Etiquette on PMs?

abbefaria4
abbefaria4 Posts: 46 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
Hello all,

I’m new here. What is the etiquette regarding PMs. If we find someone posting interesting stuff, is it ok to message them or do people hate that?

Thanks,
Andrew
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  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,449 Member
    I say try it and see - everyone is different.
  • janejellyroll
    janejellyroll Posts: 25,763 Member
    If people have good-will comments or questions about my posts, I don't mind getting messages from them.
  • GettingFit5551
    GettingFit5551 Posts: 110 Member
    As long as people are polite, I love getting messages!
  • janejellyroll
    janejellyroll Posts: 25,763 Member
    cmriverside wrote: »
    janejellyroll wrote: »
    If people have good-will comments or questions about my posts, I don't mind getting messages from them.

    I love your posts.



    <<~~~signed, Too Lazy to PM :)

    Telling someone in public is always good too! :D
  • MegaMooseEsq
    MegaMooseEsq Posts: 3,118 Member
    Yeah, I definitely don't mind so long as you're not trying to sell me something or get me to join something. I've never gotten any hookup messages, but that wouldn't be welcome either.
  • fitoverfortymom
    fitoverfortymom Posts: 3,452 Member
    WhereIsPJSoles wrote: »
    I thought this was going to be etiquette on PMS and was legitimately looking forward to some answers

    The only etiquette tip for that is, "Run." :D I don't show my face/body either to avoid anyone thinking I want to see their junk. Has worked well so far.
  • zara1296
    zara1296 Posts: 56 Member
    As long as they are appropriate it’s fine:)
  • LivingtheLeanDream
    LivingtheLeanDream Posts: 13,342 Member
    As long as the PM isn't creepy ...
  • etherealanwar
    etherealanwar Posts: 465 Member
    RunRutheeRun wrote: »
    As long as the PM isn't creepy ...

    I second this, haha!
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
    manderson27 wrote: »
    If you send a friend request always include a message saying why you want to be friends with them. I tend to just decline requests without a message.
    .

    Ditto.
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,326 Member
    edited January 2018
    If it's polite, go for it. I second all the above for non creepy, non junk photo PMs.

    Might be controversial of me though but, if it's part of the forum conversation and there's no reason to want it private, leave it in the forum conversation. I get annoyed when people PM a continuation of a conversation I'm already having for no reason other than they want to one on one. Especially when you take umbrage to a point I make publicly and want to fight about it in private.

    But i also hate getting PMs and avoid answering where possible. I have the form and my wall to chat on. If you want to chat, send a friend request and then chat on my wall.
  • TonyB0588
    TonyB0588 Posts: 9,520 Member
    abbefaria4 wrote: »
    Hello all,

    I’m new here. What is the etiquette regarding PMs. If we find someone posting interesting stuff, is it ok to message them or do people hate that?

    Thanks,
    Andrew

    Not sure there are any specific rules, but as far as I can tell, there isn't a lot of it going on. I send very few, and receive very few. I only remember one person sending messages that hinted of non-MFP intentions. But even then the person was being overly cautious, and I certainly wasn't going to be the one to escalate it.
  • elphie754
    elphie754 Posts: 7,574 Member
    I don't mind getting PMs unless they are the spammy MLM products. Even then I usually send a short message back saying not interested, thank you. As long as the person is not pestering me (asking why I haven't replied yet etc) I'm okay with them.
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
    Alatariel75 wrote: »
    If it's polite, go for it. I second all the above for non creepy, non junk photo PMs.

    Might be controversial of me though but, if it's part of the forum conversation and there's no reason to want it private, leave it in the forum conversation. I get annoyed when people PM a continuation of a conversation I'm already having for no reason other than they want to one on one. Especially when you take umbrage to a point I make publicly and want to fight about it in private.

    But i also hate getting PMs and avoid answering where possible. I have the form and my wall to chat on. If you want to chat, send a friend request and then chat on my wall.

    Agreed.
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