Did anyone else grow up with obese parents or family members?

imanibelle
imanibelle Posts: 130 Member
edited November 22 in Health and Weight Loss
Just curious.
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  • daisyfields79
    daisyfields79 Posts: 69 Member
    Yes, my Mom was but she lost it all.
  • RodaRose
    RodaRose Posts: 9,562 Member
    My father tended to be overweight but due to his work he had to watch his weight and be weighed every year.
    My mother was a little under weight perhaps and had weird eating and exercise routines.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    Yep. My mum is morbidly obese - she's always been overweight but gained a lot when she stopped smoking aged 40 and never lost it.

    My dad was overweight but not massively so.

    My mum has a load of health problems, which is why I want to be healthy now so I don't end up like her.
  • amandacalories
    amandacalories Posts: 107 Member
    Both my parents and my older brother were overweight/obese. My brother lost the weight in his 20's and my dad also lost a ton of weight. My mom and I hung on to it but we're both trying to lose now.

    My parents treated food as a reward and we would eat out often and have really savory foods which caused massive weight gain. That has followed me into adulthood and I have to really work on not rewarding myself after a long day with food.
  • livingleanlivingclean
    livingleanlivingclean Posts: 11,751 Member
    My dad was overweight/obese (not sure of his exact classification) and was forever on some sort of fad diet imposed on him by my mum.
    (none of them worked.. Surprise surprise)

    My mum was tiny, and ate like a sparrow. She was in to the low fat thing.
  • Veganniee
    Veganniee Posts: 460 Member
    My dad wasn't obese. He had what he called a winter weight and a summer weight though! Apparently when he was much younger he was overweight until joining RAF and then lost it all and kept it off. Mum has always struggled with her weight for as long as i can remember. She lost so much after dad died. I'd estimate at least 4st/50-60lbs and has yoyo'd since then.
  • ladyreva78
    ladyreva78 Posts: 4,080 Member
    Some of my earliest memories of my mother was her trying the latest weight-loss fad. Master Cleanse anyone?

    She wasn't obese at the time, but every year a few more kg more landed on her hips and she tried yet another fad to lose it and is obese now.
  • jesspen91
    jesspen91 Posts: 1,383 Member
    My mum was always overweight when I was growing up. It was difficult for her because she had four children in very short succession. I remember her being large in my early childhood but I don't know if that was body fat or pregnancy! I have seen pictures of her before children and she was probably a similar size then to what I am now. She has now lost weight and is pretty tiny. My sister and I definitely take after her in body shape. Slim legs, large bust and waist, short stature and petite bone structure. So I imagine I will probably look like her when I am older.

    My dad on the other hand was always ridiculously skinny. He played (field) hockey and was always very active but with very little muscle mass. He still enjoyed his food and beer and never had to worry about what he ate. Then suddenly he hit 50 and a beer belly appeared overnight! My Grampy (his dad) is the same, skinny everywhere apart from his stomach. One of my brothers takes after them and is currently very skinny whereas my other brother was chubby as a teenager but is now pretty muscular. He takes much more after my maternal grandfather who was always stocky before he became frail.

    I think that genetics definitely play a part in where you store your fat but when it comes to weight gain that is far more environmental.
  • jemhh
    jemhh Posts: 14,261 Member
    Yes. Obesity is fairly common in my area, though many people who are obese would say that they just have a few pounds to lose. For most women, there's only 30 pounds between healthy and obese but people think that the spread is bigger than that.
  • SezxyStef
    SezxyStef Posts: 15,267 Member
    my mom was always on a diet...not that she was fat...she wasn't.

    My father would go up and down (he died at 30 so there is that) depending on his job...aka working in the woods vs driving truck.

    I have extended family however that were always big...aunts cousins etc and some died due to their issues.

    I was overweight almost my son's entire life...not obese but fat for sure.

    I have a step sister who is obese

    my brothers currently all need to lose weight.

  • ccruz985
    ccruz985 Posts: 646 Member
    All of my immediate family is/was overweight/obese at one time or another.
  • pinuplove
    pinuplove Posts: 12,871 Member
    edited October 2017
    My mom was off and on weight watchers from as long as I can remember. Dad was always slim. Lost them both at a relatively young age. Mom's was not a condition that is typically weight-related, but Dad's was.
  • malibu927
    malibu927 Posts: 17,562 Member
    Everyone except for one aunt
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    Yep, everyone was overweight too. Except my freakish brother who was one of those 'can eat everything he wants and doesn't gain weight' type (now he's 41 though and does have to watch what he eats).
  • HitTheRoad
    HitTheRoad Posts: 7 Member
    My mom has always been tiny. I guess you could say she eats what she likes, just smaller portions, if you consider that to be no breakfast, lunch of snacking on chips and a few raw veggies and then minimal evening eating, just wine. She has made comments about everyone’s weight as long as I can remember.

    My dad has had some periods of being overweight, mostly in the 80s when eating business lunches out every day was a thing. He’s mostly been normal weight.

    My sister and I have mostly been normal weight, with a few overweight periods, no obesity. My brother has always been thin but is now overweight in his 30s, though not obese.

    Extended family is the same. Mostly normal, a few who are/have been overweight. No obesity. We are all in the Midwest.
  • JillianRumrill
    JillianRumrill Posts: 335 Member
    edited October 2017
    Yes. My mom and the majority of her side of the family are overweight or obese. My grandparents were overweight. I think there's a genetic component- either predisposition to obesity or predisposition to anxiety which leads to obesity (stress eating). My dad is overweight, but that's due to poor diet. Back in the 90s he lost a bunch of weight from going running. But he eventually gained some of it back. He's very active. My mom almost died from diabetes a few years ago. I don't wanna take after her.
  • quiksylver296
    quiksylver296 Posts: 28,439 Member
    No. My dad is thin, always has been. My mom has fluctuated between somewhat overweight (maybe 20 lbs?) and normal.
  • ruqayyahsmum
    ruqayyahsmum Posts: 1,513 Member
    All the adults in my family were morbidly obese...... as a child I was actually underweight and the doctors were constantly on at my mother to feed me more, give me extra treats etc
    My mum couldn't cook. Every meal either came out a box in the freezer to be served with chips or was a takeaway/restaurant meal

    I started packing on weight at puberty despite attending dance classes, gymnastics and swimming every day of the week

    I would be accused of secretly eating food despite being constantly monitored, turned out I have pcos
    I then purposefully gained several stone age 18 after being attacked

    My parents are still obese thou not as big as before. My mum has vascular alzhimers, in a home since late 50's where they calorie control anything given to her due to her needing to be lifted for all cares as she's immobile

    My dad lost weight due to I'll health too and he needed knee replacements
  • jbee27
    jbee27 Posts: 356 Member
    My mom has been overweight most of my life that I remember. She was very thin for a long time, up until she had my younger brother and sister (four kids under age seven, I cannot even imagine how little time she had for herself!). She's recently lost a bit of weight after she retired and got really into taking long walks.

    My dad has always been pretty thin, despite eating pretty terribly (very few vegetables, lots of super sugary stuff and a decent amount of fast food) because he has a very physically demanding job as a mechanic.

    Extended family is all across the board, but nobody is super fit.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    My parents became obese while I was growing up...when I was young, they were both pretty lean and active...played tennis a lot and whatnot. My mom started putting on weight when I was in elementary school...my dad didn't really start putting on weight until I was 12 or 13 and we moved the New Mexico...I think it had a lot to do with not knowing people or really having any friends to play tennis with.

    My mom lost her weight when I was in high school. My dad continued to get bigger and bigger and his obesity ultimately killed him.
  • CaladriaNapea
    CaladriaNapea Posts: 140 Member
    My father is morbidly obese; he had been most of my life. Heart attacks, Type II diabetes, the whole shebang. My mother has been overweight to mildly obese at different points in my life. I have a whole host of overweight or obese uncle's, aunt's, cousins, etc.

    More than genetics, I feel that my obesity stemmed from learned attitudes and behaviors. Once I conquered many of those attitudes and behaviors weight management became much easier.
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    Overweight. Not sure if they crossed into obese then.
  • MegaMooseEsq
    MegaMooseEsq Posts: 3,118 Member
    My mom and sister were and are both overweight. I take after my mom and three of her sisters: short and round-ish. My sister takes after my dad's side of the family (my uncle is probably overweight, my dad is a fitness nut): tall and "big boned." She's athletic fat, if that's a term - she was and is very active and fit, but she overeats and hasn't so far figured out a way to deal with that. My dad gave her a horrible time for her weight when she was younger, and I suspect that my mom's weight was tied into their (probably emotionally abusive?) relationship as well. She and my sister were always doing stuff like Jenny Craig or Weight Watchers or diet shakes. It never took. Since getting divorced I think my mom has pretty much given up. I don't care if she loses weight or not, but I do with she'd get a little bit of exercise.
  • newheavensearth
    newheavensearth Posts: 870 Member
    Yes both overweight and morbidly obese. Except for 2 cousins who are performers and keep their weight down by unknown methods. I have another cousin who is now overweight but muscular and lost a huge amount of weight after a failed orthopedic surgery due to the extra weight.

    Most of them have done everything from commercial diets to fad diets. My parents and brother are still obese and only care about sodium in food because their stupid doctor told them that's the only thing they need to worry about to stay healthy. They treat me like I have a disorder because I exercise, practice portion control, and count calories.

    There's also the "big and thick" preference in my family. As in anything under a size 12 (my mom's size before she regained her weight) is too thin according to my family. I'm a 4 so I get regular too thin interventions.
  • rfroehli17
    rfroehli17 Posts: 4 Member
    edited October 2017
    Both my parents were obese when I was growing up. My mom died at the age of 52 from a heart attack. She'd had a quadruple bypass at the age of 40. My dad is now 65 and FINALLY trying to get healthy. I don't ever want to blame my parents because my food decisions are MY decisions - not theirs, BUT I feel like I struggle more with appropriate serving sizes and avoiding desserts more than I would if I had had more appropriate examples growing up.
  • Bry_Fitness70
    Bry_Fitness70 Posts: 2,480 Member
    Overweight, maybe on the verge of obesity at times. My dad is from the south and so there was a lot of gravy made from bacon grease, cornbread, and breading. My mom and her Eastern European family served ethnic food that was less than healthy and served in excessive portions. They were both raised by parents who suffered greatly during the Depression so all plates were to be cleaned or else. Combining that with excessive drinking, smoking, and minimal exercise, it was no surprise that weight and health issues were the norms.
  • Lisa8823168
    Lisa8823168 Posts: 139 Member
    Yes, all four grandparents...one over 500 pounds. Neither parent was overweight...always good that way but excessive smokers-which keeps weight down. Half my siblings are very obese and the other half are very thin. The grandparent and the siblings were/are all structurally bigger boned than the thin siblings...though I am not saying that makes any of it OK.

    I have always been in the middle but larger boned (like my relatives). Even my physician says I don't have the structure/genetics to be ever be "thin". The top end of my BMI is where I should be to be at my healthiest. I do work hard to stay there...the older I get, the more real the struggle.
  • JeromeBarry1
    JeromeBarry1 Posts: 10,179 Member
    Mom was obese. She was about 5'6" and 240 lb before her lifetime of hard drugs brought her down and killed her young. Dad was overweight at age 54 when his ulcerous stomach was butchered in an early form of weight loss surgery. Afterward his inability to overeat, or eat sweet desserts, led to him losing his excess weight and becoming slim for the remaining 31 years of his life. I miss my mom's cooking. Her banana pudding, coconut cake, pecan pie, chess pie, Germans chocolate cake, and so much more were all made from scratch, never a box.
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