Loved ones are tired of hearing about my progress and process.

wabuss wrote: »

Hey folks. I get that they’re tired of it. Thank you for addressing it. I’m just here for the support they aren’t able to give. I’m not the one who brings it up. When someone asks about my day or asks why I’m looking so good, I just answer. I don’t want to go on about it to them.

I’m just here looking for people on the same journey. I’m not complaining or trying to change my loved ones. I have just realized I need the support of those with the same goals.

But, but, if they are asking you about it, then how are they not supporting you?? And I'm afraid to say, your first post definitely came across at complaining your family and friends were not supportive enough. If you are simply answering questions about your day, I am not sure why they would think you are lecturing or judging them. Maybe when they ask, just give shorter answers that cannot be misconstrued.

Isn't this why we're all here? Come on here and shout it out. Everyone here will give virtual standing ovations and throw virtual (less messy) confetti!

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10611664/60-minutes-per-month-plank-challenge-november-2017#latest

Here's the link.

Congrats, that's a great achievement!

Totally understand your point of view, even though my circumstances are different. I only talk to my husband about my progress/goals & one co-worker as they are the only folk I know who are trying to improve their physical shape & are delighted to have discussions about it all.

I've only been at this since 28th July this year, but for the first maybe.. 6 weeks? All I was doing was researching weightloss, putting it into action & then doing the same for fitness. I felt like I had nothing interesting to say to anyone else because I'd been down this rabbit hole! Slowly emerging out now & like you, I answer only if I'm asked. But I made some fab pals on here & it's nice to chat about these things together

Sounds like your planking is a huge success! You should definitely be proud of yourself, especially as your abdomen has been through such a lot with operations.

I get what you're saying. You're proud and excited at what you've accomplished and you want to celebrate it with people you care about. That's completely natural. Your family however, doesn't see it that way and it's grating on your relationship.

I've never been able to talk about my weight loss with my sister. I have a college degree, a successful marriage and a happy home, but I've always struggled with my weight. She has an unhappy home life, but she's always been tall and thin.

Now that I've lost weight I somehow feel like I'm stepping on her toes and throwing off the balance in our relationship. It's weird. I just want help figuring out how to buy clothes in the regular sized section which is much different and 10 times larger than the "big girls" department. I just gave up trying and don't talk about it anymore.

This is a very supportive community. You might need to do some searching to find the little corner of it that meets your needs. There are tons of groups that can be great for that. The general forums are more helpful in identifying where you might be struggling and providing helpful answers to problems. When a post like this comes up people go into problem solving mode and sometimes it can come off the wrong way to newbies. But you're completely welcome here and will get tons of support and help.

We'll also give you a kick in *kitten* when/if you need it

Congratulations on your accomplishment!

wabuss wrote: »

Hi there. I’ve lost 74 pounds in a slow, healthy way over 3 years. I have 31 more to go until I’m no longer considered medically overweight. My friends and loved ones seem pretty tired of hearing about my accomplishments and my fitness and nutrition. I just want someone to be happy for me or encourage me, but they seem to think I’m lecturing or judging them. They often try to discourage or sabotage me. It’s very frustrating. Life is not like The Oprah Show or The Biggest Loser, is it? There’s no standing ovation or confetti, it seems. Thank goodness for my increasing health and energy as my prizes! If you have the same struggles, or if you’re just getting started and would like some support, please add me as a friend. I would love to trade support, encouragement, frustrations, and tips with you. Let’s be happy for each other and keep going!

-S

I'm happy for you as is everyone else here. We all know how hard it is as well as the desire/need for support and encouragement from those closest to you. Keep at it with the next 31 lbs. Do you have some active hobbies? Might be fun to join a biking club or something like that to find some social support for your new lifestyle. Or maybe you could provide support to others, and for yourself, in an over-aters anonymous group of some kind. Good luck!

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Misery loves company, birds of a feather and all that...you have gone from being a part of that to becoming an eagle, soaring away from the lifestyle that was unhealthy for you but that your family and friends still embrace. They may be tired of hearing about your successes, but if even one of them (maybe the bacon-waver) starts thinking and doing healthier things because of your excitement, progress and transformation then that is cause for celebration! I am excited for anyone who is excited about feeling better, being healthier and a little less fluffy and a little more streamlined. Doing this is hard, holding yourself accountable, staying disciplined, walking away from the waving bacon and every other temptation...(I hate you, Sara Lee!!! ) is hard. You got this! And know that someone (me) is doing a happy dance (that is exercise, right?!?) in your honor!!!! Keep up the good, hard work!!!❤️

maryannprt wrote: »

ladyhusker39 wrote: »

I get what you're saying. You're proud and excited at what you've accomplished and you want to celebrate it with people you care about. That's completely natural. Your family however, doesn't see it that way and it's grating on your relationship.

I've never been able to talk about my weight loss with my sister. I have a college degree, a successful marriage and a happy home, but I've always struggled with my weight. She has an unhappy home life, but she's always been tall and thin.

Now that I've lost weight I somehow feel like I'm stepping on her toes and throwing off the balance in our relationship. It's weird. I just want help figuring out how to buy clothes in the regular sized section which is much different and 10 times larger than the "big girls" department. I just gave up trying and don't talk about it anymore.

This is a very supportive community. You might need to do some searching to find the little corner of it that meets your needs. There are tons of groups that can be great for that. The general forums are more helpful in identifying where you might be struggling and providing helpful answers to problems. When a post like this comes up people go into problem solving mode and sometimes it can come off the wrong way to newbies. But you're completely welcome here and will get tons of support and help.

We'll also give you a kick in *kitten* when/if you need it

Congratulations on your accomplishment!

I'm sorry your sister isn't able to be supportive, but of course it throws off the balance in your relationship. It's hard work to have adult relationships with the people we grew up with. Whenever we get together as a family (6 of us) my younger sister and I (now 57 and 56 years old) somehow become "the little girls", like we're still inseparable, and still 4 and 5 years old. If you can talk to your family members about what you need from them to be supportive, great. If not, you do what works for you and get that support elsewhere, like here.

Thanks for the kind words, but I'm not the OP. I was just relaying my story to her to show that I can relate and that many of us here have been or are now in her shoes. I appreciate it tough.