What nobody tells you about losing weight

Tacklewasher · January 2018

zharptichka wrote: »

How much your opinion of yourself yo-yos. In the span of a minute going from holy crap I look so awesome to omg I'm so fat back to I'm rockin this. It's exhausting.

This.

And how much worse it can be if you have an off day food wise.

ITUSGirl51 · January 2018

I see a slim person and wonder if she has to work really hard to stay that way or if it’s easy for her and doesn’t think twice about what she eats or how many calories she needs to burn that day. I wonder what that would be like.

I compare myself to other women that look around my height and have the same body type. If I think they look good I wonder if I look the same or fatter. I wish I would stop doing that.

As someone said earlier, you look the same in the mirror as you did 50 lbs ago. It’s really hard to see the difference. Trying on new smaller sizes helps with this a lot. I also have a before picture that helps remind me of how much I have changed.

I’m also sensitive about getting more respect from people or people thinking I’m more intelligent or competent now. I’m the exact same person I was 10 months ago. I just move more and eat less. The intelligence, sense of humor, and competence is exactly the same.

whosshe · January 2018

I'm more afraid of meeting new people because I always thought people wouldn't like me because I was fat and now I'm afraid they won't like me as a person.

acfisher88 · January 2018

Not having to check weight limits for activities like theme park rides or water slides. I used to teeter on the edge of most, but now I'm comfortably within them

orionaimee · January 2018

whosshe wrote: »

I'm more afraid of meeting new people because I always thought people wouldn't like me because I was fat and now I'm afraid they won't like me as a person.

I so get this one. I work for a European company and there are a lot of executives from our home country who think that people who are overweight are lazy and therefore they ignore them. I have been ignored and treated like I was invisible in the past. I keep on wondering how these same people would treat me now that I am down 50lbs. I will actually be in the same place as one of them next week so I guess I will find out soon enough...

mustb60 · January 2018

abbynormalartist wrote: »

Hungry_Shopgirl wrote: »

Nobody told me that regardless of how much I lost, it would not be enough to please everybody.

I'm tall, western, and live in Asia. I also happen to speak the local language, which the lady behind me at the supermarket checkout obviously didn't imagine as she chatted up the checkout girl with phrases like: "Look at this fat foreigner. And she's buying so much chicken! No wonder she's huge".

So many things went through my head. The main one was: "Lady, you think I'm huge now, you should have seen me 50 lbs ago!" But the truth is I'm at a healthy BMI, I'm lighter, more toned, fitter than I've ever been in my entire life. And yet it was still not enough to make the random stranger not look down on me and my food choices.

I know it shouldn't bother me, but really, I felt gutted.

Oh Asia, it can be blunt sometimes. When my husband and I went to Singapore the first time, someone came up to me and said, "Ang mo! So fat!" There was no ill will in that at all but I was 130lbs and it really caught me off guard.

How rude behaviour! These days I am getting more judgemental to this kind of judgmental people. If you cannot say/notice positive things in others, please shut up! Don't spread negativity and misery, we have enough of it in the world.

mustb60 · January 2018

Awkward moments when someone comes up, compliments you on the weight loss and asks how much did you lose, what is your diet and you think I am not even the halfway to my goal or that I don't do diets. Not easy to accept the compliment and harder to give advice when you are yourself battling everyday. There was never a magical diet, just CICO for me.

ridiculous59 · January 2018

mamabear1114 wrote: »

The most surprising thing I learned was that the journey wasn’t really about losing weight at all. It was about learning how to love myself and care for myself, learning what I wanted out of my life and going after it instead of just tolerating anything from anybody, and realizing that my problem with my weight wasn’t actually about my weight, it was about my emotional problems and wanting to self medicate with food. Also, realizing this is a lifelong journey of self-betterment, and not simply a “fad diet” or “14-day detox” or “magic pill”. There is no quick fix. It’s hard, but being overweight, self destructive, and miserable is much harder.

This a thousand times over.

azironasun · January 2018

mustb60 wrote: »

Awkward moments when someone comes up, compliments you on the weight loss and asks how much did you lose, what is your diet and you think I am not even the halfway to my goal or that I don't do diets. Not easy to accept the compliment and harder to give advice when you are yourself battling everyday. There was never a magical diet, just CICO for me.

I too feel uncomfortable discussing my diet and weight.
When asked about my diet, I just say "Nothing specific. Just move more and eat less."
When asked how much weight I've lost, I say "I don't measure by the scale. I measure by how well my clothes fit. And they're fitting much better, so, thank you for noticing."

Melkiah · January 2018

Nobody actually talks about the true secret and that is insulin sensitivity!!!

jeannemarie333 · January 2018

Much more energy and clothes fit better. No one told me I would need to log every single meal and morsel and be committed to doing that in order to lose weight.

aeloine · January 2018

That your knees have angles! Noticed today that my knees aren't as fat! Who would have thought!

NanP135 · January 2018

The comments you will get from anyone:

I had a new one today, I had an older man about 80 ask me why I was losing weight as it is usually because a woman is looking for a new man. First I said I am with the man I want to be with and then he asked again if I had something going on. This man is not a close friend and is now going to be put on notice from me. First I am insulted to think that is how little he thinks of women and second I don't need any man to take care of me and sure as hell can take care of myself.

CeciliaBobilia · January 2018

Nobody told me...
How friggin' excited I'd be to get new running shoes!!!

Edited to add bonus NSV: I went to a sporting goods store and, for the first time in my life, did not feel like an imposter.

bounciercastle · January 2018

I thought I posted this before but for the life of me can't find it ^^: I bought a small flat memory foam pet bed to sit on in the driver's seat of my car. It's too hard now lol.

Fitnessmom82 · January 2018

Mellykay88 wrote: »

whosshe wrote: »

gamerbabe14 wrote: »

That you want to reply to your friends FB posts about their diets for the New Year but you choose not to. I want to help but I know I can't convey to them via FB that keto isn't a magical diet that'll cure their ailments.

I've sent a lot of people to MFP and not one has actually used it for more than a day. Makes me wonder why I stayed... I wish I could give them what I had when I first started, whatever that was.

emcclure013 wrote: »

gamerbabe14 wrote: »

That you want to reply to your friends FB posts about their diets for the New Year but you choose not to. I want to help but I know I can't convey to them via FB that keto isn't a magical diet that'll cure their ailments.

I've been seeing this a lot too. One of my FB friends is doing no meat, no carbs, no sugar, no fun. She just started Monday and already she's complaining about issues with it. I've talked to her about MFP before, but no luck.

Nobody told me that it would be so hard to sit on the sidelines and watch others be how I used to be. I would never say a thing, but it drives me up the wall hearing all the excuses people have for why they can't lose weight. I know many people have said this on the thread before, but I would have never guessed it would happen to me!

I have referred 5 or 6 people here and they have all come back to me a day or two later saying it was too hard or something to that effect. These same people constantly push the latest fad diets and supplements... I don’t get it.

Same!! Most recently I encouraged a friend to try this app. Told her I'd help her figure it out if she needed. She told me three days later that it was confusing and too much work. So instead she's doing Herbalife and losing super fast....

acfisher88 · January 2018

That people cannot get their head around the fact that you aren't on a specific diet. Whenever I'm out for dinner or at a friend's house, I always get the same "What can/can't you eat?"

It's very thoughtful of them to consider my needs, but I'm getting sick of telling people that I'm not on a special diet and can eat whatever I want as long as I moderate and make sure it fits my calories. They just look puzzled!

missKmorgan · January 2018

<<Picked up a kettle bell of roughly what I've lost, for reference.

Ya'll.

I couldn't even walk around with that thing. No one tells you HOW HEAVY the extra weight is. Losing 50 pounds slowly (especially when you have more to go) seems like a matter of fact thing but realizing that you were walking around with that is just... mind blowing. Like, where does that even come from?! I honestly have no idea where all of that weight was sitting.>>

No kidding! My daughter and I raise horses and we were just talking about how heavy a 50 # bag of grain is and I had been carrying that around with me for the last 30 years. I am shocked at how much extra weight I was dragging around with me whenever I unload grain into the feed bin.

ek0513 · January 2018

That losing weight has made me not only want to improve my body, but all other aspects of my life. I make sure my finger nails looks nice everyday now, when before I didn’t care about them. I learned how to do makeup that suits me better. I keep my room cleaner. I dress nicer. I finally got confidence to get a new job. I am so much less bitter about things that used to get to me. I just want to keep being my best self now in every area of my life, and I think the weight loss is what brought that on.

sssgilbe · January 2018

NAP150 wrote: »

The comments you will get from anyone:

I had a new one today, I had an older man about 80 ask me why I was losing weight as it is usually because a woman is looking for a new man. First I said I am with the man I want to be with and then he asked again if I had something going on. This man is not a close friend and is now going to be put on notice from me. First I am insulted to think that is how little he thinks of women and second I don't need any man to take care of me and sure as hell can take care of myself.

Proof that age intensifies a person's basic nature. A jerk at 40 is a bigger jerk at 60 and a crazy old jerk at 80. The exceptions are precious and rare.

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