Is my wife trying to sabotage me?

Does she know you're trying to lose weight?

Is she overweight or one of those who can eat anything & not gain a ounce? :grumble:

She's not trying to sabotage you - she's got eating habits that aren't changing the way yours are (assuming she isn't trying to lose weight and hasn't "switched" to a healthier eating style) You are her companion, she likes pizza, wants pizza, wants your company - therefore she asks you to go.

I'm sure she cares about your health and desire to lose weight, she probably just didn't tie the two things together - as ridiculous as that may seem.

You see - it's not just YOUR lifestyle that is changing, but everyone around you has to change a little bit too to work with it. They'll get used to it eventually, they've got habits that will be hard to break too!

:flowerforyou:

This is hard, I know exactly what you mean. My boyfriend loves to eat pizza, Chicago hot dogs, burritos, etc. I don't have much self-control; I am working on it but it's like, when I'm by myself all day, at work or whatever, and bad foods aren't presented to me, I do just fine. I eat salads and turkey sandwiches and protein bars and tuna and crackers etc... I feel super healthy and like I'm being good. Then when I'm with my boyfriend and he says, "let's go to the Mexican restaurant," I'm like ughghghghgh because I *love* Mexican food, but if I eat it, I sabotage my weight loss.

He is pretty supportive and if I tell him I mean business, he tries his best not to tempt me. But I guess it's a ME thing, because sometimes I do want to let loose and have some pizza or a burrito. I know that no one can control what I eat but me. So the way I try to deal with it is to eat light when we go out to a place like that... I'll have half a burrito and give the rest to him to take to lunch the next day (because even if *I* have it for lunch the next day, I'll still gain weight... I really can't eat a whole burrito in a two day period and not gain weight unless I eat almost nothing else.) I also try to work out more when I know there's an event where we'll be eating "bigger"... like I'll run a long run before a party we go to or before we go out on his birthday etc.

But it is so tough, I know what you mean. I wish the options just weren't available to me... that the whole world was made of salads and healthy sandwiches LOL.

She's not trying to sabotage you. Sometimes us women can be pretty selfish and self centered (it's all about us, didn't you know?, lol).

My husband is the perfect weight for his body and (damn him) can eat WHATEVER he wants without gaining a pound (in fact, usually he eats a full plate of his meal which is 1.5 times mine, and then finishes mine, lol). He's always offering me chips (oh these are soooo good, try them!) even though he knows I'm on a diet. I really think it just doesn't occur to him to be honest. They take their metabolism for granted !

Anyways, Good luck!

kudos to you for not blowing your day! my husband will do the same things, and he is one of those people that he can eat absolute crap, and is still somewhat built...without doing a single exercise. i have to agree with a PP, it IS all about self control. i make my husband sugar cookies to put in his lunch each morning...doesnt mean i HAVE to eat any of them.

Casper,

Did you ask her? Sometimes the worst thing we all do is stew on a spousal issue. The worst thing that can happen is she can be offended, but she will get over it, and now it's out in the open. You don't need her to do everything you do, but as your spouse, she does need to be cognizant of your lifestyle and maybe try to let you choose it. I think it would have been different if she acknowledged what you are doing and asked if it would be ok "Just this once" to go, and maybe if she pointed out that there WAS a salad bar for you. That's what I would do if I REEEEAAAALLLY wanted it.

On a side note, never heard of a pizza buffet before, I don't think they have them in the northeast, that's a pretty evil concept.

On a side note, never heard of a pizza buffet before, I don't think they have them in the northeast, that's a pretty evil concept.

Just think - Wild Wings has a Chicken Wing Buffet - can you imagine that calories and fat with that?!

Yeah, I grew up in PA and there were pizza buffets, even at Pizza Hut, we would go do the lunch buffet which was pizza, pasta, pizza bread and stuff (and salad, but no one went there for the salad LOL). Now I live in the Southwest and there is Cici's which is *only* a pizza buffet. Crazy.

It's called self control because you get it from yourself. You can't expect everyone to get on board with your lifestyle.

Well said..we have to be prepared and ready to take on any situation...my family is always sabotaging but I dont think they do it on purpose...well hmm sometimes I do lol...every morning waking up to the smell of bacon and fried potato's UGH! *picks up a baseball bat*....Im so rude I throw the plates in the fridge or microwave until Im done with my own breakfast. So I dont have to see them or smell them.