menu and eat what my body needs. Not what it wants, it doesnt help ME. what you suggested might be what worked for you, and others but ive already tried the 'if i want' 'when i want' strategy, and its necer worked. So thankyou for your opinion, but its time to crack down on myself, and limit my eating and what i eat. With an exercise plan. 0 -
No one can do it for you but I find the encouragement from others on here to be great. Just do the best you can and take it one day at a time. Log your foods and exercise and before you know it a week, two weeks and then a month will pass and you will get yourself in to a new routine. I know it's hard because I'm just re-starting again myself as of a week ago but I did it last year and got to goal so I know it can be done.0
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Hate to tell you, this is just a cookie cutter plan that practically everyone states they want to do when they want to lose weight. Let me direct you better:
Honestly this just sounds like a pacifying statement. Your initial OP was to "get ready for summer". Now you want to "slowly" get there after some advice.
Knowing and DOING are two different things though. Lots of people know what they need to do to lose weight. It's the DOING IT that's the issue.kommodevaran wrote: »
You are the kind of person you repeatedly tell yourself you are. Stop telling yourself you need babysitting, and that you're an all or nothing sort of person. You control your food intake, and you decide whether or not to exercise. I imagine your goals are way ahead, and result based? Set close goals that are behavior based. And have "strict but flexible" instead of "random but restrictive" rules - set your calorie goal correctly, and aim to hit it within +/- 50, and have something you like every day (preferably for every meal). If you exercise, do something you like - then you'll repeat it, and exercise only works if you keep exercising.You definitely right, but I am a all or nothing sort of person which sucks sometimes.
"They" say a lot of thingsThey say it takes 30 days to be able to break or make a habbit, so the first 30 will be the hardest. Habits are very complex, and sometimes continuing is way harder than starting. "A good habit" isn't just something you think you should do, it has to be something you really need to do, and something you want to do as well. Pick your habits wisely.
Everything you said is totallyon board, and i also know already, but its all ways good to hear it from other too, thankyou
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
Yeah definitely, but slowly and surely i will get there to completely understanding and physically doing what i should be doing for my body
I'll give it to you straight. If you REALLY want to achieve something, you apply yourself with commitment to doing it regardless of setbacks and deterrences. That's how successful people overcome failure. So what is your actual plan to do this? Just eat less and hope it happens? You should have a written specific plan of action on how to do it and then apply it consistently. Till you do that, you'll be like a ship without a rudder..............................wandering aimlessly and occasionally hitting land, then back out to sea.
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
Loving the sarcasm and the straight up.
Yes i want to get summer body ready. And yes after advise, and own person homework, it will take time, but doesnt mean im any less committed.
My "actual" plain is to cut out as much sugar as i can. Try eat mainly fruits and vegetables (another reason why ive never full comitted to diets it because im a very fussy eater, but hopefully this will help me and help build up more tastebuds.)
Exercise as much as i can, not too much where i over do it. Drinking plenty of water.
Im going for consistency and persistence.
Happy? Any more criticism?
1. Write it down and keep records (daily if possible)
Goal
Milestones
Daily schedule
Month to month schedule
Research to go to if you need help
2. Be specific in your planning
Know how you're going to achieve your goal
Set achievable way to do it
Implement plan consistently
3. Set measurable milestones
It may be weight loss per week (though it's not linear), it may be how much weight you can lift,
how far you want to run by then, what your clothing size is, etc. Don't get overzealous though.
4. Schedule how your day goes
If exercise is going to be part of it, MAKE A SPECIFIC TIME for it. Same with sleep, work, and
time with family or hobbies.
5. Put timelines on everything.
Don't lollygag on something like watching TV too long. It's easy to get lazy if one spends too much
time on not doing something conducive towards their goal.
6. Celebrate your successes
Small ones matter and help create confidence on other harder goals.
7. Know that there will be obstacles and deterrences and have a back up plan
Things aren't always in your control, so have options available in case this does happen. My kid
hasn't stayed home sick for a long time (almost 5 years now), but I do have a plan set aside if she
does. Same with party invitationals and eating out.
8. Don't stop till you make it!
If you follow your plan consistently, you should reach your goal. Even if you don't meet it at the
proposed timeline, DON'T STOP till you do!
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
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Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
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kommodevaran wrote: »
You asked for it
Honestly this just sounds like a pacifying statement. Your initial OP was to "get ready for summer". Now you want to "slowly" get there after some advice.
Knowing and DOING are two different things though. Lots of people know what they need to do to lose weight. It's the DOING IT that's the issue.kommodevaran wrote: »
You are the kind of person you repeatedly tell yourself you are. Stop telling yourself you need babysitting, and that you're an all or nothing sort of person. You control your food intake, and you decide whether or not to exercise. I imagine your goals are way ahead, and result based? Set close goals that are behavior based. And have "strict but flexible" instead of "random but restrictive" rules - set your calorie goal correctly, and aim to hit it within +/- 50, and have something you like every day (preferably for every meal). If you exercise, do something you like - then you'll repeat it, and exercise only works if you keep exercising.You definitely right, but I am a all or nothing sort of person which sucks sometimes.
"They" say a lot of thingsThey say it takes 30 days to be able to break or make a habbit, so the first 30 will be the hardest. Habits are very complex, and sometimes continuing is way harder than starting. "A good habit" isn't just something you think you should do, it has to be something you really need to do, and something you want to do as well. Pick your habits wisely.
Everything you said is totallyon board, and i also know already, but its all ways good to hear it from other too, thankyou
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
Yeah definitely, but slowly and surely i will get there to completely understanding and physically doing what i should be doing for my body
I'll give it to you straight. If you REALLY want to achieve something, you apply yourself with commitment to doing it regardless of setbacks and deterrences. That's how successful people overcome failure. So what is your actual plan to do this? Just eat less and hope it happens? You should have a written specific plan of action on how to do it and then apply it consistently. Till you do that, you'll be like a ship without a rudder..............................wandering aimlessly and occasionally hitting land, then back out to sea.
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
Loving the sarcasm and the straight up.
Yes i want to get summer body ready. And yes after advise, and own person homework, it will take time, but doesnt mean im any less committed.
My "actual" plain is to cut out as much sugar as i can. Try eat mainly fruits and vegetables (another reason why ive never full comitted to diets it because im a very fussy eater, but hopefully this will help me and help build up more tastebuds.)
Exercise as much as i can, not too much where i over do it. Drinking plenty of water.
Im going for consistency and persistence.
Happy? Any more criticism?
Going on diets is almost never a good idea. Don't do it again. You can't "cut sugar and eat mainly fruits and vegetables". There is sugar in fruit and vegetables. Being a fussy eater is not an excuse for being overweight. But trying to stick to strict diets can be partly responsible for your fussiness. Allowing yourself to eat a wide variety of foods you like and being open to try new things, but at the same time not feel forced, will activate your tastebuds, and you will feel more relaxed around new foods, and maybe want to extend your palate.
Don't exercise as much as you can. Exercise as much as you want and find practical in your daily life. You can always try to figure out how to make more exercise a natural part of your day.
Consistency and persistence are fine goals.
Yes i know sugar is in fruits and veges, but the excess sugar is what im cutting out. And no i will exercise as much as i can, because as much as i want never works, widening my plate isnt what i want. i want to widen my tastebuds in fruit and veges. And they i am going to do that is to restrict my menu and eat what my body needs. Not what it wants, it doesnt help ME. what you suggested might be what worked for you, and others but ive already tried the 'if i want' 'when i want' strategy, and its necer worked. So thankyou for your opinion, but its time to crack down on myself, and limit my eating and what i eat. With an exercise plan.
PALATE....not plate. @kommodevaran was recommending widening "your tastebuds"
Go on another diet (drastic temporary change in all your habits)...maybe the 10th (or 20th) try will be some kind of permanent fix. Temporary changes are almost NEVER the solution.
I know the advice you are looking for (what you want to hear) is you are on the right track....just suck it up and do it. But that's not my advice either. My advice is look for permanent changes, because temporary ones never worked for me either. Some 90-95% of people gain the weight back that they lost.4 -
You asked for assitance. You have a wealth of people that have made real sustainable changes trying to assist you yet you have to do it "your way."
Everyone's journey is their own and a cookie cutter approach does not work because everyone's body is a little different. However, there are general truths (the laws of thermodynamics) and strategies (for discipline and consistency) that are applicable to everyone. You have successful people trying to share those. I would suggest you heed them.2 -
kommodevaran wrote: »
You asked for it
Honestly this just sounds like a pacifying statement. Your initial OP was to "get ready for summer". Now you want to "slowly" get there after some advice.
Knowing and DOING are two different things though. Lots of people know what they need to do to lose weight. It's the DOING IT that's the issue.kommodevaran wrote: »
You are the kind of person you repeatedly tell yourself you are. Stop telling yourself you need babysitting, and that you're an all or nothing sort of person. You control your food intake, and you decide whether or not to exercise. I imagine your goals are way ahead, and result based? Set close goals that are behavior based. And have "strict but flexible" instead of "random but restrictive" rules - set your calorie goal correctly, and aim to hit it within +/- 50, and have something you like every day (preferably for every meal). If you exercise, do something you like - then you'll repeat it, and exercise only works if you keep exercising.You definitely right, but I am a all or nothing sort of person which sucks sometimes.
"They" say a lot of thingsThey say it takes 30 days to be able to break or make a habbit, so the first 30 will be the hardest. Habits are very complex, and sometimes continuing is way harder than starting. "A good habit" isn't just something you think you should do, it has to be something you really need to do, and something you want to do as well. Pick your habits wisely.
Everything you said is totallyon board, and i also know already, but its all ways good to hear it from other too, thankyou
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
Yeah definitely, but slowly and surely i will get there to completely understanding and physically doing what i should be doing for my body
I'll give it to you straight. If you REALLY want to achieve something, you apply yourself with commitment to doing it regardless of setbacks and deterrences. That's how successful people overcome failure. So what is your actual plan to do this? Just eat less and hope it happens? You should have a written specific plan of action on how to do it and then apply it consistently. Till you do that, you'll be like a ship without a rudder..............................wandering aimlessly and occasionally hitting land, then back out to sea.
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
Loving the sarcasm and the straight up.
Yes i want to get summer body ready. And yes after advise, and own person homework, it will take time, but doesnt mean im any less committed.
My "actual" plain is to cut out as much sugar as i can. Try eat mainly fruits and vegetables (another reason why ive never full comitted to diets it because im a very fussy eater, but hopefully this will help me and help build up more tastebuds.)
Exercise as much as i can, not too much where i over do it. Drinking plenty of water.
Im going for consistency and persistence.
Happy? Any more criticism?
Going on diets is almost never a good idea. Don't do it again. You can't "cut sugar and eat mainly fruits and vegetables". There is sugar in fruit and vegetables. Being a fussy eater is not an excuse for being overweight. But trying to stick to strict diets can be partly responsible for your fussiness. Allowing yourself to eat a wide variety of foods you like and being open to try new things, but at the same time not feel forced, will activate your tastebuds, and you will feel more relaxed around new foods, and maybe want to extend your palate.
Don't exercise as much as you can. Exercise as much as you want and find practical in your daily life. You can always try to figure out how to make more exercise a natural part of your day.
Consistency and persistence are fine goals.
Yes i know sugar is in fruits and veges, but the excess sugar is what im cutting out. And no i will exercise as much as i can, because as much as i want never works, widening my plate isnt what i want. i want to widen my tastebuds in fruit and veges. And they i am going to do that is to restrict my menu and eat what my body needs. Not what it wants, it doesnt help ME. what you suggested might be what worked for you, and others but ive already tried the 'if i want' 'when i want' strategy, and its necer worked. So thankyou for your opinion, but its time to crack down on myself, and limit my eating and what i eat. With an exercise plan.
PALATE....not plate. @kommodevaran was recommending widening "your tastebuds"
Go on another diet (drastic temporary change in all your habits)...maybe the 10th (or 20th) try will be some kind of permanent fix. Temporary changes are almost NEVER the solution.
I know the advice you are looking for (what you want to hear) is you are on the right track....just suck it up and do it. But that's not my advice either. My advice is look for permanent changes, because temporary ones never worked for me either. Some 90-95% of people gain the weight back that they lost.
It is plate btw, how we spell it here. Thankyou though, im hoping my plan I've set is a good plan for me to stick to, so far so good. I've appreciated everyones advice, and after i put this up, I've was actively looking other places too, and taken on some advise, thats been advertised here and other websites.0 -
Brabo_Grip wrote: »You asked for assitance. You have a wealth of people that have made real sustainable changes trying to assist you yet you have to do it "your way."
Everyone's journey is their own and a cookie cutter approach does not work because everyone's body is a little different. However, there are general truths (the laws of thermodynamics) and strategies (for discipline and consistency) that are applicable to everyone. You have successful people trying to share those. I would suggest you heed them.
I've appreciated everyones advice, and after i put this up, I've was actively looking other places too, and taken on some advise, thats been advertised here and other websites. im hoping my plan I've set is a good plan for me to stick to, so far so good.0 -
It has to be part of your lifestyle, you're not breaking an old habit, you're making new good habits. I now have a habit of logging all food and exercise on MFP, of going to zumba and clubbercise classes, of doing a short workout most mornings (so at least I've done something!). These habits I have now stuck to for over 4 years.
Doesn't mean I don't have days when I over-indulge, but I log them and work to recover from the lost ground.
Its easy to say "I need/deserve..." a particular treat. But DO you need/deserve it? If you do then are you prepared to do some extra exercise to "earn" it, or to go without something else so it fits in with your calorie goals? You have to be prepared to be honest with yourself, to "have a word with yourself". People here can support you and advise you, but only YOU can actually do the exercise, to make the changes to YOUR diet.
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Having people on the Internet 'keeping an eye on me' would help me not at all. I just wouldn't log in. Socializing is fine, but they aren't here, ya know? And making a small change like cutting out soda... it backfires for me, too; my trickster brain tells me that I haven't had any soda today so I can go ahead and buy that cupcake.
What really motivates me is results. I have to force myself to stick with logging calories for a week or so to start, but when the scale starts to edge down, the motivation to keep the momentum going is there! Now I'm having trouble convincing myself to take a cheat day (that I badly need. LOL)1 -
LizbethHeller wrote: »Having people on the Internet 'keeping an eye on me' would help me not at all. I just wouldn't log in. Socializing is fine, but they aren't here, ya know? And making a small change like cutting out soda... it backfires for me, too; my trickster brain tells me that I haven't had any soda today so I can go ahead and buy that cupcake.
What really motivates me is results. I have to force myself to stick with logging calories for a week or so to start, but when the scale starts to edge down, the motivation to keep the momentum going is there! Now I'm having trouble convincing myself to take a cheat day (that I badly need. LOL)
Thats awesome that you've gotten to the point of just doing now, instead of trying 0 -
I'd add that rather than "finding an exercise I love," I just say to myself, "So it's not fun, so what? It's just something I need to do and it won't take that long." Otherwise I just keep casting around for "fun" activities and there aren't many active things I could enjoy for X minutes Y times a week.1
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Hey. We all have to start at the beginning. If anyone can snap our fingers and be wherr we wanted, this site wouldnt exist. But it does and we can dnap day and night, it isnt going to get you where you want to be.
The best way to do this is when you want it. When you can say at this time nezt week, next months, 3 months from now, i want to be a lean, mean, fit machine and your willing to pass on the soda for water or say no to the birthday cake... that is when you succeed.
Feel free to add me and we can set smaller goals and work together to get there.1
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