Girlfriend broke up with me/panic mode

Hang in there, I know it s tough. We have all been there at one time or another. However...this could be good opportunity for you. I also like to look at the positive in the situation. This is great time to meet new people, try new things, its summertime!! Join a fitness group, gym, sport, or many activities you can do outside. Most important....dont be home and be sad. No person is worth that. She will be sorry when you are looking sexy with new GF on your arm!! You go get em tiger!!! Good Luck!! Sending you a hug now!

A lot of people will tell you to calm down, don't let it bother you, and move on quickly. Don't do that. Let it feel how it feels. It sucks, but you have to let it hurt or it not to hurt, know what I mean? Sorry to hear that, just start to move on--slowly.

I am pretty much in agreement with this. Sometimes I just like to feel like I wanna feel.

I'm going through the same issues right now. What I've done is turned all my bad emotions into excersize energy. It gives me something to focous on other then wanting to be with him, or take care of him, or anything to do with him. I find I get to focoused on pushing myself, and for a precious amount of time I don't feel the pain, or think of him at all.

I don't know if that will help you, but I hope so. At the very least, if you do that you'll have the cals for the pizza.

I know nothing would be worse to me then when I'm finally ready to see him again, and be friends again [or be forced to see him, due to the class we signed up for togeather] then for him to look at me and think "oh god. Look at what she's become. I can't believe I was with that." That curbs the emotional eating a bit too.

Good luck.

Ugh, I know how you feel. My bf (which was kinda my unofficial fiance) basically shoved me away to the point where I had to break it off with him 4 1/2 months ago. I was trying to get healthy for him and I just felt like I blew it, that I wasn't good enough for him. But the truth is, he wasn't good enough for me. I have found SO much self-worth and success after breaking up with him, it's unbelievable. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Use this situation to better yourself in every way possible and you'll make it through! Best wishes :flowerforyou:

Oooh, yumm. Gonna try that.

Just remember the trick is to keep breathing.

That is so true. It was hard for me to breathe after my previous relationship ended. It hurt just to fill my lungs, it was crazy
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Here are Tips:

Keep exercising.....even if it is just walking, it will clear your emotions

Read a book ( I love C.S. Lewis Narnia series...but that is me, you might like Michael Crichton or something) or watch a sappy movie like, Legends of the Fall.

If you do eat...make sure it is a healthy splurge.. For example, Amy's Pizza's are healthy or get a single thin crust serving of a California pizza kitchen. If you want to binge, get some icecream or some fat-free popcorn with apple slices and go crazy!

Spend time alone and write your feelings (don't force yourself to go out, stay in alone or with close friends who don't mind you crying silently in the corner)

Have someone you can talk to and get emotional with (usually these people should be available to you at a moments notice).

Remember....you just went through an emotional train wreck...you are very fragile. You are, like, in the ICU. I would take a day off from work if possible.

Ummm, begging doesn't work... I've tried it....

Most of all, realize, everyone has been through it. I might take you six months to feel normal again. However, we are proud of you, keep going! No one can take away what makes you special! Concentrate on what you want in your life. Some people are here for a season, a reason, or a lifetime.

I hope you feel better. It will be okay.

Maine

U can do it! Show her what she lost! the right person is out there! keep up the good work!!

Go get the book It's Called A BreakUp Because it's Broken. It is amazing and can really help you get through this. Like what everyone else said, try to get exercise and stay busy but if you do dive head first into a pizza one day, forgive yourself the next and start fresh the next day. That book and a half pint got my through my old breakup but the next day I got back on track. But honestly, that book is life and dignity saving.

She might have been your inspiration to start, but you need to find an inspiration to keep going. Think about the next girl you might meet - how do you want to meet her? Do you want to be unhealthy after a month of eating badly and not exercising? Or do you want to impress her with your motivation?

We had a motivational speaker at work a couple of years ago that taught the philosophy "SUMO" It means Shut Up and Move On. BUT the thing I liked about it most was that the first step in the process is allowing yourself to wallow. Give yourself a timeframe for this wallowing, and allow yourself to feel what you need to feel. If that is feeling a pizza in your tummy, then feel the pizza. After this time (give yourself a week, or a couple of days), it's time to Shut Up and Move On. SUMO. You've had your time to wallow, and now it's time to move on.

SUMO got me through my recent breakup. I gave myself a week to do what I wanted food wise, and I didn't force myself to exercise. I did exercise though - punching bag works wonders....

First off.... I'm very sorry for this stressful time in your life. Second off, I saw that you're from Dayton, and I am, too If you'd like to get together and walk somewhere, like the mall, Metropark, whatever, I'm here Like someone said, She may have been your inspiration to start.... but use yourself as the inspiration to keep going. That's what I'm doing..... I'm using myself as proof that I can do this!!!! I can keep going!!!!!!