40 pounds and I don't see the difference

I wouldn't rush to call your friend a 'hater'; when you see someone all the time you can become blind to gradual changes. One of my colleagues gradually lost about 60 lbs and i didn't realise until i went away for a few weeks then looked again! The numbers don't lie, you've done soooo well. I bet if you dug out some 'before' photos and posed again in the same clothes you'd notice it for sure- that might give you a boost. Then you can show us too!

I can definitely tell a difference, especially in your face and arms. You look great, hun!

40lbs is great, well done! You should certainly notice some difference, however I agree with others in that you have seen the gradual process so it may not be so obvious to you as to others. I'm sure you can tell from your before and after pics? I agree that you need to make sure your current clothes are more fitted as that will be more flattering to your smaller figure rather than hiding under bigger sizes that will swamp you and make you look bigger.

Please don't let other people's comments put you off track - sometimes it's a bit of jealousy because they wish they had the will power and determination that you have!

While it will be nice when people notice, you are doing this to be heatlhy, and 2 dress sizes down and less on the scale means you are doing it! No matter what anyone says :-). I have a LOT of weight to lose, right now i've lost only about 30 lbs and honestly, it doesnt' make a difference in me that is noticeable, even my clothes still fit, just slightly looser. People are started to mention "your hair looks good" and things like that, because something is slightly different, but they don't know what. I know that at some point it will be impossible not to see it physically, but honestly if no one sees it what does it matter, i'm getting healthy!

THanks everyone above!!! You guys are all great. I wish I had found these message boards before today because it has made my day. All of your compliments have me walking around the house with my head held a little higher and my smile a little bigger!!

I am so GLAD that you are feeling better!! You deserve it girl.....keep that head held up high and that smile BIG!! You have had a FANTASTIC accomplishment to be so very PROUD of!! :drinker:

hope this works. first one is me at 218 the second one is me a few weeks ago at 182. I am 178 today.

I see a difference in your face and your shoulders especially!

YES! Your friend DOES need glasses, lol. You're amazing, you look really good. Big difference, and I don't lie to boosts any egos, lol. There really is a big difference. keep going strong.

You look fantastic!

Go to Target... go to the pet aisle. Find a 40# box of Tidy Cat Clumping Cat litter. Pick up that sucker. Carry it up and down the aisle, and then try to tell me 40# doesn't make a difference.

Forty pounds is a LOT! You used to carry that around all the time. Losing it is a very big deal, and you should be proud!

What you friend said was insensitive. But it's also true that it's hard to notice the difference in people you see often, and especially if you're wearing the same oversized clothes.

Plus, I know with a lot of my friends and family members, I don't notice too much if they lost weight (or gained weight) because I don't really LOOK at them that (what's the word I'm looking for?) critically? I look at myself in the mirror, and I analyze it. I notice every lump and bump, that one eyebrow is higher than the other, that my nose bends a bit to one side, etc. I don't analyze my friends and family like that. I see them as the whole package. It's what allows me to see my aunt I don't see very often, and honestly tell her she looks the same as she did when I was a kid. She's in her 70s now. And if I really, really look at her, she does look her age. But when I see her, I still see my smiling, happy, joyful aunt.

It's not always a bad thing when people don't notice a change.

I've lost 60 lb over the last 9 months and it took 2 weeks off work on holiday for my work colleagues to notice there was something different about me....one asked had I had my hair done and only when i said i'd lost weight they realised why i looked different! err thanks girls!! but i too have gone down 2 dress sizes, feel so full of positive energy and have a bunch more confidence!! it's addictive the more i lose!!

What your friend said was rude and insensitive, plain and simple. Honesty is not always the best policy. You should have responded by telling her about your weight loss, and then she's feel real stupid. Anyway, I wonder if you are not seeing a huge difference because of the exercises you are(or are not)doing. If you are not working out, you will shrink, but your body will not change much. If you are working out but not doing any strength training, that too can lead to a lack of tone and definition. So, think about changing up your work out, and try and feel good about what you have accomplished. 40 pounds is great!

hope this works. first one is me at 218 the second one is me a few weeks ago at 182. I am 178 today.

I see a difference in your face and your shoulders especially!

I'm new on here and I can see a big difference in the before and after. Good job! losing 40lbs is a journey. I would say taking measurements will be best to show you the difference(2 sizes is almost 4 inches isnt it?). As far as I can tell you lost weight overall but from the post i can see your face slimmed down and around your shoulders.

Our friends may speak the truth but they are only human, and when someone is taking charge and becoming healthy and seeing results....jealousy can be an issue.

I don't know how your friend can't see a difference! You face is sooooo much thinnner now! I can also see the difference in your arms and legs.

I have been big my entire life 10 years ago I lost 50 pounds and got down to 175 and it took quite a while to see the difference in myself... sur emy clothes were baggy and i had to buy smaller sizes but it didn't sink in until I saw a picture of myself with a good friend and compare that to a picture from a year before with the same friend. She had not changed size only i had and at the time I looked good! And so do you! Keep up the good work!!!

Hello Fit Pal -
I get my feedback from the scale and the smaller size clothes I am now buying. It's difficult for us to see improvement, in this case, our weight loss. I have lost 31 pounds and the mere fact that I am not at the same weight or in the same clothes serve has my positive reinforcement. Hang in there...you're doing great and those around you will come around and give you those words of encourgagement you need. Great job on your weight loss!

Try to find someone that hasn't seen you since you lost the weight. People that see you everyday have a little harder time seeing a difference, find some fresh eyes Im sure with 40 pounds there is a difference but like I said you see yourself everyday so find some new eyes

The proof is in the picture. I can see a BIG difference, especially in your face.You should display these pictures side by side somewhere in your house so your friend can see. Great Job!!:happy:

Your friend is rude and maybe just a tad jealous of your success so far. Ignore her and keep at it. I’ve lost about 15 pounds and can’t see the difference but my husband does... My jeans don’t feel any looser as a matter of fact they kinda feel tighter in the waist!