Gastric Bypass - what to say and not to say

Girrrl, I am going through the same thing with my sister! She had the lap band a few years ago. Poor tging has always had trouble with her weight, and we have a younger sister going in her direction. The thing is she lost 50 lbs per doctors orders on her own, eating right and going to the gym, and then she had the lap band, got down to a great size , but was always sick with the band..She ended up getting married, then pregnant, had a beautiful little boy, and ballooned back to size. Well not really .She look slimmer than she had a few years ago. She also was vwry involved with MFP and had her own YouTube channel. Now she wants to just ho and get gastric bypass.She says it's corrective surgery, something about the band ,or idk. We just really started talking after her son was born,as we had a falling out a few yeats back. I missed the best times of her life. Anyway, she kbows how yo lose weight and what to do. Im also scared for her.I try to talk to ger about it too.But she sort of brushes it off,and says it needs to be done. It's very frustrating. She isnt extremely obese , and I feel like she can still very much get a handle on this. I hate to think that once you get the surgery you have to give up soo much. Snd sometimes it can cause extreme injuries to your body. Or so I have seen.But from what I see,once their minds are made up, theres really nobody who can convince them otherwise. They think we font want them to succeed , or maybe that we might be showing jealousy. She looked great at 174, she is 5'7 and I know she can do it again with such a extreme operation but im going to pray she is ok. And support her decision as best I can.

I have not had it, but would have been a candidate... I have two friends who are getting it, who are determined and don't want to hear anything negative about it, who are in the same category I was--BMI under 40 but with sleep apnea or other health issue. I do wish they'd try this first as I've had such success with it, but they feel it's the only way for them. I also worry that if they are not learning about nutrition and calories and portions and such now that they will have to learn it anyway after surgery and won't want to.

So i have not had the surgery yet but i am going to explain why i am choosing to have the surgery. The first reason is health and mobility. I have hashimotos thyroiditis, fibromyalgia and possibly lupus so losing weight has always been extremely difficult. I have had 2 major back surgeries in the last year and a half, while my weight was not the reason its definitely not helping. I approached my doctor about the surgery and she explained how beneficial she thought it would be for me and referred me. After my file was reviewed i was enrolled in a bariatric program. The first phase was 12 weeks of learning about healthy habits, label reading, food logging, exercise, you name it. While being extremely diligent i lost 8 pounds, most of which water weight. The second phase was to go to a surgery orientation to hear all the positive and negatives. A couple of things the surgeon said resonated with me; bypass is one of the most durable forms of weightloss, it gives your brain time to get healthy habits while your body is physically limited. Two, it alters your gut bacteria...he presented us some studies. Thirdly, your cravings and tastebuds will change, most people will stop craving sugar and fats due to your body knowing it can cause dumping snydrome. My third phase i am currently on is proving i can eat 5-6 balanced 300 calorie meals and exercise 5 times a day. This is not an easy process and am only on phase 3 out of 7. If i could just lose and maintain on my own i wouldnt be doing the surgery, if willpower and motivation were enough i wouldnt need it. The truth is i am one of many that need a drastic change to heal myself and hopefully gather enough information and habits to make it durable.

Just say "I hope it goes well and you get the results you want". That's it.