need some comforting words please, my parents hurt me and are not sorry... (long)
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I don't have comforting words but I have these:
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SomebodyWakeUpHIcks wrote: »I don't have comforting words but I have these:
Keep the words, pass the corn nuts.2 -
Yeahhh I read through this a few times and I don't have encouraging words. You don't want to be treated like a child but when your mom snapped at you, you reacted exactly like a child would react, and what's worse, you continued the argument once she had left and came back, demanding an apology after you told her to go to hell. She shouldn't have snapped, but you reacted just as badly. Just a heads up, don't ever call your mom a *kitten*, at least not to her face. Even if she deserves it, you wouldn't be here without her. Have some respect.11
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TeinyWinehausen wrote: »Thanks for the flag!
They flagged you because you spelled Whut wrong. It is spelled wut2 -
First time one of my children called my wife a b*tch, their butt would be out the door so fast it would make their head spin.8
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tmanfromtexas wrote: »TeinyWinehausen wrote: »Thanks for the flag!
They flagged you because you spelled Whut wrong. It is spelled wut
Waaat?2 -
Packerjohn wrote: »First time one of my children called my wife a b*tch, their butt would be out the door so fast it would make their head spin.
Right?
With a deep and lasting imprint of a size 10 Redwing boot on a their narrow *kitten*.4 -
Motorsheen wrote: »Packerjohn wrote: »First time one of my children called my wife a b*tch, their butt would be out the door so fast it would make their head spin.
Right?
With a deep and lasting imprint of a size 10 Redwing boot on a their narrow *kitten*.
I think what I'll remember most about this thread is learning we wear the same size in Redwings.9 -
1. Don't say anything. Prove the wrong with actions, and still say nothing.
2. Move out! Seriously, no matter how much I love my family, some members are toxic. Your relationship with your parents sounds just like that. It's perfectly normal to love someone and not like them. Especially family.
3. Be patient. This will pass, just grit down and remember that this is temporary.
****HUGS****2 -
Motorsheen wrote: »tmanfromtexas wrote: »TeinyWinehausen wrote: »Thanks for the flag!
They flagged you because you spelled Whut wrong. It is spelled wut
Waaat?
Dont make me flag you...2 -
It seems to me we only have half the story here. Be honest with yourself as to why there is this tension. It clearly goes back way further than when you moved back to the family home.0
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You can't control your parents just yourself.
You have a part in what went down. You had choices. You could have walked away when your mother said no to your help. You engaged and furthered the argument even after they went away. You said nasty things too.
You aren't okay but apparently can not communicate that.
You should get out of their house and then decide if you want to continue a relationship with your parents.
Get some therapy to help you learn to communicate and deal with things better.2 -
I'm married and 35 and if I ever called my mother a bi**h for any reason I would be dead after she was done with me my sorry carcass would get it from dad. I tried once when I was 13.... once. Mom still has the wooden spoon that showed me the error of my ways.
You don't have to like your parents but you do have to show them respect because: A) they are your parents B ) it is their home C) most people will treat you the way that you treat them.
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This goes way beyond your current situation. If you can afford to be somewhere else, be somewhere else. If not, hunker down, be polite, be unobtrusive and avoid confrontation until you move out.
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Cutaway_Collar wrote: »Sign of the times. Adult kids are not moving out. People in the 20s and 30s. Some still dip into parents funds to get assistance. I know a couple with 2 kids and grandma is footing their disney trip with a grudge.
more fool grandma!1 -
You clearly have a dysfunctional family. Your mom disregards and disrespects your feelings and you in turn do the same thing to her. Whereas you have a right to stand up for yourself, two wrongs don't make a right. And quite possibly she is just as hurt by your attitude as you are by hers. It sounds like you are both experts at meeting each others need to feel like a victim and you may not even realise it. You, and you alone, are responsible for the way you react in situations like this, regardless of how the other person handles it. Moving out is the best thing you can do right now. Stay away for awhile. Set clear boundaries so you don't get caught up in the never ending maze of madness. You are well aware of what triggers these kind of reactions, so it should be easy. It will be good for you to live alone for your own emotional well-being, at least for a while. Some times you have just accept that you won't get an apology, especially when the person sees nothing wrong with their actions.
Good luck to you, I hope it works out for you and you find some happiness, soon!2 -
TeinyWinehausen wrote: »tmanfromtexas wrote: »TeinyWinehausen wrote: »Thanks for the flag!
They flagged you because you spelled Whut wrong. It is spelled wut
Wot?
You get a pass only because you are in the southern Hemisphere...1
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