Pregnancy – August 2011

I am pregnant, due January 2012. How do I join this group?

Ronya- that would be exciting to have your baby shower next Sunday if not at least you'll be able to enjoy a nice lunch out with your mother but you're probably right espesically since you only have a few more weeks left until baby time

Julz- sorry you aren't feeling well that really stink when you're pg I got a pretty bad cold around 4th of July it really sucked

Elizabeth- I stopped sleeping on my stomach pretty early on because it was uncomfortable and then I would switch from my side to my back but the past couple of weeks I have been exclusively sleeping on my side I haven't gotten out my body pillow yet but probably will need to in a few weeks I'm still not feeling uncomfortable yet

I think that I will add in a pregnancy ticker as well

Last box!!!!!!

Do they not trust you to call if you head to the hospital?

Well, I always thought we would call and let them know, however after today it is making me second guess that decision...I worry that they will just come down and sit in the waiting room, and crash our bonding party as soon as the baby is out. I would much rather have the baby, have an hour or two to bond and breastfeed, and and rest for 4-5 hours before any visitors arrive.

I'd say set the boundaries in advance that you will call them but they can't come to the hospital until you call them again and give them the go ahead. What if you don't tell them so they call and you don't answer, then they come to the house and they don't answer, so they just show up at the hospital "to check"?!

I've realized how lucky I am in this regards. 1) no one lives near us so no one can show up unannounced or really uninvited and 2) my folks drove down overnight from Chicago to pick up my son and take him home with them when I was in labor earlier than planned and had not one to watch The Boy. They not only drove all the way from Chicago to Nashville, but they took just a few hours to get a little rest (they were there probably 3 hours tops and in my room for maybe 1-2 hours? I was puking, I don't remember. Plus they totally left me alone). Anyway... they drove all the way down there and then LEFT before the baby was even born. They easily could have waited around and rushed in to see him but instead went home to wait and come see him a week or so later after he was home and we were ready (well, that's not how it turned out, my mom flew back down the next day when we found out he was sick... but, that was the plan at least!)

Do they not trust you to call if you head to the hospital?

Well, I always thought we would call and let them know, however after today it is making me second guess that decision...I worry that they will just come down and sit in the waiting room, and crash our bonding party as soon as the baby is out. I would much rather have the baby, have an hour or two to bond and breastfeed, and and rest for 4-5 hours before any visitors arrive.

I'd say set the boundaries in advance that you will call them but they can't come to the hospital until you call them again and give them the go ahead. What if you don't tell them so they call and you don't answer, then they come to the house and they don't answer, so they just show up at the hospital "to check"?!

I've realized how lucky I am in this regards. 1) no one lives near us so no one can show up unannounced or really uninvited and 2) my folks drove down overnight from Chicago to pick up my son and take him home with them when I was in labor earlier than planned and had not one to watch The Boy. They not only drove all the way from Chicago to Nashville, but they took just a few hours to get a little rest (they were there probably 3 hours tops and in my room for maybe 1-2 hours? I was puking, I don't remember. Plus they totally left me alone). Anyway... they drove all the way down there and then LEFT before the baby was even born. They easily could have waited around and rushed in to see him but instead went home to wait and come see him a week or so later after he was home and we were ready (well, that's not how it turned out, my mom flew back down the next day when we found out he was sick... but, that was the plan at least!)

We've decided to approach it like this;

We will call the immediate family when I go into labor if they can handle not telling people and NOT coming to the hospital. We will call them as soon as the baby is born and let them know when it would be a good time to visit. This day is about us and bonding as a family of 3 (for us at least), not pleasing everyone else. If they aren't able to accept that we won't be calling until AFTER he's here.

In all honestly, I can't remember what we arranged as far as calling people with my first. I do know that I said NO ONE will be there when I deliver except my husband (I changed my mind when it came time and let my MIL stay, but I had a better relationship with her then). My husband called everyone after she was born to announce it. With #2 we had to drop the other child off at in-laws, so they were stuck with her and couldn't crash us at the hospital. He was born at midnight, so we didn't call until morning. Similar kind of thing for #3 (except for timing).

But I think I need to start deciding what I want for this one. My biggest fear right now is that I'll need to go to the hospital in the middle of the night when husband is at work, and not wait until he can get out of there and home (he's a "controller" for a tv station, so if he leaves in the middle of Letterman, he's got to make sure there's someone else to cover and go to commercials at the right time) and then whomever I stir out of bed to take me won't leave. But I can always talk to nurses and have them come up with an excuse for me. Like I said, need to start thinking about it, so I know what to tell family to expect.

Hi everyone!! Hope you all had a great weekend.

Veronica and Matt- I don’t know what I am having, I run with team green! LOL. I really don’t have much of a “gut feeling” either. I guess we will find out soon enough! That kind of sucks that everyone crashed your birth! That is exactly what I don’t want to happen.

Anne- Thanks for the tip re: the nurses. I will be sure to talk to them if I feel like I am not ready for visitors. I talked to my husband as well and he is going to call his parents and lay down some ground rules/let them know how it is going to go when I go into labour. I am sure that they will be ok with what we have to say.

Elizabeth- It was probably around 20 weeks or so when I started to feel like my stomach was no good. Every since about 32 weeks it has seemed physically impossible.

Melissa- Glad you had a great birthday and got spoiled! Enjoy your conference.

Ronya- How sweet of your friend. You must be excited for your shower! Sorry you keep getting sick! And awesome job on keeping the weight gain in check.

Abott- Welcome! Just jump right in with us.

Julz- Hope you don’t end up getting a full blown cold! I had a runny/stuffy nose for ages with this pregnancy . I hope you can get something figured out too what to do when you go into labour. Could you have a close friend take you, and just stay until your hubby arrives?

Lindsay- Yay for the last box!

Mel- Your parents sound awesome! I am definitely having my husband set boundaries with his parents first.

Danielle- I really like your approach. I had not even thought about asking them not to spread the word I am in labour right off the bat.

Today is my due date based on being dated with my ultrasound. I am telling myself now that... that must have been wrong. Keeping Friday in mind. Friday is my due date based on the first day of my last period.

If I don't have the baby by Friday we are going on a date to see the moving "The Help". Something special to keep my mind off it all!

Real Name: Rachel

Age: 27

Location: Small town, Alberta, Canada

How far along in pregnancy: 39 weeks 3 days

# of Children you have: 0

# of Children you want: 4-5 (if I could convince hubby! he wants 3 max)

Education (if applicable): BA in Psychology

Current Occupation: Stay at home wife. I have been off work for about 2 months (was under too much stress and was effecting my pregnancy negatively), prior to that I was doing payroll and accounts payable for the municipal government

Dream Occupation: Stay at home mom until my children are old enough to care for themselves after school. At which point I want
to upgrade my education to either be a social worker, psychologist, or maybe even a midwife.

Marital Status: Married since July 10, 2010

How you met your baby daddy: Valentines day 2008. We met in a bar in Calgary (where I was living when we met), and went out on our first proper date 2 days later. The rest is history!

What brought you to MFP?: I wanted to lose weight to TTC. Then 3 weeks later I was pregnant!

How tall are you?: 5'6"

What was your highest weight?: It is my weight right now. I am ashamed to share.

What was your lowest weight?: 163 (which was very thin for me)

What is your goal weight?: 155

What is your goal size?: 10 would be great, 8 would be better

Anything else you would like to share?: I am really hoping for a drug free delivery experience with the lowest amount of intervention as possible. My interests include baking, cooking, budgeting, finance, psychology.