Need some help to fix an unhealthy mindset
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JoLightensUp wrote: »Regarding the bolognaise...I am the same height as you, 15 years older, and less active by the sounds of it. I am losing a pound a week on average eating spag bol and lasagne regularly. I like to add lots of vegies to mine, plus kidney or canellini beans. I used to grate the vegies but now my kids are teenagers they don't care if they have chunks of vegies in there.
I've lost 8kg so far (18 pounds I think) & I have starchy carbs with pretty much every meal.
It's interesting that carbs are now demonized. For my generation, fat was the baddie. I still have a bit of that "all fats are bad" thinking pop into my mind sometimes.
ETA: Just read your last post. You are a fellow Aussie...I don't need to talk in pounds for you lol! And yes, time for sleep.
Haha yes Jo, G'day mate! Lovely, a fellow Aussie yay! Yes we can speak in kgs and centimetres lol. I just put my stats in pounds to be courteous to our American friends on here0 -
I'm Norwegian, so I use kilos and centimetres. Just don't talk to me about kilojoulesteags84mfp wrote: »JoLightensUp wrote: »Regarding the bolognaise...I am the same height as you, 15 years older, and less active by the sounds of it. I am losing a pound a week on average eating spag bol and lasagne regularly. I like to add lots of vegies to mine, plus kidney or canellini beans. I used to grate the vegies but now my kids are teenagers they don't care if they have chunks of vegies in there.
I've lost 8kg so far (18 pounds I think) & I have starchy carbs with pretty much every meal.
It's interesting that carbs are now demonized. For my generation, fat was the baddie. I still have a bit of that "all fats are bad" thinking pop into my mind sometimes.
ETA: Just read your last post. You are a fellow Aussie...I don't need to talk in pounds for you lol! And yes, time for sleep.
Haha yes Jo, G'day mate! Lovely, a fellow Aussie yay! Yes we can speak in kgs and centimetres lol. I just put my stats in pounds to be courteous to our American friends on here
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kommodevaran wrote: »
I'm Norwegian, so I use kilos and centimetres. Just don't talk to me about kilojoulesteags84mfp wrote: »JoLightensUp wrote: »Regarding the bolognaise...I am the same height as you, 15 years older, and less active by the sounds of it. I am losing a pound a week on average eating spag bol and lasagne regularly. I like to add lots of vegies to mine, plus kidney or canellini beans. I used to grate the vegies but now my kids are teenagers they don't care if they have chunks of vegies in there.
I've lost 8kg so far (18 pounds I think) & I have starchy carbs with pretty much every meal.
It's interesting that carbs are now demonized. For my generation, fat was the baddie. I still have a bit of that "all fats are bad" thinking pop into my mind sometimes.
ETA: Just read your last post. You are a fellow Aussie...I don't need to talk in pounds for you lol! And yes, time for sleep.
Haha yes Jo, G'day mate! Lovely, a fellow Aussie yay! Yes we can speak in kgs and centimetres lol. I just put my stats in pounds to be courteous to our American friends on here
Haha good to know thank you! You have been very kind and helpful to me. I would love to visit your country one day!1 -
teags84mfp wrote: »It is night time here in Australia, however starting tomorrow morning, I am going to have a bowl of porridge with milk and a banana because I love oats, and I no longer need to fear carbs. This is truly freeing. xxx
this part is very satisfying to read. reminded me of one of those exorcism movies lol. good job OP.
Indian here, and same.kommodevaran wrote: »
I'm Norwegian, so I use kilos and centimetres. Just don't talk to me about kilojoulesteags84mfp wrote: »JoLightensUp wrote: »Regarding the bolognaise...I am the same height as you, 15 years older, and less active by the sounds of it. I am losing a pound a week on average eating spag bol and lasagne regularly. I like to add lots of vegies to mine, plus kidney or canellini beans. I used to grate the vegies but now my kids are teenagers they don't care if they have chunks of vegies in there.
I've lost 8kg so far (18 pounds I think) & I have starchy carbs with pretty much every meal.
It's interesting that carbs are now demonized. For my generation, fat was the baddie. I still have a bit of that "all fats are bad" thinking pop into my mind sometimes.
ETA: Just read your last post. You are a fellow Aussie...I don't need to talk in pounds for you lol! And yes, time for sleep.
Haha yes Jo, G'day mate! Lovely, a fellow Aussie yay! Yes we can speak in kgs and centimetres lol. I just put my stats in pounds to be courteous to our American friends on here
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This is the coolest thread I have read on here in a while. Thanks for posting. There are so many people in your same position that can draw inspiration from all that's been written here.
Please pop back in and keep us posted on how things are going.2 -
teags84mfp wrote: »kommodevaran wrote: »
I think that you eat because you like food, and you have been thinking that food is the enemy. This creates an inner conflict, and you eat when you can't handle the pressure anymore, and overeat because you feel that you gave in and lost control. We can do a lot of hard and painful and even dangerous things for a while, but sooner or later, that has to stop. I also think that your perception of being and looking healthy and eating well, may be a bit skewed - if you lost weight by starving yourself, you weren't healthy, you were just thin, and if you end up gorging, the diet you are aiming for, can't be good for you. You can't rely on willpower for such a basic need as eating.teags84mfp wrote: »I feel like I have no control around food anymore. I had so much willpower last year and now its gone. I want to be healthier and within a healthy BMI. I can go 1 week eating really well, then gorge on food. I don't feel sad or bored really, I have no idea why I am eating like this. I feel really lost and want to heal from this. I feel incredibly ashamed when people see me now, having seen me looking so thin and healthy, to now. Its very embarrasing as it means people can see I have no control.
The reason you don't feel satisfied by a small amount, may be that you think that you shouldn't even eat any of it in the first place. This will lead to building up a great, but unrealistic expectation, and not paying attention when you do eat it, and eating more to try to get the pleasure you were expecting, and working hard to forget it afterwards. If you allow yourself to enjoy the treat, for real, not just let yourself eat it because you can't resist anymore, the experience will be totally different. This takes time and practice. When it comes to the foods you have trouble resisting now, it can be a good idea to abstain totally for a while, but only if you're clear that this is only temporarily. If you as much as try to tell yourself you'll never have them again, you're going to intensify the cravings.For me, I cannot figure out if having small treats within calorie allowance is the best way, or simply abstaining from them all together. I have never felt satisfied eating a small chocolate, it just gives me a taste and desire for more.
This tells me that you haven't just cut out treats, you have undereaten. You have to nourish yourself, sufficiently, regularly and reliably, or else that rebound hunger will bite you in the behind.For me, losing weight and hunger has always come hand in hand.
Yes. That is a completely normal reaction. Just having this understanding, means that you are on your way to solving the problem.Trying to restrict treats and carbs completely has created huge cravings.
You haven't come up with this idea by yourself, this is indoctrination from the diet industry. Most of us have fallen for it. If we weren't so scared and impatient, we would be able to see how normal weight people eat and move, and trust that we are able to do the same and have the same results. Instead, we're led on a wild hunt for our own tails.I still can't get the fear out of my head about eating a bowl of bolognaise for example, crazy I know. There is this irrational fear that I won't lose weight eating what the family eats for dinner. Sigh.......
Oh my. Wow. I have read your post 5 times. It's like you know whats going on inside my brain. I can't thank you enough for breaking all of this down for me to see it clearly for what it is. What you wrote resonated so strongly with me that I am on the brink of tears.
Yes, that was so well spoken and true when you mentioned my perception of what healthy looks like. Getting to a healthy weight in an unhealthy manner was so so bad. I was literally starving. And I knew it. Seeing my beautiful thick hair in clumps falling out in the sink was devastating for me. Seeing a pale complexion and dark circles under eyes from lack of sleep because I was so hungry was unhealthy. It was far more dangerous than I realised, and I was damaging my body.
And gosh yes, I look at people around me that are of a normal healthy weight, happy around food, exercise for the joy of it, I look at them and try to envison myself like that. A relaxed attitude around food and enjoying from all food groups is the way forward for me. Thank you again for your insight, it has made me really look deep within myself and excited about making changes towards better health.
It is night time here in Australia, however starting tomorrow morning, I am going to have a bowl of porridge with milk and a banana because I love oats, and I no longer need to fear carbs. This is truly freeing. xxx
I agree. Her posts are great and insightful. I enjoy reading them.0 -
teags84mfp wrote: »rheddmobile wrote: »Re: carbs and sweets. I'm a diabetic so I do have to watch how many carbs I have per meal, although I eat a moderate carb diet, not low carb. I started my diet a year ago after my diagnosis with a serious Coca Cola habit and a complete inability to moderate sweet stuff.
As far as having small treats goes, everyone is different but what worked for me was going cold turkey on added sugar for a while. I substituted fruit with yogurt and dark chocolate for my treats. It took about two weeks, but after two weeks my cravings for super sweet things subsided and fruit started to taste much sweeter to me. After almost a year of avoiding sweet things, I've been testing the waters recently - I ate a mini Snickers bar from our supply of Halloween candy a few times this week instead of my usual piece of dark chocolate - and just one 42 calorie bar was fine, I didn't want more. Some foods are just going to be off limits to me forever - I already know myself enough to know that Coke is never going to be a thing I can feel satisfied with small amounts, it's just not worth it to me, and I hate diet drinks, so I drink tea now.
As I said, everyone is different, but I think the best thing is to figure out a way of eating which will keep you from feeling deprived, whether that means a small amount of the same treats, or a larger amount of lower calorie versions. For me, one piece of really good quality dark chocolate was a good substitute for eating a giant bar of cheaper chocolate. Instead of candy while I worked on the computer I started drinking herbal tea.
Well done for kicking your Coke addiction, that is something to be very proud of. Yes I agree, I am going to have to find a way of eating that satisfies me while losing weight as well as maintaining it. It's figuring out what that type of diet looks like that is tricky for me, but I am sure I will figure it out. This is a real lightbulb moment for me thats for sure.
And yeah, it will be different for me losing at a slower rate, I am used to seeing the weight drop off quickly, 2lbs a week. But it came back on just as fast unfortunately. I will just be patient and consistent and follow all the sound advice given here.
Just a thought about a slow loss rate: It can be a good on-ramp to successful weight maintenance.
Overall, I thought of the weight loss process as a time to experiment and learn what way of eating (which foods, what timing) gave me the best balance of tastiness, satiation, nutrition, convenience, and overall happiness.
I tried not to make any changes I was unwilling to make a permanent part of my life . . . other than a reasonable, manageable calorie deficit. This included, while losing, taking an occasional planned day to eat at or even above maintenance calories if it was a true special occasion, like Christmas or my birthday. I was not going to give up all celebratory eating forever, so I needed to learn how to make that work, too.
If you have 37 pounds to goal, you're certainly in a range where 1 pound a week is a good choice, and will soon be reaching a weight where half a pound is the healthier choice. The less you weigh, the slower you should lose, for best assurance of continued good strength, energy, and health.
Besides that "safety margin" thinking, I found three other big advantages in tapering my loss rate as I approached maintenance weight:
First, there was never a point where there was a major hurdle to leap into a dramatically different routine - just a gradual on-ramp to maintenance. Evolution, not revolution.
Second, gradually adding calories helped me to pin down my maintenance calories experimentally. At a few pounds to goal, I started adding daily calories every week or two, perhaps 100 or so at a time, then monitoring my weight long enough to see (amongst water weight fluctuations) whether I was truly still losing, holding steady, or gaining slowly. With each successive add, it took a little longer to see the result. Finally, it was time to set a maintenance body weight range (wide enough to encompass routine daily fluctuations without dramatics) and strive to stay within it long term.
Third, by gradually making small changes to increase calories, it was easiest to do it with small tweaks, like adding some flax seeds to my oatmeal, switching from a lowfat to full-fat dairy product, eating a bit more avocado or cheese, or sometimes adding a small glass of wine.
If, at maintenance, I'd tried to jump straight from a pound a week loss to maintenance calories, I would've been much more likely to add some single big so-called treat every day. There's nothing wrong with big treats . . . but for me, the accumulated smaller tweaks are in practice more satisfying day-to-day than one calorie bomb, and better help me meet my health goals. (YMMV on that one.
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So, summing up, slower loss rate can be not only a more sustainable way to lose, it can also be an easier way to transition to maintenance.
Best wishes for much success: This time really can be the charm!7 -
ladyhusker39 wrote: »This is the coolest thread I have read on here in a while. Thanks for posting. There are so many people in your same position that can draw inspiration from all that's been written here.
Please pop back in and keep us posted on how things are going.
Thank you, I am glad you have enjoyed reading. And like you say, hopefully it can help people in a similar situation.
I have pre logged all of todays food. All of the macros are spot on, protein went over a little. Carbs are at 160gms. I am going to take a deep breath and trust the process 5 -
Calorie counting has helped me trust the process. I used to just wing it and go by the scales. If the scales didn't drop for a few days, I would think I was eating too much and eat even less! I realise now that was a really bad strategy.
Calorie counting has helped me to be patient, not change anything, and wait for the number on the scales to drop. I weigh daily and use the Libra app to track the trend.
The other thing that has helped me has been thinking of a calorie "range" rather than a single number. When I first started calorie counting, I thought I had failed if I didn't get down to my calorie goal. Now I just try to get net calories somewhere between my goal and maintenance calories. If I am hungrier one day I eat more. Other days I am lower and closer to the goal that MFP set.
And a few days, I have been way over even maintenance, like when I went to Pancake Parlour last week. I guesstimated that I ate over 2000 cals that day. I am still losing.
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Yes Jo that is exactly what I was doing last year during my weight loss. If I didn't see the scales go down in number each day, I thought I must have to eat less- which I did. And then I took it way too far to the point of severely undereating.
I will try not to panic if the scales don't reflect my hard work straight away. This will test my patience, but it is a comforting feeling knowing that this is simple science, the kgs will come off if I just stay at a deficit.
Love your idea of a calorie range, I think that is a very wise idea. And good on you for still going out and enjoying life and special occasions whilst still losing, you're amazing!
So far so good for me today. Feeling full and not thinking about food so much 5 -
You've had some terrific advice here, and I think your attitude is even terrific-er. Let me also put in a vote for the Libra app or HappyScale or Trendweight to help you see how your weight loss is going over time, and to put the little blips of everyday weighing in their place. It's wonderful not to get hung up on the daily numbers!
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I never had to diet until after my baby was born at age 38. I gained a lot of weight, it was hard coming off cause of the BC pills and also breastfeeding my baby for over a year, not to mention cooking like I had a family of 10! Went back to work, and stress really climbed so stress eating was par for the course.
When I finally decided to lose weight at age 44, since I was new to it, I was very strict. I lost 45 lbs on Weight Watchers. I never enjoyed eating my meals cause I did not incorporate the things I loved to eat within the calorie allowance. I took perfectionism to a new level. When I got to goal I had to learn maintenance. I failed at it cause I could not say no to my favorite foods...I had not learned to eat them in moderation. I gained the 45 and another 45. Now, I eat what I want as long as it's within my alloted calories. I exercise simply by walking as close to 10K steps daily. I have slowly lost, and that's just fine for me. I know I can eat like this for the rest of my life. So eat your carbs, just less of them...5 -
Training your patience, and at the same time your confidence, is very very smart. Both can come in handy in other situations, and especially when you have reached your weight goal, and start to maintain. In maintenance, you won't see a drop, you will have to get used to your weight staying the same, and not exactly the same, but within a range. You have to stay calm and not do anything drastic until you pick up a trend, but also be aware of trends and ready to act before several pounds have piled on. This is difficult and exciting and takes time to get used to - I think I needed two years of stable weight before I felt I was truly in maintenance. It also takes an ongoing effort - my brain keeps inventing "clever" schemes to make me eat more than I need. I have to be mindful and relaxed, kind and firm, at the same time. My aim now is to let eating be just one of the important and pleasureable things I do every day.teags84mfp wrote: »Yes Jo that is exactly what I was doing last year during my weight loss. If I didn't see the scales go down in number each day, I thought I must have to eat less- which I did. And then I took it way too far to the point of severely undereating.
I will try not to panic if the scales don't reflect my hard work straight away. This will test my patience, but it is a comforting feeling knowing that this is simple science, the kgs will come off if I just stay at a deficit.
Love your idea of a calorie range, I think that is a very wise idea. And good on you for still going out and enjoying life and special occasions whilst still losing, you're amazing!
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kommodevaran wrote: »
Training your patience, and at the same time your confidence, is very very smart. Both can come in handy in other situations, and especially when you have reached your weight goal, and start to maintain. In maintenance, you won't see a drop, you will have to get used to your weight staying the same, and not exactly the same, but within a range. You have to stay calm and not do anything drastic until you pick up a trend, but also be aware of trends and ready to act before several pounds have piled on. This is difficult and exciting and takes time to get used to - I think I needed two years of stable weight before I felt I was truly in maintenance. It also takes an ongoing effort - my brain keeps inventing "clever" schemes to make me eat more than I need. I have to be mindful and relaxed, kind and firm, at the same time. My aim now is to let eating be just one of the important and pleasureable things I do every day.teags84mfp wrote: »Yes Jo that is exactly what I was doing last year during my weight loss. If I didn't see the scales go down in number each day, I thought I must have to eat less- which I did. And then I took it way too far to the point of severely undereating.
I will try not to panic if the scales don't reflect my hard work straight away. This will test my patience, but it is a comforting feeling knowing that this is simple science, the kgs will come off if I just stay at a deficit.
Love your idea of a calorie range, I think that is a very wise idea. And good on you for still going out and enjoying life and special occasions whilst still losing, you're amazing!
So far so good for me today. Feeling full and not thinking about food so much
Wonderful insight yet again from you Kommodevaran. I appreciate your advice on maintenance, something I have never given thought to when losing weight and regaining it all. For once in my life I am thinking ahead and to the maintenance stage. I am sure I will be asking all sorts of questions. It sounds like you have been maintaining for many years, I am in awe of you and hope to reach that sweet spot.
I have had a wonderful day today. Eating 3 meals and snacks, eating every 3 hours to keep fueled. Have had my 1600 cals and been for a walk this evening. Have eaten carbs, a treat in the form of a protein bar, wholemeal bread, yoghurt, fruit and chicken and pasta for dinner. It is such a strange sensation to not be hungry. I have to be honest, I am having the doubts creep in that I won't lose weight eating like this. Surely I should be hungry? This is all so new to me. I just hope I can lose the weight, because right now I feel so satisfied and can do this all my life easily.7 -
We're so trained to expect hunger and deprivation when we try to lose weight! If it doesn't hurt, it must not be working, amiright? It's hugely liberating when we finally realize that no, this doesn't have to be miserable.
There's a certain comfort in knowing what The Rules are, though, and I still find myself wanting to eat a limited rotation of foods/meals in certain amounts because they've worked for weight loss in the past. That's not any different from the other strict diets, except that I've written these myself. We need to be flexible. Be prepared to experiment, to try new foods -- or old favorites -- and see how they work for you. Some will fit your goals, some won't; sometimes your weight will go up a little and sometimes it'll go down. Rigid systems are far more prone to fail -- architects and historians and farmers and marketing execs and biologists all know this. So it behooves us to build some flexibility into our own systems.4 -
This freedom is wonderful, but the doubts you are having are perfectly normal, just as PP explained. I have had a similar experience - even though I never starved myself when dieting, I had my share of do's and don'ts, in particular to avoid fat and eat a lot of vegetables and whole grains, and just generally eat strange combinations of foods in absurdly specific schedules. I have had to pinch myself in the arm many times - but the proof is in the pudding: I am not gaining weight by eating what I like. I actually gained weight because I tried to follow some random rigid diet. What's "abnormal" in your case, is that you're actually challenging your beliefs and try to trust the process. Many people are so ingrained in their beliefs, that starting to "eat enough, but not too much" fills them with terror, and they completely refuse to even consider it.teags84mfp wrote: »kommodevaran wrote: »
Training your patience, and at the same time your confidence, is very very smart. Both can come in handy in other situations, and especially when you have reached your weight goal, and start to maintain. In maintenance, you won't see a drop, you will have to get used to your weight staying the same, and not exactly the same, but within a range. You have to stay calm and not do anything drastic until you pick up a trend, but also be aware of trends and ready to act before several pounds have piled on. This is difficult and exciting and takes time to get used to - I think I needed two years of stable weight before I felt I was truly in maintenance. It also takes an ongoing effort - my brain keeps inventing "clever" schemes to make me eat more than I need. I have to be mindful and relaxed, kind and firm, at the same time. My aim now is to let eating be just one of the important and pleasureable things I do every day.teags84mfp wrote: »Yes Jo that is exactly what I was doing last year during my weight loss. If I didn't see the scales go down in number each day, I thought I must have to eat less- which I did. And then I took it way too far to the point of severely undereating.
I will try not to panic if the scales don't reflect my hard work straight away. This will test my patience, but it is a comforting feeling knowing that this is simple science, the kgs will come off if I just stay at a deficit.
Love your idea of a calorie range, I think that is a very wise idea. And good on you for still going out and enjoying life and special occasions whilst still losing, you're amazing!
So far so good for me today. Feeling full and not thinking about food so much
Wonderful insight yet again from you Kommodevaran. I appreciate your advice on maintenance, something I have never given thought to when losing weight and regaining it all. For once in my life I am thinking ahead and to the maintenance stage. I am sure I will be asking all sorts of questions. It sounds like you have been maintaining for many years, I am in awe of you and hope to reach that sweet spot.
I have had a wonderful day today. Eating 3 meals and snacks, eating every 3 hours to keep fueled. Have had my 1600 cals and been for a walk this evening. Have eaten carbs, a treat in the form of a protein bar, wholemeal bread, yoghurt, fruit and chicken and pasta for dinner. It is such a strange sensation to not be hungry. I have to be honest, I am having the doubts creep in that I won't lose weight eating like this. Surely I should be hungry? This is all so new to me. I just hope I can lose the weight, because right now I feel so satisfied and can do this all my life easily.
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Yes Zone5, so well spoken. I think that's the biggest thing I am struggling with. Having to change long held beliefs about dieting and losing weight and eating low fat, or low carb or green smoothies or whatever latest fad etc etc. Its just crazy really. To think it can really be this simple, it's almost too good to be true.6
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Exactly. We've been scammed before, why should this be the real deal? If we couldn't lose/maintain weight with all that effort and suffering and deprivation, how can just sticking to your calorie goal, work? It makes totally sense to think that way, even though the reasoning is wrong.teags84mfp wrote: »Yes Zone5, so well spoken. I think that's the biggest thing I am struggling with. Having to change long held beliefs about dieting and losing weight and eating low fat, or low carb or green smoothies or whatever latest fad etc etc. Its just crazy really. To think it can really be this simple, it's almost too good to be true.3 -
teags84mfp wrote: »Yes Zone5, so well spoken. I think that's the biggest thing I am struggling with. Having to change long held beliefs about dieting and losing weight and eating low fat, or low carb or green smoothies or whatever latest fad etc etc. Its just crazy really. To think it can really be this simple, it's almost too good to be true.
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kommodevaran wrote: »
Exactly. We've been scammed before, why should this be the real deal? If we couldn't lose/maintain weight with all that effort and suffering and deprivation, how can just sticking to your calorie goal, work? It makes totally sense to think that way, even though the reasoning is wrong.teags84mfp wrote: »Yes Zone5, so well spoken. I think that's the biggest thing I am struggling with. Having to change long held beliefs about dieting and losing weight and eating low fat, or low carb or green smoothies or whatever latest fad etc etc. Its just crazy really. To think it can really be this simple, it's almost too good to be true.
This is so true. I've never dieted before, but I watched my mom and sister struggle with their weight all through my childhood. Jenny Craig, Weight Watchers, various exercise programs, the works. It made me terrified of dieting, because what I saw is that all diets fail and then you end up even fatter. Figuring out that all I needed to do to lose weight is figure out how many calories my body needs to stay my current size, then make sure I'm eating less than that? Genuinely mind blowing.3 -
teags84mfp wrote: »Lillymoo01 wrote: »I have frozen dinners on the rare occasion but really don't like the taste of them much. If they work for you and keep you in a calorie deficit then that is different. Just be mindful that most a very high in sodium which can cause fluid retention and mask weight loss.
I remember the days of catering for an allergic child. Thank God she has grown out of her milk allergy and I now only have to worry about peanuts. One thing you can do to avoid frozen meals and not having to cook too much is to double recipes and freeze half. This can be special meals for yourself, your fussy toddler, or your child with allergies. A bit of work to begin with but it saves a lot of time once you have multiple meals in the freezer. Just having meals with your standard meat and veg works well too. For a while I was dealing with a vegetarian. Pasta worked well. I'd cook the mince in one saucepan, a vege sauce in the other and then just combine the 2, leaving a serving of the sauce behind for the vegetarian. You would just have to be mindful that a serving of pasta is actually quite small meaning you should have a bowl which has a lot more sauce than pasta. There are other meals I adapt which means slight changes caters for all.
Wow Lillymoo, my daughter has the milk and peanut allergy as well as egg whites. Its comforting to know others are in the same boat, but I sure am glad your daughter has outgrown the dairy one. Fingers crossed for my daughter too.
To be totally honest, I am having uneasy feelings about dinner in general, that is why I am gravitating to a ready made meal. I can eat healthy and know exact cals for breakfast, lunch and snacks, I can control it somewhat. I have no idea what is healthy anymore and the things I cook for dinner for the kids are carb rich, things I have tried to steer away from.
I still can't get the fear out of my head about eating a bowl of bolognaise for example, crazy I know. There is this irrational fear that I won't lose weight eating what the family eats for dinner. Sigh.......
Bolognese is a huge comfort food for me, but I used to have loads of pasta and tons of meat rather than veggies! To try and cut back on the pasta I introduced courgetti (zucchini noodles), and increased the ratio of courgetti vs spaghetti every time. You could maybe work this backwards if you're scared of going straight in for the pasta - increasing the ratio of spaghetti vs courgetti?1
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