Less alcohol- February 2018- one day at a time

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  • dbanks80
    dbanks80 Posts: 3,685 Member
    edited February 2018
    BuffMom84 wrote: »
    A new month! My goal is to have only a few drinks once per week or less. I feel much better drinking way less but my husband has no plans to cut down on his drinking. Which is his decision, I'm not going to pressure him to change just because I want to (He's gotten in trouble with drinking in the past so you'd think he'd want to change but whatever).

    My problem is that I feel like drinking was the last thing I had in common with him. He still pressures me to drink as much as he does but I say no. It's frustrating. Anyone else have a significant other who does not plan on drinking less and how are you handling it?

    Funny I just posted on this. Keep doing what you are doing eventually he will come around. My husband was never a drinker until he met me. He still is only a social drinker. But since I've been working on myself he is starting to feel like he should cut back.

    So you stay strong. He will see your progress and it will rub off on him.

    Oh don't sweat the pressure. My husband use to say "You need to get that stick out of your A" I was like "Whatever!!! You are a alcohol bully!! I am not going to cave!!" LOL!!!!
  • dbanks80
    dbanks80 Posts: 3,685 Member
    lporter229 wrote: »
    Sometimes, when I am debating whether or not to have a few drinks, I see it as essentially a debate over whether I would rather feel good now (by having a few drinks) or feel good tomorrow (by not drinking). It's like a trade-off. Drinking steals your happiness from tomorrow.

    Of course I know that's not exactly how it works, but sometimes it just feels like that :smile:

    This was recently posted on my feed by an MFP pal. I thought it was very relevant to this group and asked him if it was okay to share:

    “The Tomorrow Man theory. It’s pretty basic. Today, right here, you are who you are. Tomorrow, you will be who you will be. Each and every night, we lie down to die, and each morning we arise, reborn. Now, those who are in good spirits, with strong mental health, they look out for their Tomorrow Man. They eat right today, they drink right today, they go to sleep early today–all so that Tomorrow Man, when he awakes in his bed reborn as Today Man, thanks Yesterday Man. He looks upon him fondly as a child might a good parent. He knows that someone–himself–was looking out for him. He feels cared for, and respected. Loved, in a word. And now he has a legacy to pass on to his subsequent selves…. But those who are in a bad way, with poor mental health, they constantly leave these messes for Tomorrow Man to clean up. They eat whatever the hell they want, drink like the night will never end, and then fall asleep to forget. They don’t respect Tomorrow Man because they don’t think through the fact that Tomorrow Man will be them. So then they wake up, new Today Man, groaning at the disrespect Yesterday Man showed them. Wondering why does that guy–myself–keep punishing me? But they never learn and instead come to settle for that behavior, eventually learning to ask and expect nothing of themselves. They pass along these same bad habits tomorrow and tomorrow and tomorrow, and it becomes psychologically genetic, like a curse. Looking at you now, Maven, I can see exactly where you fall on this spectrum. You are a man constantly trying to fix today what Yesterday Man did to you. You make up your bed, you clean those dirty dishes from the night before, and pledge not to start drinking until six, thinking that’s the way to keep an even keel. But in reality you’re always playing catch-up. I know this because I’ve been there. The thing is–you can’t fix the mistakes of Yesterday. Yesterday Man is dead, he’s gone forever, and blame and atonement aren’t worth a damn. What you can do is help yourself today. Eat a vegetable. Read a book. Cut that hair of yours. Leave Tomorrow Man something more than a headache and a jam-packed colon. Do for Tomorrow Man what you would have wanted Yesterday Man to do for you.”

    Chuck Hogan

    This is great!! Thanks for sharing!!!
  • kimykimy22
    kimykimy22 Posts: 4 Member
    kittybenn wrote: »
    @salleewins - I'm with you on this: "I can't keep bags of chocolate in the house or alcohol...." I think I'm replacing alcohol with chocolate, so that's something I'm going to need to work on, LOL. Love the french vanilla tea and other drink recommendations, so thank you. Some of the teas I've been trying are a bit too sour for me, like the Tazo Wild Sweet Orange. Keep looking for cinnamon-y and citrus-y, without a lot of bitterness.


    Good Earth Sweet & Spicy is my favorite cinnamon/orange flavor!
  • lporter229
    lporter229 Posts: 4,907 Member
    Starbucks bought Teavana and is closing all of the stores. This weekend everything was 75% off. I got a pound each of Caramel Ameretti herbal tea, Maharaja Chai Oolong and another kind of oolong for $10 each (that's a ton of tea)! I also got two steeper pots for $6 each. If you have a Teavana in a mall near you, it's definitely worth the trip.
  • islandbeez
    islandbeez Posts: 162 Member
    JenT304 wrote: »
    I printed off a February calendar on line and bought myself those kiddie stickers you put on a potty chart. They say stuff like, "good job!" or "yay!" and "you rock!" I hung it on my fridge and drew on the last 2 days of January so I could put 2 stickers up to get me started. I know my husband will roll his eyes when he sees this lol but I don't care! I like the visual of seeing my progress. I will add a sticker every night that I am good (I hope all 28 days) before I go to bed.

    I am doing this in my planner! I have 12 big pink stars in a row. When this month is over that should be 40 in a row :)
  • 25agirard
    25agirard Posts: 49 Member
    I'm in!
  • dbanks80
    dbanks80 Posts: 3,685 Member
    MissMay wrote: »
    BuffMom84 wrote: »
    Anyone else have a significant other who does not plan on drinking less and how are you handling it?

    "WAVING" Yes me!
    I originally started to cut back out of respect for my husband because he was told in July he has alcohol iinduced cirrhosis of the liver. He told the Dr. he was not going to quit (even though he was told to completely give all alcohol up as of that day)
    Any how I thought he would appreciate my effort for his health, but that is not the case.
    I began to get back my old energy, big bright eyes and motivation so I have kept with it and feel and look so much better.
    And I agree with whom ever said their hubby made a comment about cutting back. WHATEVER was a great answer.
    Yay to us as one of you said, because we have alcohol bullies in our lives.

    That was me LOL!

    All the best to your husband.
  • MaryBethHempel
    MaryBethHempel Posts: 513 Member
    I joined one of these...just wanted to say that I kicked it.

    All of it.

    Nothing since sometime in December. I had been weening off for a while...all 2017 tbh, as I was losing weight and getting more serious about getting in shape.

    I feel great.

    It's a great target for losing weight...cut it out. Just do it. I lost 72 lbs between Jan 2017 and now...I reduced over time, nothing specific just always thinking about it...trying to drink *half as much* as to what I was accustomed.

    And by the end of the year...I'm done with it. I'm no puritan, but, if you are trying to cut down for a reason like losing weight or if it's causing some problems for you for social reasons or any other personal reason...

    You'll be happy you did.

    Do it.

    I don't track days and I didn't quit forever.

    I decided I'll quit for 25 years.

    I'll have a glass of champagne when I'm 66.

    :)<3

    Go get your goals friends!

    AWESOME!!
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,355 Member
    lporter229 wrote: »
    Starbucks bought Teavana and is closing all of the stores. This weekend everything was 75% off. I got a pound each of Caramel Ameretti herbal tea, Maharaja Chai Oolong and another kind of oolong for $10 each (that's a ton of tea)! I also got two steeper pots for $6 each. If you have a Teavana in a mall near you, it's definitely worth the trip.

    OH wow! I wonder if there's anything left at Teavana today. The mall is kind of far, but maybe I'll check out their website to see if things are on sale. Thanks for the tip. I love their pots and never bought one because they were expensive. Thanks for the tip!
  • Jim_1000
    Jim_1000 Posts: 52 Member
    Any time I have 2-3 drinks or more it sets my weight loss back by 2 days at least. I've heard it reduces testosterone dramatically. So for women who don't have much of that hormone anyway that could really affect weight loss as testosterone promotes lean muscle gain.
  • salleewins
    salleewins Posts: 2,308 Member
    @kimykimy22--Oh that sounds good! I will be looking for that flavor!