Bad Influences

It's a test of self discipline as well as being understanding of your partner. Just gotta stay in the game and control what you eat.
I am the cook for my family of 4. Kids are still growing and they eat more than my maintenance calories portion. My wife can have late night snacks and still keep the weight off. These do impact me from time to time. But it's just as hard on them as well. They know what I am doing at the same time they can't quit understand what's necessary for me to keep my weight down. I hate to be that person who makes the whole family tippy toe all the time when they try to get their food and snack. In the end, I just tried different things until i found those bottom lines that i needed to stay on to continue to lose weight. For me, I just stick on the basic. My macro ratio or daily cal limit. Granted it's not the most efficient weight loss diet, but it keep everyone at ease. I don't mind having McDonald with them from time to time. I just shared fries from my youngest boy's meal and have black coffee. I cook red meat and I eat red meat, but I make sure what I eat is under the cal count. For me, after almost 2 months of this, I just got used to it. They can do their Friday n weekend piggy out. I'll just have roasted almond and it doesn't impact my mood.
So I guess the burden is on you to cut down the portion while your bf eat from party bowl.

My husband is the same! Lean as a bean too - he used to play football so I thought he was burning all the calories that way but he gave up this summer and has actually lost a couple of pounds since May....!
He has the worst diet - fish & chips, takeaway pizzas, chocolate, frosties for breakfast... all the tempting stuff.
I put on a stone since we got together, and I had a baby 5 months ago so another stone to lose.
Just back to MFP this week and determined to go my own way with food and leave him to his junk for a while!!! To be fair, he is supportive but like you say it doesn't feel nice being the party pooper all the time.
Last time he got a pizza I had 1 slice with salad and potatoes and it actually felt fine, wasn't tempted for more. So when I'm really feeling like caving in & having what he's having I think that will be my tactic - steal a bit of his and load up with healthy stuff then I won't feel like I'm totally missing out!
Good luck!!!

I know how you feel to some degree, I often like to eat my dinner at 5pm and my partner gets back from work at 6pm and has his dinner and I am sat there wanting to kill him for it lol, he is also trying to eat better but does have little treats within his calories which I cannot have, I have found making up a pot of chopped up fruit to munch through slowly as he scoffs his dinner down does help me to stay sane it helps with the sweet cravings or if your more into savoury, make yourself some popcorn up and add herbs and spices, a 10g - 20g is quite reasonable in calories also, it just helps to curb the hunger a little when people are eating around you, just have to gain more will power but the little healthier snacks will help a lot, best of luck to you

My bad influences are my friends from uni. I usually see them about once a month and whenever we meet up our plans always revolve around food and alcohol. I have never been very dominant in the group so its really difficult to try to persuade them that we can do other activities that don't involve consuming 1000s of calories of ice cream, cheese and wine! I don't want to be the person who spoils the fun. So I usually just try and plan for those days with extra activity and lower calories during the week.

My partner is actually a great influence. When we eat at home we are generally very healthy (barring the odd craft beer). He generally eats the same calorie controlled portions as me even though his TDEE will be bigger because he's taller than me and a man. Strangely, I've lost 20lbs and he's hardly lost any weight. He must eat quite a lot during the day.