Physical attraction subjective or objective?

vm007
vm007 Posts: 241 Member
edited November 23 in Chit-Chat
Love is hormones right?

So physical attraction is societal ? since it's 100% subjective. I have traveled not a lot but at least to different continents and I've noticed huge difference between preferences.

I ain't conspiracy whisperer or what not but is it true then -companies push an agenda- people start getting brain washed then we look for those attributes in potential mate -potential mates also tries to live up to or try to imitate the standards set in society -using/buying/trying those products and what not?

Must be society setting standards because with times they keep changing.

Is there something universally ugly ?
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  • Find_Me_Again
    Find_Me_Again Posts: 299 Member
    I married my husband because he has a beard and I like Duck Dynasty.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Totally subjective.
  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    Find_Me_Again wrote: »
    I married my husband because he has a beard and I like Duck Dynasty.

    I keep reading this as "...and I like Daffy Duck."
  • Find_Me_Again
    Find_Me_Again Posts: 299 Member
    cee134 wrote: »
    Find_Me_Again wrote: »
    I married my husband because he has a beard and I like Duck Dynasty.

    I keep reading this as "...and I like Daffy Duck."

    I miss the awesome button.
  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,626 Member
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    callsitlikeiseeit wrote: »
    subjective.beauty is in the eye of the beholder, after all.

    I'm thankful that my wife's vision is poor.

    im thankful my fiances vision is poor and that his hearing is worse (not because of my voice, but he cant hear all the *kitten* i mutter under my breath) loloolol :P
  • JillianRumrill
    JillianRumrill Posts: 335 Member
    edited January 2018
    I happen to like blue eyes and big guys. The bigness I suppose is because most of my male relatives are large, so that's what I'm used to, but they're also medium-dark eyes and I'm just not attracted to that. My hubby is a 6" 2nd gen polish man with blue eyes and huge trucker arms. <3

    Universally ugly is a bad personality.
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    In the sense that there is an ideal of attfactiveness that can be controlled by what models and actors are in the public eye most.
    On a personal level it is very subjective what you are attracted to. I think that can be influenced by non-physical things like personality.

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  • Need2Exerc1se
    Need2Exerc1se Posts: 13,575 Member
    Subjective. 100%

    Also beauty and attraction are not synonyms.
  • Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings
    Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings Posts: 5,545 Member
    Need2Exerc1se wrote: »
    Subjective. 100%

    Also beauty and attraction are not synonyms.

    exactly
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  • eccomi_qui
    eccomi_qui Posts: 1,831 Member
    _seahorses5ever wrote: »
    Love and attraction are two very different things.

    There are so many factors that make up why we find someone attractive; pheromones, common interests, kindness, humour etc etc. Though according to scientific research we often find people who are more symmetrical more attractive.

    I read somewhere people have types, do you think this is scientific?
  • sardelsa
    sardelsa Posts: 9,812 Member
    I am only physically attracted to someone if I get to know them and my brain agrees. So I guess I am attracted to certain personalities vs physical attributes. Not to be confused with finding someone aesthetically pleasing, like a work of art, structure or nature. I find very few people actually physically attractive.. maybe one celebrity (who I know a lot about and admire his brilliance, work and talent) and my husband.
  • lancenuovo
    lancenuovo Posts: 517 Member
    i am not a hunk or ripped. that can still come, but my wife loved my personality and sense of humor. plus felt i treated her well. so, beauty=attraction?
  • vm007
    vm007 Posts: 241 Member
    "He/she is out of your league" isn't it funny. Someone is dating someone else yet someone who isn't even in that very relationship comments and make someone dating feel conscious that what would "others" think.

    I've never bothered with these things but I guess because I'm getting old I'm trying to get a general perspective of things lol
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  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    edited January 2018
    MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »
    _seahorses5ever wrote: »
    Love and attraction are two very different things.

    There are so many factors that make up why we find someone attractive; pheromones, common interests, kindness, humour etc etc. Though according to scientific research we often find people who are more symmetrical more attractive.

    This is true. Many physical features that send a signal that you're healthy and would have good genes is what drives us to want to mate with each other.

    But we do live in a society that conditions us to think certain things are physically attractive. So at this point it's probably a mix of nature and nurture.

    Side note fun fact: one of the reasons we [as humans] think babies are cute is because their heads are rounder, eyes appear larger and closer the the center of the face.

    Ahhh, so that's why cartoons are drawn like that. Look it up, I'm serious.
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  • MySweetLavinia
    MySweetLavinia Posts: 90 Member
    It's completely subjective (the way fatness and skinniness go in and out of fashion over time is a good example of how society's idea of beauty changes).

    I don't think there is any objective human idea of attractiveness- not even something as popular as "youth" or "health"- because you will always find a good number of humans who don't feel that way.
  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    sardelsa wrote: »
    I am only physically attracted to someone if I get to know them and my brain agrees. So I guess I am attracted to certain personalities vs physical attributes. Not to be confused with finding someone aesthetically pleasing, like a work of art, structure or nature. I find very few people actually physically attractive.. maybe one celebrity (who I know a lot about and admire his brilliance, work and talent) and my husband.

    So.... if I was funny and smart you would be attracted to me even if I was so ugly I could be a modern art masterpiece?
  • sardelsa
    sardelsa Posts: 9,812 Member
    cee134 wrote: »
    sardelsa wrote: »
    I am only physically attracted to someone if I get to know them and my brain agrees. So I guess I am attracted to certain personalities vs physical attributes. Not to be confused with finding someone aesthetically pleasing, like a work of art, structure or nature. I find very few people actually physically attractive.. maybe one celebrity (who I know a lot about and admire his brilliance, work and talent) and my husband.

    So.... if I was funny and smart you would be attracted to me even if I was so ugly I could be a modern art masterpiece?

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  • eccomi_qui
    eccomi_qui Posts: 1,831 Member
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    I like tallish girls and most happen to be caucasian. But there are some girls I kinda like that aren't tall. Most that I like aren't real short though. All the girls I've put on a pedastool happen to be on the tallish side.

    Pedastool. My new favourite word.
  • LearningToFly13
    LearningToFly13 Posts: 329 Member
    Love doesn't have a type.
  • caco_ethes
    caco_ethes Posts: 11,962 Member
    eccomi_qui wrote: »
    Workout4Health wrote: »
    I like tallish girls and most happen to be caucasian. But there are some girls I kinda like that aren't tall. Most that I like aren't real short though. All the girls I've put on a pedastool happen to be on the tallish side.

    Pedastool. My new favourite word.

    :joy:
  • NaeJayKay
    NaeJayKay Posts: 14 Member
    edited January 2018
    vm007 wrote: »
    Love is hormones right?

    Is there something universally ugly ?

    I thought for a while before I decided to answer this because I wouldn't want someone to be reading to see my answer and be reminded of something they already know. So, instead I'm going to answer what is universally considered attractive: Clear skin.

    In my opinion there is absolutely NOTHING more unattractive in a human being than someone who attempts to exalt themselves all the time. Gross. Second to that would be someone who is always confrontational.

    I think physical appearance catches our attention but doesn't always mean we pursue someone based on that. When we click with someone, it seems we subconsciously recognize the possibility of long term companionship and maybe that causes us to desire their company, when we desire their company we think of them more, when we think of them more, we develop feelings. The common thing I have found in the guys I've been interested in and dated was their gentle honesty and openness (not in a TMI kind of way).
  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    edited January 2018
    sardelsa wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    sardelsa wrote: »
    I am only physically attracted to someone if I get to know them and my brain agrees. So I guess I am attracted to certain personalities vs physical attributes. Not to be confused with finding someone aesthetically pleasing, like a work of art, structure or nature. I find very few people actually physically attractive.. maybe one celebrity (who I know a lot about and admire his brilliance, work and talent) and my husband.

    So.... if I was funny and smart you would be attracted to me even if I was so ugly I could be a modern art masterpiece?

    9jzswtrdw3k4.png

    What the *kitten* are you talking about?
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