I feel guilty
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And 4) never trust your sisters again when it comes to diets. They will drive you to anorexia... Which is what you will become if you eat any less than 1200 calories as a nurse.5
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1) my seemstress told me that within 30 minutes the wedding dress streches so i would trust the measurements she gave you (she put it on me real tight, i asked her to loosen it, she told me wait a bit and by the end of my 1h session i felt great in it)
2) since you already lost about 15lbs, you are definitly a size smaller at your weight.
3) to be able not to binge like that, go to 250 calories below your sedentary maintenance and work out without eating everything back. You will tone up and lose a bit of fat AND not binge since you will restrict yourself a lot less. You will lose inches.
All this and it sounds like 1200 is too restrictive for you. The binge is the clue. It worked before when your body had more body fat stores, but not so much now. It is okay to eat at maintenance a few more days a week (you won't gain weight - it's what you need - not cheating!). Maybe try 1300-1400 2-3 days a week, 1500 the other days. Don't be afraid, it obvious from your size information that your body just doesn't have the fat reserves for the deeper deficit anymore.
Ditch the guilt, it does not help in any way whatsoever!2 -
I recommend a good foundation garment rather than cutting your weight further.0
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I don't understand your calorie usage... You only earned 60 calories from exercise? You are a nurse, right? On your feet most of the day? When I log 1 hour of cooking I earn 140 calories, while 1 hour of slow walking gives me 175 more.
You really need to look into your activitiy logging!
I recently bought myself a fitbit flex 2 (60$ on amazon.com) and according to this I earn about 5-600 extra calories a day.
You can link it to MyfitnessPal, but mind you, I don't think MFP is getting the right number of calories from fitbit. But fitbit receive the correct amount of calories from MFP. So I track food on MFP and follow the fitbit calculations on calories in/out.
Good luck and don't be to hard on yourself for behaving as a mere mortal.0 -
I don't understand your calorie usage... You only earned 60 calories from exercise? You are a nurse, right? On your feet most of the day? When I log 1 hour of cooking I earn 140 calories, while 1 hour of slow walking gives me 175 more.
You really need to look into your activitiy logging!
I recently bought myself a fitbit flex 2 (60$ on amazon.com) and according to this I earn about 5-600 extra calories a day.
You can link it to MyfitnessPal, but mind you, I don't think MFP is getting the right number of calories from fitbit. But fitbit receive the correct amount of calories from MFP. So I track food on MFP and follow the fitbit calculations on calories in/out.
Good luck and don't be to hard on yourself for behaving as a mere mortal.
I do over 10000 steps a day with just my job on average. And I go to the gym every day for an hour. I have an I watch and it doesn't track it even though I have connected them together, it never tells me how many calories I've lost. I have to manually put it in and so I get annoyed and just put in my jog on the treadmill. I do a lot of weights at the gym- curl with 12kgs, squat with 60kgs ect but it won't give me how much calories I've lost with those exercises?0 -
I go to the gym 5 days a week** mountain bike ride on the weekend and Aerial silks.0
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If you push it too hard, your body will fight back to save itself from starvation. That is what the binges are about. They are not weakness, they are your body fighting to survive in what it sees as a starvation situation. I suspect you should not be trying to lose weight at all, but especially not trying to lose it this fast.
You are a nurse. What you're trying to do is not healthy. Please step back and rethink. None of this is worth doing for the sake of a dress.
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CattOfTheGarage wrote: »If you push it too hard, your body will fight back to save itself from starvation. That is what the binges are about. They are not weakness, they are your body fighting to survive in what it sees as a starvation situation. I suspect you should not be trying to lose weight at all, but especially not trying to lose it this fast.
You are a nurse. What you're trying to do is not healthy. Please step back and rethink. None of this is worth doing for the sake of a dress.
I'm the healthiest I've ever been. I meal prep all my food and I have lots of veggies, fruits and protein during the day! The only things I cut out are unnatural sugars, processed foods and junk food. I exercise this much because it feels good to be fit and active. I've been on this diet for 6 months now and I have only binged once as my in laws came down. But I like eating healthier now, I just feel guilty when I eat crap. But I have taken what people have said on board. I am now on 1300 calories a day.0 -
sarahseeto wrote: »CattOfTheGarage wrote: »If you push it too hard, your body will fight back to save itself from starvation. That is what the binges are about. They are not weakness, they are your body fighting to survive in what it sees as a starvation situation. I suspect you should not be trying to lose weight at all, but especially not trying to lose it this fast.
You are a nurse. What you're trying to do is not healthy. Please step back and rethink. None of this is worth doing for the sake of a dress.
I'm the healthiest I've ever been. I meal prep all my food and I have lots of veggies, fruits and protein during the day! The only things I cut out are unnatural sugars, processed foods and junk food. I exercise this much because it feels good to be fit and active. I've been on this diet for 6 months now and I have only binged once as my in laws came down. But I like eating healthier now, I just feel guilty when I eat crap. But I have taken what people have said on board. I am now on 1300 calories a day.
Be carefull... You have to eat some of your exercise calories back. Yoi don't want to start losong your hair from too low calories before the wedding!! And yes these things happen.... And they happened to me
So be aware. 1300 with your exercise is too little.0 -
sarahseeto wrote: »CattOfTheGarage wrote: »If you push it too hard, your body will fight back to save itself from starvation. That is what the binges are about. They are not weakness, they are your body fighting to survive in what it sees as a starvation situation. I suspect you should not be trying to lose weight at all, but especially not trying to lose it this fast.
You are a nurse. What you're trying to do is not healthy. Please step back and rethink. None of this is worth doing for the sake of a dress.
I'm the healthiest I've ever been. I meal prep all my food and I have lots of veggies, fruits and protein during the day! The only things I cut out are unnatural sugars, processed foods and junk food. I exercise this much because it feels good to be fit and active. I've been on this diet for 6 months now and I have only binged once as my in laws came down. But I like eating healthier now, I just feel guilty when I eat crap. But I have taken what people have said on board. I am now on 1300 calories a day.
Be carefull... You have to eat some of your exercise calories back. Yoi don't want to start losong your hair from too low calories before the wedding!! And yes these things happen.... And they happened to me
So be aware. 1300 with your exercise is too little.
It's insane to me to eat back my exercise calories? As I don't know how many calories I've lost and wouldn't that defeat the purpose of exercising as well as eating low calories?
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sarahseeto wrote: »sarahseeto wrote: »CattOfTheGarage wrote: »If you push it too hard, your body will fight back to save itself from starvation. That is what the binges are about. They are not weakness, they are your body fighting to survive in what it sees as a starvation situation. I suspect you should not be trying to lose weight at all, but especially not trying to lose it this fast.
You are a nurse. What you're trying to do is not healthy. Please step back and rethink. None of this is worth doing for the sake of a dress.
I'm the healthiest I've ever been. I meal prep all my food and I have lots of veggies, fruits and protein during the day! The only things I cut out are unnatural sugars, processed foods and junk food. I exercise this much because it feels good to be fit and active. I've been on this diet for 6 months now and I have only binged once as my in laws came down. But I like eating healthier now, I just feel guilty when I eat crap. But I have taken what people have said on board. I am now on 1300 calories a day.
Be carefull... You have to eat some of your exercise calories back. Yoi don't want to start losong your hair from too low calories before the wedding!! And yes these things happen.... And they happened to me
So be aware. 1300 with your exercise is too little.
It's insane to me to eat back my exercise calories? As I don't know how many calories I've lost and wouldn't that defeat the purpose of exercising as well as eating low calories?
You're kidding! The purpose of exercising isn't to lose weight at an unhealthy rate. It's for fitness, body composition and most importantly HEALTH.
Of course you need to be accounting for all that exercise. The energy you use has to come from somewhere!
Your calorie goal is plus exercise calories.
You don't need precision, but you know for sure it's not zero.
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That is so not fair to have chocolate on the table at work! Seriously.
I won't tell you not to feel guilty, because I have trouble taking a cheat day anymore, but I doubt that two days will seriously disrail your efforts. If you have to do penance, go for an extra walk or jog.
FWIW, my experience with sugar is, if I don't pick up even one I won't miss having any BUT that first one breaks the seal and ... hey you only ate 4. I would have done worse. :-)1 -
sarahseeto wrote: »sarahseeto wrote: »CattOfTheGarage wrote: »If you push it too hard, your body will fight back to save itself from starvation. That is what the binges are about. They are not weakness, they are your body fighting to survive in what it sees as a starvation situation. I suspect you should not be trying to lose weight at all, but especially not trying to lose it this fast.
You are a nurse. What you're trying to do is not healthy. Please step back and rethink. None of this is worth doing for the sake of a dress.
I'm the healthiest I've ever been. I meal prep all my food and I have lots of veggies, fruits and protein during the day! The only things I cut out are unnatural sugars, processed foods and junk food. I exercise this much because it feels good to be fit and active. I've been on this diet for 6 months now and I have only binged once as my in laws came down. But I like eating healthier now, I just feel guilty when I eat crap. But I have taken what people have said on board. I am now on 1300 calories a day.
Be carefull... You have to eat some of your exercise calories back. Yoi don't want to start losong your hair from too low calories before the wedding!! And yes these things happen.... And they happened to me
So be aware. 1300 with your exercise is too little.
It's insane to me to eat back my exercise calories? As I don't know how many calories I've lost and wouldn't that defeat the purpose of exercising as well as eating low calories?
Hey I am just looking out for your hair, skin and health... you don't want to LOOK like skin and bones in that dress, up your calories at this point and start toning. You will look even more slender and healthy plus I am 110% convinced that after 13-14lbs lost you fit in that dress. You also do not want to get into trouble with it being too loose....they look baggy and not pretty if it isn't tight!0 -
sarahseeto wrote: »sarahseeto wrote: »CattOfTheGarage wrote: »If you push it too hard, your body will fight back to save itself from starvation. That is what the binges are about. They are not weakness, they are your body fighting to survive in what it sees as a starvation situation. I suspect you should not be trying to lose weight at all, but especially not trying to lose it this fast.
You are a nurse. What you're trying to do is not healthy. Please step back and rethink. None of this is worth doing for the sake of a dress.
I'm the healthiest I've ever been. I meal prep all my food and I have lots of veggies, fruits and protein during the day! The only things I cut out are unnatural sugars, processed foods and junk food. I exercise this much because it feels good to be fit and active. I've been on this diet for 6 months now and I have only binged once as my in laws came down. But I like eating healthier now, I just feel guilty when I eat crap. But I have taken what people have said on board. I am now on 1300 calories a day.
Be carefull... You have to eat some of your exercise calories back. Yoi don't want to start losong your hair from too low calories before the wedding!! And yes these things happen.... And they happened to me
So be aware. 1300 with your exercise is too little.
It's insane to me to eat back my exercise calories? As I don't know how many calories I've lost and wouldn't that defeat the purpose of exercising as well as eating low calories?
The purpose of exercise is fitness and extra calories. Think of it like this: you want to go from point A to point B, you put just enough gas in the tank to make the trip. If at one point you decide to go to point C (extra activity) you will need to put more gas (food) in the tank, otherwise you risk your car breaking down (health and appearance issues like dizziness, hair loss, dull hair, and bad nails which is the last thing you want on your wedding day).
You may be confused because this app works in a different way than some other calorie calculation methods. Some other calculation methods already take into account that you will be doing exercise, so they calculate your calories accordingly. This app doesn't, it adds exercise later when you add it.
How do you know if you are eating too little? By your rate of weight loss. Depending on how much you weigh, you should not be losing more than 0.3-0.4 kg a week if you are a normal weight. If you are losing more, you are likely eating too little for your activity.3 -
FYI if your dress doesnt fit its up to the seamstress to fix it. When is your wedding? You mention a fitting in September but how far off is the wedding? Im asking because if you are seriously restricting right now will you able to hold off until the wedding? Is it possible after restricting so much you might binge and not wind up fitting in the dress and a week before the wedding be scrambling? I originally bought a dress for my wedding except I purposely ordered it a few sizes too small. Big mistake. I wound up having a seamstress putting a corset back in and it looked great, but I wish I would have just gotten the right size and not dealt with the stress of that and a wedding.1
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Sounds like you've developed an unhealthy relationship with food. You started dieting to fit into a dress that was ordered wrong. While this isn't a great reason, you've already reached your goal. Why are you continuing to diet? You have "guilt" over your food choices, you have trouble controlling your weight loss and you aren't willing to fuel your body for exercise.
I think you need to step back a bit. Change your goal to maintenance. Focus on what your body can do, not what it looks like. Realize that in order to get the best performance during exercise you need to fuel for it. Enjoy the exercise you do, don't do it for punishment or even to lose weight. It's perfectly healthy to add back in some "sometimes" food. If you "allow" yourself to eat them then you won't binge on them when you let your guard down. Don't associate loaded words like "bad", "good", "crap" with food. Food is fuel, all of it. Some types of food come with more nutritional value than others, so obviously eat more of those.3 -
sarahseeto wrote: »CattOfTheGarage wrote: »If you push it too hard, your body will fight back to save itself from starvation. That is what the binges are about. They are not weakness, they are your body fighting to survive in what it sees as a starvation situation. I suspect you should not be trying to lose weight at all, but especially not trying to lose it this fast.
You are a nurse. What you're trying to do is not healthy. Please step back and rethink. None of this is worth doing for the sake of a dress.
I'm the healthiest I've ever been. I meal prep all my food and I have lots of veggies, fruits and protein during the day! The only things I cut out are unnatural sugars, processed foods and junk food. I exercise this much because it feels good to be fit and active. I've been on this diet for 6 months now and I have only binged once as my in laws came down. But I like eating healthier now, I just feel guilty when I eat crap. But I have taken what people have said on board. I am now on 1300 calories a day.
I'm afraid there is a lot of denial here. What you are doing is simply not healthy and you need to face up to that before you do yourself some serious harm.1
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