40 pounds and I don't see the difference

Are you sure she's being honest? Because honey, after 40 lbs and two sizes, there's a difference. Maybe some new clothes are in order to show off your smallness!

You see yourself every day and I'm sure your friend sees you a lot as well. I know the only people that notice the weight I have lost are people I dont see that often. Don't get discouraged, I am sure if you posted pics we would all see it. Keep that chin up! 40lbs is a huge accomplishment!!! Congrats to you!! :flowerforyou:

Some people lose weight only from certain areas and others lose it all over. You are probably losing it all over so it doesn't seem like a big change. But trust me, if you went down 2 sizes you have definitely changed! 40 pounds is a great victory! Be proud of yourself :happy:

I don't know how to post pictures either. But, I hope some one will help you with that. You can always go to the help window and search the topic.....

I'm sure there is a major change. You can't see it because you see yourself everyday. That person who said there was no change is not being truthful. 40lbs! Give me a break.... Sounds like you might have a hater.

Repost when you figure it out. I'd love to see your pictures.

I TOTALY feel your pain. I kinda see a diference some days. I've lost 50 lbs in the last 2 years, some clothes fit better, and I've gone down a size, but still most of the time I look in the mirror or at pics and I don't see a difference. It is really discouraging at times. But I know if I keep it up, I will continue to lose and eventually my perception of how I see myself will hopefully also change.

Good luck.

I bet that friend was just jealous!!!

I feel your pain. I've lost about the same 38lbs... and i do feel good within myself, feel more energetic, more comfortable, sleeping better, fitter, stronger etc. but i go to the gym, around all these skinny girls, and I still feel like the fattest person in the class. it sucks. but i guess you have to just keep on chipping away, and one day you'll wake up, catch a reflection of yourself, and go "WOW, is that really me?" Unfortunately, i'm short, so i have to get to a ridiculous weight to look thin, i'll always be a little chubby.

I feel like now that i've hit a plateau, i have reset my opinion of what is acceptable for myself, and i feel fat again, my fat seems to be sticking out in other spots that are conspicuous...

and at work the other day someone asked me what i wanted from going to the gym... and i said weight loss, and i then said, "I have lost 17kg since christmas"... he didn't even know it. I know my work uniform is gross, my shirt is too big for me, and the cap doesn't look great on me either, i only work 2 mornings a week, so i'm not outlaying more money for clothes that get ruined at work, i'm just wearing old jeans that are stretched beyond belief and that fit poorly. but serioulsy, all my clothes are too big for me, i don't sweat profusely while trying to do my job anymore, and my face looks alot thinner, my double chin is almost gone, i thought it was obvious, that i'm not as fat as i way... the women have noticed, but the men, nup...

Hey!
First, congrats on losing 40 lbs, that is a huuuge accomplishment! People like you keep me going.
I think that when you see yourself on the mirror everyday, you might not see the difference...but you lost two sizes! An alternative is that you might be losing from areas that you don't tend to look at, face, arms, etc. Eventually, you will notice a difference in every part. Another alternative would be looking at pictures from before. Compare you clothes, put them side to side, and you'll see.
As far as you friend, she is rude. Really, you should worrry about people like that. You should care about those who love you and are close to you.

Hello fitness pals,
I have been on mfp for about 8 months now, but this is my first post. i have now lost 40 pounds but i look in the mirror and don't see a difference. I dont think anyone else see's the difference either. My husband says he does, but he may just be trying to lift my spirits! I have gone down 2 clothes sizes but still...I don't see the physical difference in my body.
I was at the grocery store with a friend the other day and I was buying yogurt, strawberries and some veggies. She said to me, "that's all you eat" and I told her no, this is just some stuff I needed to stock up on. She then said, " no wonder there is no change in you". Now maybe..ok probably, I'm just being over sensitive, but really i know she is being honest.
I don't know how to post pics on here yet so I can't show you what I am seeing. When will I start seeing the difference??

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/162452-posting-a-picture-to-an-mfp-blog-tutorial

There can't NOT be a huge change, you've come so far, share your photos with the above instructions and WE'LL be honest and cheer you on!!:drinker:
ETA: to add OP quote

I bet that friend was just jealous!!!

I agree! 40 lbs quite an accomplishment! Congratulations!!!!

If you are fairly large it can take a bit to see a difference. I lost 35 before folks started to say anything. And the NSV's lately have been way more positive than the scale. Hang in there, My guess is you probably carry your weight well and it may take longer for others to notice, but I'd be leery of a friend who doesn't notice two sizes. Thats pretty significant. Good luck and don't give up.

hmm.. might depend on how heavy you started at. Many times, you don't see a huge difference when you're really big.

Your friend was kinda rude, imho...

If you have pictures on a server like photobucket, then just get the address of the pictures you want, and put them in a post with [ img] in front with no spaces and [ /img] at the end.

Such as: [ img]http:blah.blah.com/picture123.jpg[ /img]

IMO that's when you see it the most. People started asking me when I hit the 20lb mark. At 40lbs even if she is still wearing her old clothes, which would be swimming on her, it should be noticeable. Sadly it just sounds like a bunch of unsupportive people and perhaps the OP is being hard on herself. I can't really see a difference when I look in the mirror, but I'm down 2 sizes and my old clothes practically fall off. Also my feet and ankles used to be swollen and they have returned completely to normal.

I have lost 45lbs so far and 3 sizes and I don't see a difference. But people who don't see me often are the ones who can usually tell. I only really see a difference when I look at pictures. When I put the pictures side by side I see a big difference.

Congrats on your 40!!! I can't wait until I get there! I've lost 26 pounds so far...not as much as you but no one has noticed so I know how you feel. I am in this for the long haul so I am going to keep plugging away anyhow, and eventually, somebody HAS to notice! LOL! I agree about the baggy clothes...most of mine are falling off now and when I wear them, it's no wonder no one has noticed. I hate to get new clothes though, since I have a lot of weight to lose. Time to hit the garage sales I guess! LOL!