Did anyone else grow up with obese parents or family members?



  • jbee27
    jbee27 Posts: 356 Member
    My mom has been overweight most of my life that I remember. She was very thin for a long time, up until she had my younger brother and sister (four kids under age seven, I cannot even imagine how little time she had for herself!). She's recently lost a bit of weight after she retired and got really into taking long walks.

    My dad has always been pretty thin, despite eating pretty terribly (very few vegetables, lots of super sugary stuff and a decent amount of fast food) because he has a very physically demanding job as a mechanic.

    Extended family is all across the board, but nobody is super fit.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,330 Member
    My parents became obese while I was growing up...when I was young, they were both pretty lean and active...played tennis a lot and whatnot. My mom started putting on weight when I was in elementary school...my dad didn't really start putting on weight until I was 12 or 13 and we moved the New Mexico...I think it had a lot to do with not knowing people or really having any friends to play tennis with.

    My mom lost her weight when I was in high school. My dad continued to get bigger and bigger and his obesity ultimately killed him.
  • CaladriaNapea
    CaladriaNapea Posts: 140 Member
    My father is morbidly obese; he had been most of my life. Heart attacks, Type II diabetes, the whole shebang. My mother has been overweight to mildly obese at different points in my life. I have a whole host of overweight or obese uncle's, aunt's, cousins, etc.

    More than genetics, I feel that my obesity stemmed from learned attitudes and behaviors. Once I conquered many of those attitudes and behaviors weight management became much easier.
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,426 Member
    Overweight. Not sure if they crossed into obese then.
  • MegaMooseEsq
    MegaMooseEsq Posts: 3,118 Member
    My mom and sister were and are both overweight. I take after my mom and three of her sisters: short and round-ish. My sister takes after my dad's side of the family (my uncle is probably overweight, my dad is a fitness nut): tall and "big boned." She's athletic fat, if that's a term - she was and is very active and fit, but she overeats and hasn't so far figured out a way to deal with that. My dad gave her a horrible time for her weight when she was younger, and I suspect that my mom's weight was tied into their (probably emotionally abusive?) relationship as well. She and my sister were always doing stuff like Jenny Craig or Weight Watchers or diet shakes. It never took. Since getting divorced I think my mom has pretty much given up. I don't care if she loses weight or not, but I do with she'd get a little bit of exercise.
  • newheavensearth
    newheavensearth Posts: 870 Member
    Yes both overweight and morbidly obese. Except for 2 cousins who are performers and keep their weight down by unknown methods. I have another cousin who is now overweight but muscular and lost a huge amount of weight after a failed orthopedic surgery due to the extra weight.

    Most of them have done everything from commercial diets to fad diets. My parents and brother are still obese and only care about sodium in food because their stupid doctor told them that's the only thing they need to worry about to stay healthy. They treat me like I have a disorder because I exercise, practice portion control, and count calories.

    There's also the "big and thick" preference in my family. As in anything under a size 12 (my mom's size before she regained her weight) is too thin according to my family. I'm a 4 so I get regular too thin interventions.
  • rfroehli17
    rfroehli17 Posts: 4 Member
    edited October 2017
    Both my parents were obese when I was growing up. My mom died at the age of 52 from a heart attack. She'd had a quadruple bypass at the age of 40. My dad is now 65 and FINALLY trying to get healthy. I don't ever want to blame my parents because my food decisions are MY decisions - not theirs, BUT I feel like I struggle more with appropriate serving sizes and avoiding desserts more than I would if I had had more appropriate examples growing up.
  • Bry_Fitness70
    Bry_Fitness70 Posts: 2,484 Member
    Overweight, maybe on the verge of obesity at times. My dad is from the south and so there was a lot of gravy made from bacon grease, cornbread, and breading. My mom and her Eastern European family served ethnic food that was less than healthy and served in excessive portions. They were both raised by parents who suffered greatly during the Depression so all plates were to be cleaned or else. Combining that with excessive drinking, smoking, and minimal exercise, it was no surprise that weight and health issues were the norms.
  • Lisa8823168
    Lisa8823168 Posts: 139 Member
    Yes, all four grandparents...one over 500 pounds. Neither parent was overweight...always good that way but excessive smokers-which keeps weight down. Half my siblings are very obese and the other half are very thin. The grandparent and the siblings were/are all structurally bigger boned than the thin siblings...though I am not saying that makes any of it OK.

    I have always been in the middle but larger boned (like my relatives). Even my physician says I don't have the structure/genetics to be ever be "thin". The top end of my BMI is where I should be to be at my healthiest. I do work hard to stay there...the older I get, the more real the struggle.
  • JeromeBarry1
    JeromeBarry1 Posts: 10,182 Member
    Mom was obese. She was about 5'6" and 240 lb before her lifetime of hard drugs brought her down and killed her young. Dad was overweight at age 54 when his ulcerous stomach was butchered in an early form of weight loss surgery. Afterward his inability to overeat, or eat sweet desserts, led to him losing his excess weight and becoming slim for the remaining 31 years of his life. I miss my mom's cooking. Her banana pudding, coconut cake, pecan pie, chess pie, Germans chocolate cake, and so much more were all made from scratch, never a box.
  • ahoy_m8
    ahoy_m8 Posts: 2,955 Member
    Yep. My mum is morbidly obese - she's always been overweight but gained a lot when she stopped smoking aged 40 and never lost it.

    My dad was overweight but not massively so.

    My mum has a load of health problems, which is why I want to be healthy now so I don't end up like her.

    Same here. Mine has disordered eating attitudes and behaviors (hiding food, eating in secret, emotional eating, crash dieting, rewarding with food, unrealistic expectations, etc.) that I learned and have taken a long time to unlearn. Everyone in her family, though --everyone on all sides as many generations back as we have photos-- was tall and lanky. Not an overweight soul in the bunch. Her weight gain was entirely behavioral, no indications of genetic predisposition at all. Her related conditions have cost Medicare a fortune. Equally costly to her quality of life.
  • ahoy_m8
    ahoy_m8 Posts: 2,955 Member

    There's also the "big and thick" preference in my family. As in anything under a size 12 (my mom's size before she regained her weight) is too thin according to my family. I'm a 4 so I get regular too thin interventions.

    I think you look fantastic.
  • hydechildcare
    hydechildcare Posts: 145 Member
    Pretty much every adult in my family was and most still are obese. I blame this on the way we were shown to eat. We did a family dinner every Sunday. Most of the time the meals would be something like this: Spaghetti, fried potatoes, and garlic bread. Or Meat loaf, mash potatoes, rolls, and mac and cheese. I never noticed or thought anything about until my husband (then boyfriend) went to a Sunday dinner and asked my grandma if there was a salad or vegetable. Now when we go to Sunday dinner grandma makes sure there is a salad option. My step mother was overweight and pushed food on to her step kids. She always believe we weren't eating when we said we did. I think she wanted to feel good about herself and birth kids by making us gain weight. In high school I was thin, when I started working I would eat dinner at work and she would insist I was lying and make me eat again when I was home. Because I couldn't go from 11:30 to 9:30 with out eating something I started to put on weight. Getting a car and I stopped walking 4 plus miles a day didn't help.
  • newheavensearth
    newheavensearth Posts: 870 Member
    ahoy_m8 wrote: »

    There's also the "big and thick" preference in my family. As in anything under a size 12 (my mom's size before she regained her weight) is too thin according to my family. I'm a 4 so I get regular too thin interventions.

    I think you look fantastic.

    Thank you!
  • HitTheRoad
    HitTheRoad Posts: 7 Member
    Oh, and my husband’s side! His dad was overweight, borderline obese most of adulthood. His mom was maybe slightly overweight. They both have gotten really healthy in retirement. They eat food they like, in moderation, and are very, very active in their 70s. My husband has always been thin and seems to monitor his food intake pretty intuitively. He is also super, super active and always has been. He maybe has a little “dad bod” after breaking 3 major bones in 7 years and having the associated surgeries to repair them (slowed him down a little). His only sibling is obese. Our kids are 2 elementary schoolers (both will try any food, but care very little about food and would always rather play than eat, even treats. They are skinny, where I monitor that they aren’t skipping meals because they’re busy) and a preschooler (loves sweets but eats a good variety. On the thin side of normal. I try to watch that she develops healthy feelings about treats).
  • rachelr1116
    rachelr1116 Posts: 334 Member
    My mom is overweight. She used to be thin but she's just not good at taking care of herself and has let the weight creep on. My dad is normal weight but I wouldn't say he's healthy because he lives mostly off of convenience foods since he's a truck driver. My brothers are all either normal weight or barely overweight. My extended family (grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins) are almost all overweight or obese. At a family get together last Christmas I was looking around and realized that even though I was overweight I was one of the thinnest people in the room, kids included.
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,373 Member
    My mom thinks that I look perfect on the high end of the normal BMI range. I definitely don't agree... but again, she's always thought that her overweight weight was fine too.
  • lemurcat12
    lemurcat12 Posts: 30,886 Member
    My mom yo-yo'd most of my life. She was really thin into her 20s but then struggled with weight gain after that (she's overweight now, not obese or on the very low end of obesity, but has health problems unrelated to that that interfere with mobility and I think she's basically stopped caring).

    My dad is not overweight and generally has not been; he's mostly been very active too.
  • sardelsa
    sardelsa Posts: 9,812 Member
    No. My dad was overweight when we were growing up, but now he is in pretty great shape and has been for at least 20 years. My mom is normal weight never been overweight. My brother and I are also normal weight, never been overweight.
  • spiriteagle99
    spiriteagle99 Posts: 3,491 Member
    My mother was obese. My dad divorced her when I was 11 because of her weight. We went on my first diet soon afterwards. It made me very weight conscious, so though I was sometimes quite heavy, I never got to the point of being obese. My brother yoyos 100 or so pounds up and down.