Don't hate me because I'm beautiful.
dawnda1234
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I lost 120 pounds in 2016 naturally using this fitness app. I am 46 years old, 5"6 and bounce around between 135 and 140 pounds. I have been maintains this weight for the last 8 months. I wear a snug, size 6 jean. I consume on average 2500 to 2800 calories a day and eat mostly clean. I was about 10 pounds shy of a healthy bmi while loosing the weight when women started to turn on me. I do and hour and 15 minutes of light cardio a day at my gym. A couple of female trainers often walk by me on the treadmill and roll their eyes. Another female trainer took a more polite approach and explained that because I weight train I have too much lean muscle mass and not enough fat and it is therefore a health issue. I have been accused of being anorexic. I wear my skinny jeans out in public and have had woman glaring at me. I go to a female only weight training club and was recently scolded by one of the woman in front of everybody. She told me that I really need to gain some weight and that I have taken my diet way too far. She didn't say it in a nice way and is clearly pissed off having to work out with me twice a week. This hasn't effected my self esteem in any way. I know I look amazing and am proud of how disciplined and healthy I have become.. I have learned to take these put downs from woman as a compliment, however I find them to be annoying and disappointing. I'm just curious if anyone else had similar experiences after loosing weight or is my life just bizarre. I have posted some recent picks. Does my body look emaciated?
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You don't look emaciated.
I've had hate from women for being slimmer than them. I've been accused of having an eating disorder. I've been shamed for admitting to weighing myself once a week and I've had one coworker call others into the room to collectively critique my body. I begged her not to and it really upset me.
I had random female and make coworkers to me I'm less attractive now because I lost my full bus om.
I don't know what the hell is wrong with some people!4 -
Haters gonna hate, what can you Do!?4
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I think you look just fine! Congrats on the success that you've had! You worked hard, and if other people choose to be negative about it, that's their problem. You should be proud of the disciplines you've instilled in your life!
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You look great.
This board is generally too polite for my other comments.
120 lb loss is amazing and must be carefully defended. Keep working. You made my day.
And keep posting on WL and fitness boards. The world has gone mad.4 -
Whitezombiegirl wrote: »You don't look emaciated.
I've had hate from women for being slimmer than them. I've been accused of having an eating disorder. I've been shamed for admitting to weighing myself once a week and I've had one coworker call others into the room to collectively critique my body. I begged her not to and it really upset me.
I had random female and make coworkers to me I'm less attractive now because I lost my full bus om.
I don't know what the hell is wrong with some people!
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I have heard nightmare stories about woman in the work place. I have a beautiful girlfriend who was bullied by woman at work. They punctured one of the tires on her car at work and it blew up going down the highway on her way home. They literally could have killed her. Stay strong. You look beautiful! We need to start a support group!1
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You look amazing! You do not look emaciated at all.
I seriously don't understand what is wrong with people these days. I've been accused of having an eating disorder before, being told that I don't eat enough and that I'm losing weight far too fast - it's taken me a year to get to the point that I'm at now. My so-called friends told me that I was making them feel bad for losing weight - I am much smaller than them now and now it's my fault they feel bad about their bodies.
I would love to know how you getting into shape and maintaining your weight has anything to do with them and how it affects their life!5 -
You look a perfectly normal weight.1
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I think you look very pleasingly slim. If you were trying to lose weight at this time I would tell you it seems uneneccecary but maintaining your current weight looks like a healthy decision. weights and strength are so important as we age, so that is another healthy decision. It is always hard to tell from pictures and brief info on internet, of course, but it appears you are looking and doing great!
Can I hate you for your height ( just kidding)? Cause no amount of reaching goal weight or recomp will give me your long slim look - and I would love it! I have linebacker shoulders on a short hourglass figure and will have to deal with it - but you look fantastic- the way I would choose to look if I could.3 -
Look healthy to me. Great loss. I never realized it was such a crazy world for women out there. I guess bullying isn't just a kids thing. Its too bad really. I like to look at life like as long as what you're doing isn't affecting someone else, then its your business and people should accept that. Especially if its not done in a caring way for the right reasons. Being pissed because someone looks better than you is just something I cannot comprehend. And in my case, most people look better than me! LOL! Keep smiling and don't let the haters get you down!2
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I started my weight loss journey at 267 and ended up at 155 almost a year later. I went from a size 22 to a size 6 at my smallest. I also began running, lifting weights and at that time in my life spent close to 2 hours per day working out, before and after work. Some of my closest friends turned on me. At some point, when I was within 20-25 lbs of goal, I began to get "enough is enough" comments, "It won't hurt you to have fun now and then," "you are taking this exercise thing too far".....I was in the zone and wanted to stay there.
Don't listen...do what makes you happy, whatever feels comfortable to you. You have to live in your skin.4 -
Geez, where do you live? Women getting bullied and their tires punctured at work? People openly scolding you at the gym? You are considered emaciated at a snug size 6??4
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My key phrase for dealing with people like that is "I'm sorry you feel that way"...tends to shut them up pretty fast if they can't get you to engage in a fight or make you get defensive...plus, it's usually a pretty sincere sentiment, I really do feel sorry for people who don't understand what a healthy body looks like, particularly when they are professionals in the exercise field - it doesn't get much more pathetic than that...you look amazing, and I totally scrolled through your profile pics, your journey is very inspiring...you definitely don't look like your body fat is low enough to be a health concern...mean people just suck.3
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dawnda1234 wrote: »I lost 120 pounds in 2016 naturally using this fitness app. I am 46 years old, 5"6 and bounce around between 135 and 140 pounds. I have been maintains this weight for the last 8 months. I wear a snug, size 6 jean. I consume on average 2500 to 2800 calories a day and eat mostly clean. I was about 10 pounds shy of a healthy bmi while loosing the weight when women started to turn on me. I do and hour and 15 minutes of light cardio a day at my gym. A couple of female trainers often walk by me on the treadmill and roll their eyes. Another female trainer took a more polite approach and explained that because I weight train I have too much lean muscle mass and not enough fat and it is therefore a health issue. I have been accused of being anorexic. I wear my skinny jeans out in public and have had woman glaring at me. I go to a female only weight training club and was recently scolded by one of the woman in front of everybody. She told me that I really need to gain some weight and that I have taken my diet way too far. She didn't say it in a nice way and is clearly pissed off having to work out with me twice a week. This hasn't effected my self esteem in any way. I know I look amazing and am proud of how disciplined and healthy I have become.. I have learned to take these put downs from woman as a compliment, however I find them to be annoying and disappointing. I'm just curious if anyone else had similar experiences after loosing weight or is my life just bizarre. I have posted some recent picks. Does my body look emaciated?
I'm 5'6", my happy weight is 130. Tell them to mind their own business.5 -
You look like a freaking rock star! Fabulous!! Am glad to hear you don't let the negative comments get to you.
It disappoints me to hear how other women can be so damn catty! Instead of cheering someone on for making such great changes, they are jealous that you now may look "better" than they do. Why must we see each other as a threat? I don't get it.
Anyway, you look great! Rock on! 4 -
I have been at your weight, an inch shorter and everyone used to say, "you've lost too much weight"...um...
*shrug*
Glad to hear your self esteem is okay and sad to hear that women are not empowering each other more. That definitely sucks!
You look svelte and so very different from your before photos. If you like what you see in the mirror, no one else needs to have a say.1 -
Wow - this blows my mind. I don't know why because adult women can be more catty than high school girls, but you just continue being you and don't let them get you down. I took a peek and I think you look amazing and you're an INSPIRATION. Jealousy is what it boils down to, plain and simple. Keep up with your weight training!4
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Need2Exerc1se wrote: »Geez, where do you live? Women getting bullied and their tires punctured at work? People openly scolding you at the gym? You are considered emaciated at a snug size 6??
Yeah, this seems really odd to me too, and I've had some really gorgeous co-workers, and personally got zero flack when I was a comfortable size 4 (nor was I near the thinnest in my workplace/social circle). My sister was 5'3, 110 for ages (more like 115 now) and generally got told she looked good or no comment at all.
Maybe people really do live in different worlds.4 -
I live in a Detroit suburb. Lol. 95% of the people at my gym are exceptionally nice. I get flack from a very small percentage of woman there that weight train. They can be very competitive and critical of their own bodies. Many of them have a negative attitude toward doing cardio, which they see me doing a lot of.1
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Women can be so cruel ☹️2
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You just keep on doing you. You look fantastic! *Kitten* the haters.1
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Can't you just say (assuming it's true) my doctor is pleased with my health. Also feel free to invite them to your next physical if they want to get more involved in your personal life.
If you're satisfied with your appearance and your doctor is not concerned about any disorder then maybe stop looking for how others are looking at you.
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Wow. I like doing cardio, too, and it would just blow my mind if someone stopped me to make a point about whether I was doing too much of the exercise I enjoy, or that my body was looking unhealthy as a result. (The only comment I've ever received at my gym was another woman told me that it looked like my form on squats was wrong, and I should talk to an instructor about proper form. I appreciated that, actually, and was able to master doing it right). I'm impressed at your discipline. I guess if I was getting flak from the trainers, I'd ask a manager if part of their training was to shame their clients.1
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You look gorgeous! Be proud of all your hard work and maintaining for 8 months.
The reaction of those toxic people is a sign that you are on the right track. Strength in weakness girl xxx1 -
As Madeline Albright said "there's a special place in hell for women who don't help other women."
Find your support system and don't let horrible people get you down. You did it! You inspire me!2 -
Maybe you just need some folks to say you look good. You do.1
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Their attitude is a reflection of their own sorry issues. You look great.1
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You do you! You are beautiful.1
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You look great! Don't worry about them, so many humans waste far too much time dwelling on negativity! I've also been harassed this way my whole life, and still enjoy the gym and healthy eating. You're doing the right thing and I hope you keep it up, without carrying the weight of their words with you. Haters gonna hate! Keep on rocking.1
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I have been skinny and hot when I was young and chubby and "not-so-hot" as I am now close to 60 and I can tell you that no matter what size, shape, or weight you are, there are going to be women who hate you because of something... anything. It really is just THEIR problem and to tell you the truth, if you seek to please everyone you meet, you will end up a really unhappy person with people hating you because you are so flaky...hahaha. So, just work to feel good about yourself and the rest of the people can go into therapy if they cannot deal with their own issues.1
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