40 pounds and I don't see the difference

You have dropped 2 dress sizes and you don't see a difference? Two dress sizes is a BIGGGGG difference! I once read, "when thoughts become actions, goals become reality". Maybe you just haven't realized that your goals have become a reality! Never let other peoples opinion define who you are or in your case, what you have become. Best wishes my sister!

Hello fitness pals,
I have been on mfp for about 8 months now, but this is my first post. i have now lost 40 pounds but i look in the mirror and don't see a difference. I dont think anyone else see's the difference either. My husband says he does, but he may just be trying to lift my spirits! I have gone down 2 clothes sizes but still...I don't see the physical difference in my body.
I was at the grocery store with a friend the other day and I was buying yogurt, strawberries and some veggies. She said to me, "that's all you eat" and I told her no, this is just some stuff I needed to stock up on. She then said, " no wonder there is no change in you". Now maybe..ok probably, I'm just being over sensitive, but really i know she is being honest.
I don't know how to post pics on here yet so I can't show you what I am seeing. When will I start seeing the difference??

I was the same until I started working out with weights. Then I saw my body change before my eyes. I don't know if you workout or not but I have been using a Supreme 90 day and as active as I have always been, this is the first time I've seen my body change it's shape.
Saw the pic after I posted this. I can see the difference. You look great. Don't give up.

you look so amazing! Keep up the good work!

You have done amazing, keep up the good work.

Look at your face! SUCH a big change, not to mention what's going on with the rest of your body! You look fantastic, and you've done a really great job. Shame on your friend - what in the world did she even mean??? What's wrong with yogurt, fruit and veggies??? I eat all of those things daily (well, yogurt more like 3-5 times/week because I don't want it every day, but still...). I'm so confused.

You mentioned that your friend is also trying to lose weight... I would seriously consider spending LESS time with her, it sounds like a toxic friendship. You can support her, but she cannot return the same courtesy, what she said sincerely sounds like sabotage. The proof is in the clothes - you are wearing smaller sizes, so OF COURSE you *look* smaller! It's just difficult for you and your husband to see because you see yourself every day. The pictures say it all, you look very different and all your hard work SHOWS!

Keep it up and don't let anyone discourage you. One of these days you'll look at a recent photo of yourself, or see your reflection, and you won't recognize yourself. One day when I was in a group fitness class, I was admiring someone's reflection in the mirrors thinking "I can't wait until my legs look like that." Then I thought "That person is wearing the same shorts as me..." It was a pleasant surprise when I realized they WERE my legs!

You are beautiful and have made GREAT progress! :flowerforyou:

Congrats! You look great! plus, you have a really handsome guy on your side to boot! lol!

... but serioulsy, all my clothes are too big for me, i don't sweat profusely while trying to do my job anymore, and my face looks alot thinner, my double chin is almost gone, i thought it was obvious, that i'm not as fat as i way... the women have noticed, but the men, nup...
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I had to laugh. I so understand you. All the girls have noticed my weight loss over a 2 month period of time. I work with a lot of men and not one said a peep until recently. In the middle of a conversation he stopped cold and said " are you losing weight? you look different?"

30 pounds lighter to get a comment from 1 guy ... No wonder they have the stigma of being unobservant !

I can see a difference for sure! You look great and keep it up!

I know that when people see you daily it's hard to realize when your'e changing, but saying what your "friend" said is super crappy. Sorry your feelings were hurt.

Something my WW coach said one time really stuck with me. She used WW to lose 75 lbs. She said, one day she was gardening in an old ratty shirt from when she was bigger and realized she needed to make a run to the store, so she went in her big baggy shirt. As she walked up to the doors of the store and saw her self in the reflection, she had a flash back to when she had all the weight (she said for a long time she had a hard time not seeing herself as the "bigger person" and would be shocked when she saw herself in the mirror all skinny). She said she realize that keeping/wearing the bigger clothes for her was like allowing herself an out (in case she failed), she realized at the moment, she never wanted to see herself like that again and went home and got rid of all of the larger clothes that night.

I realize it's not always feasible to get rid of everything at once, but maybe it's time to start pairing down the bigger clothes in your wardrobe. It might help you feel better about your healthier self to have those smaller clothing label numbers when you put your clothes on in the morning.

BTW, you are lookin' good in the after pictures! Boys can be stupid, girls can be back bitey (sometimes they're just jealous or insecure about themselves so they don't like to acknowledge or encourage the success of those around them, because then that would mean that they themselves are failures). You are lookin' good and on the road to awesome--it makes us sad when friends and co-workers don't acknowledge/encourage/accept our successes, but that doesn't make them any less great! That's why we're fitness pals! So that even when the people around us don't "get it" there are still those of us around to help and encourage.

You are not alone!

(My sister got SUPER snarky and discouraging when my mom and I joined WW together...we figured it made her feel insecure since she's somewhat overweight herself...not that it matters, as long as you're happy as you are...but why tear down other people? I don't get it...oh well). A little bit rant, little bit encouragement.

40 pounds is a huge accomplishment. YOU ROCK!!!

Melanie

You look AWESOME!

What an incredible accomplishment you have made.

Everyone who made comments about your "friend" needing glasses, being jealous, etc., was RIGHT!!

Stare at those pictures and post again that you don't see a difference. You won't be able to do it.

Congratulations on your wonderful work.

You DO look mahvelous!!!

Grace

Such a big difference. You look great! I had the same problem with not seeing a difference in the mirror... Then I made my profile picture with a before and almost-halfway photo. Now I see it! Also, no matter how/where you lose weight, 2 sizes and 40 lbs is a huge difference. It is physically impossible to look the same after that kind of transformation! So keep up the good work and ignore the non-supportive people around you. They are probably just jealous of your success.

whoever says they don't see a difference is blind...you look amazing! you should be proud of what you've done! congrats!

you will just keep it up