Body Dismorphia

getoffin1year · September 2017

Ive lost 80lvs and its only starting to register now. Hang in there.

timtam163 · September 2017

Yup. When I was heavier I was more in denial and thought that was how my body was supposed to look; now I realize how much bigger my love handles were, but when I see a hint of them now (of course a little will always be there) I think my body shape hasn't changed a bit.

Measurements and other NSVs help.

SarahR2412 · September 2017

Awww Hun. I know what your saying, I'm 95lbs down and totally get where your coming from! It's hard and it does get better xxx good luck xxxx

WilmaValley · September 2017

I, too, struggle with this. Thanks so much for such an honest discussion.

Shull_rachael · September 2017

My family swears I have it. I went to a plastic surgery to change somethings I didn't like(on my face). He wanted to know who told me I was ugly and suggested counseling rather than surgery. I don't see what other people see it's really frustrating.

dancefit2015 · September 2017

I struggled with this when I was underweight several years ago. I thought I was fat and I thought that my friends/family were lying to me when they told me otherwise. Over the past few years I gained some, lost some, and gained some more and it only got worse. I hated myself so much. I spent many nights crying myself to sleep over my weight. About 4 months ago I reached my heaviest (213lbs), but I had better role models in my life and I did a lot of work on my mentality. I spent months telling myself that I was beautiful, I followed a ton of body-positive posts online and tried to see myself the way my boyfriend did. Now, I am at point that I am actually confident and I love and care for my body. It takes a lot of work mentally but I honestly think people can retrain their minds and be happy.
I've lost 15 lbs since my heaviest and I plan to keep going but I am doing it for the right reasons now.

okohjacinda · September 2017

dawnmg81 wrote: »

Anyone else suffer with body dismorphia? I still have a long ways to go with my weight loss journey but have lost 60 lbs so far. I look in the mirror and see no difference. I still see the ginormous obese mommy that I was when I started this journey. I am still obese, but I ma sure parts of me are smaller after losing 60 lbs. I hear compliments from people on my weight loss but always feel as though they are just saying it to try and be nice since most people know i am trying to lose weight. I dont feel like they actually see the difference.

Is it normal to feel like this? I didnt really take any before pictures (which i regret hugely) so i cant really go back and look at comparisons between 6 months ago and now.

Yes it is definitely normal. Please do not do this to yourself. I have been there like only a year ago. I lost 80lbs (within 1.5 years) and did not see any change even though everyone was saying how small I was getting. To me, I still looked big, I still felt I had a humongous stomach (even though it had decreased considerably), and that I wasn't really turning out how I pictured in my head.

Not too long after that, I gained all the weight back and now I am fighting to lose it once again with high blood pressure from the fast weight gain.

One thing I realized as I was going through the photos of me at my smallest, that I could finally see the difference. I think had I kept going and not let my mind get the best of me, I would be at goal today.

Please take progress pics starting now because over time you will see the difference. It takes a while for your brain to catch up with your body, but if you keep at it, you will see a significant change.

This time around, I am much much kinder to my body. I know that I have a long way to go, but I must remain positive in order to get through this journey.

So please be positive, take pics and keep at it. Take pride in the little changes even if its just an inch off your waist or shirt size down. Everything counts!

And the scale is not the best indicator of the changes going on in your body. Pictures and taking measurements are the best indicator especially as a woman.

13bbird13 · September 2017

For me, pictures are the enemy. When I'm going about my daily life I feel okay about my weight... I do little "tests", like right now I'm sitting in my office chair and I can see plenty of chair on both sides of my thighs, so how bad can it be, right? I wear Size 10 pants. Not my ideal size, but I'm working on it. I drive a small hatchback and find it very comfortable. Most of my t-shirts are mediums.

Then I posed with a friend's family for a photo of their kid graduating high school last spring, and she sent me a copy. I almost died. I couldn't believe that enormous person standing with them was me!! My head is this little thing on top of this big body. I look like a snowman. I honestly felt like I ruined the picture just by being in it. That's when I started wondering if BD might be part of my problem. Both of those self-perceptions can't be real; one of them must be wrong.

VeggieBarbells · September 2017

dawnmg81 wrote: »

Anyone else suffer with body dismorphia? I still have a long ways to go with my weight loss journey but have lost 60 lbs so far. I look in the mirror and see no difference. I still see the ginormous obese mommy that I was when I started this journey. I am still obese, but I ma sure parts of me are smaller after losing 60 lbs. I hear compliments from people on my weight loss but always feel as though they are just saying it to try and be nice since most people know i am trying to lose weight. I dont feel like they actually see the difference.

Is it normal to feel like this? I didn't really take any before pictures (which i regret hugely) so i cant really go back and look at comparisons between 6 months ago and now.

Start taking pictures today, it was the best thing I ever did. Nothing focuses your mind than a 'before picture'. You have two choices when reviewing 'before' pictures. Go back to where you were(or worse) or stop the rot and continue to create the new you.

To your point - Do others only see the fatter person? Of course they do, I hear that all the time. However patience, determination and sheer hard grit, turns the old you, into the new you. #MakeItHappen

ryenday · September 2017

13bbird13 wrote: »

For me, pictures are the enemy. When I'm going about my daily life I feel okay about my weight... I do little "tests", like right now I'm sitting in my office chair and I can see plenty of chair on both sides of my thighs, so how bad can it be, right? I wear Size 10 pants. Not my ideal size, but I'm working on it. I drive a small hatchback and find it very comfortable. Most of my t-shirts are mediums.

Then I posed with a friend's family for a photo of their kid graduating high school last spring, and she sent me a copy. I almost died. I couldn't believe that enormous person standing with them was me!! My head is this little thing on top of this big body. I look like a snowman. I honestly felt like I ruined the picture just by being in it. That's when I started wondering if BD might be part of my problem. Both of those self-perceptions can't be real; one of them must be wrong.

I totally understand-I think I’m looking ok, and the scale goes down a bit so then I take a photo. All the photo shows me is how bad it is. Something is messed up.

Spartan_Gingi · September 2017

I'm in this boat. I'm almost 60 lbs down, less than 15 lbs from goal, and I'm within 20 lbs of my 11 year old daughter. People tell me how skinny I am (I'm really not. Still in between a small and a medium) and I just don't see it. Still, every now and then, if I catch a glimpse of my reflection before I realize it's me, I don't recognized myself...

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