So you've lost weight - who cares?
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I am losing weight for myself...... and to be a healthier mother so my son will see me grow old. I don't really care about anyone else. Not doing it for them. However, even after only losing 9 lbs, I've had coworkers comment that I am looking a lot better (being only 5' tall, 9 lbs. is a lot for me!). It's always nice to hear that and it does provide a little more motivation.
The friends we have here in MFP are the GREATEST motivators ever! Because we're all going through the same thing and we just want to help each other out.0 -
Lot's of comments at work. I am a bartender and I hear several comments a day from my customers. Some people deliver a flattering compliment, but some go on and on, makes me self conscious sometimes.0
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No one cares or notices. I have usually been smaller then them as it is, so they probably think i am just showing off. I used to be 130lb 4 years ago went up to 159lb this year and now i am about 141lb so i guess it really isnt hat big of a deal. Especially since 7 years ago i was 215lb pregnant.
I feel you. No one I know tosses high-fives for the small stuff and I never really have much weight to loose. I still have fitness goals that for me are way HARD! Haha, So, here is a slap on the back to you from me Good job. You look great.0 -
I have dropped 2 dress sizes but only one person at work ever mentioned it. I was getting a little discouraged about that and mentioned it to my husband, who works for the same company but in a different department, and he said several people have mentioned it to him. I'm not sure what is up with that!! But my family has noticed and is very supportive. My husband alternates between complaining that I'm losing too much booty and telling me how hot I look.
But most importantly I notice. I like feeling good in my clothes again.0 -
I've lost about 24 lbs since January and hardly anyone has noticed. Thought it would be more obvious, but I guess not, oh well...0
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I was at a referee recertication clinic this weekend, so saw a number of people that hadn't seen me since I started my new lifestyle. One person, two of the mentors at the clinic mentioned my weight loss. One told me that I was "looking good, very svelte". The other told me he barely recognized me and that I looked five years younger. He later, while presenting to the entire classroom, used me as an example of being committed to fitness and again mentioned that I looked years younger.
Beyond that I've had my parents notice and ask me if I was losing weight. My wife has made comments about my stomach looking much flatter and defined. Even my son noticed that "Daddy's getting skinny".0 -
Everyone cares, more than I'd have thought, actually! Family, friends, co-workers. And this should probably go under a new topic called "Harassment now that you're thin?" but... my boss mentioned my weight and how good I'm looking these days at my annual review, and I got a bigger raise than I've ever gotten even though I know for a FACT that my productivity has decreased. :noway:
I have mixed emotions about how others have reacted to my smaller size. Mostly, it's interesting that when I started this adventure a couple of years ago, I thought that I would care so much more than I do about what other people think of my smaller body. Really, the only person whose opinion I care about regarding my looks: ME. :flowerforyou:
P.S. Live-in boyfriend loves my new look, but he loved my old look, too. Yeah, he's a keeper.0 -
My body cares. One of the biggest motivators for me to start this project was sitting at dinner with my family and feeling my belly resting on my thighs. I'm used to the "food baby" symptom, but this was beyond anything I had experienced before and it shook me up. It matters to me how I feel.
And my camera cares. On that same trip home we took pictures on the beach with my best friend and I still haven't gotten the guts to send them yet because I want to wait until I have new pictures to counter balance them.
And I'm pretty sure my boyfriend cares. He doesn't say much about my body, other than he's proud of me for sticking with my new running routine, but he's certainly enjoying my growing confidence in my body and that once again I feel ok hanging out at home in just a sports bra and shorts.0 -
*I* care!!! The fact that I can see a difference and like the way clothes look on me is major.
Plus, my husband is really enjoying it.
If anyone else has noticed, meh, I really don't care. In fact, I really don't want people to point it out. It makes me uncomfortable. It reminds me of what I used to weigh, and I'd rather not dwell on that.0 -
someone at church said oh my your losing weight look at your neck you can really tell guess i need to focus on the rest lol0
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When I came to see my boyfriend selling his paintings on Saturday he said, "I could tell when I saw you walk up you look thinner" yayyyy! and he said I was hot that day too.0
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I care! I've lost 55.8 pounds since March 24, 2011 and I feel great!
I'm getting compliments from people I work with and family members. Both groups have told me I'm an inspiration to them because they'd like to lose a few extra pounds. The comments and remarks are nice. BUT, I'm not doing it for them, I'm doing it for me!
If you dont care, you probably wont try very hard. IMHO.0 -
I care! I have been given one life & one life only--to live it to it's fullest HEALTHY.
I've noticed, my DH has noticed & my kids have noticed (they're 6 and 3 1/2).
Every time I lose weight or have an NSV my DH tells me how proud of me that he is
and he gives me a big hug & my kids give me high fives & hugs.0 -
One of my co-workers asked me what I was doing to have such "massive" weight loss, which made me feel awesome. She was the first outside of my family & friends (who know I'm working at it) to say anything.
But the biggest person to care has been my husband, and my biggest reward is that he's jumped on the bandwagon with me. He's joined MFP, started eating healthier and working out and that just skyrockets my motivation. Now when I think about our future, it doesn't make me worry that we'll both be old, overweight and in matching wheelchairs. I see us fit and healthy and living our dream! That's worth every bit of work I've done and all the work I still have left to do!0 -
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My co-workers are all raving about my 'new body' and weight loss. They all ask me how I did it, and one lady ooohs and ahhhs every single time she sees me. One person, who did HCG last year, but put it all back on, was in the lunch room during one of these 'omg you look wonderful, how did you do it' sessions. I replied that I counted calories and worked out, including running. She half laughs and asks, "you mean that diet and exercise thing really works??" I smiled and answered, yes - it really does!!
My partner complements me often and my D16 is always showing me off to her friends.0 -
I am just starting out...but I can tell in my attitude/confidence more than anything! I feel in control and I don't really care what anyone else thinks. It's amazing how mental losing weight is. I've been exercisng and pushing myself to eat healthy and to do more and more each week, which in turn makes me feel like I'm doing something to get skinny vs. making bad choices and not sitting around.
The power of positive thinking! :flowerforyou:0 -
I am doing this for me first and foremost! It is myself I have to live with and I am the one who lives within my body. I want to live a healthy life and look forward to tomorrow.
My family has noticed and are all commenting. My one cousin, who by the way is tiny, has started calling me skinny cuz because it is showing so much. It is great to hear this because it motivates me and keeps me going even though sometimes I don't see it.
I think the biggest one for me is that my dr has been a cheerleader for me. She says keep at it no matter what you are doign great. She told me that as long as I keep it up it is not about how long it takes me but that I am working on it. She also said not to rush it but is excited at teh success I have been having. This is wonderful to me as she has never been pushy about my weight but cheers me on when I make good decisions. She said she will be super excited when I get my BMI under 30.
It is the little things that keep me going.0 -
i know how you feel but realize you ARENT doing this for others!! most people are all about THEMSELVES. when you notice a difference, when you feel better, when you are off meds, when you move around better. you will be glad you are doing what you are!!! Keep it up for YOU!!! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: huggz0
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losing weight is MUCH more than inches/pounds etc..it will give you confidence and things you thought you lost..0
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losing weight is MUCH more than inches/pounds etc..it will give you confidence and things you thought you lost..0
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Like others...I am doing this for ME!!! But I love it when others notice.. My family has noticed...hubby,kids,mom,inlaws,brothers..and all continue to be supportive. My work collegues have noticed, and some are also supportive. I belong to TOPS and my fellow members are another of my cheering section. I am excited for my mom's 75th BD Party because there will be extended family there who have not seen me since the beginning of my journey (about 45lbs ago) and I can't wait to see their reaction (won't be disappointed if no one says anything though...it is Mom's day not mine after all)
So while I do this for my health/wellbeing. and self esteem, I do love it when others compliment me too.0 -
Hahaha! OMG everyone cares. Its all anyone wants to talk about with me. Sometimes its good, "Hey you look great! Incredible! You have inspired me to take back control of my life. You are my hero." Sometimes its negative "I just can't do what you do. I just don't have the time. All that healthy food is sooooo expensive I just can't afford it. You make me feel so fat. You are too skinny, your face looks weird.....(my favorite)" I still can't understand why people feel the need to just start saying these things to me. I'm like were we even talking about that??? I have learned to just say "Oh ok.....yeah....thats hard." But anyway, bottom line, I care, my husband cares, my kids care, my Dr cares, my hips, back and heart cares. Oh and I agree, the camera cares.....loved that. Thats all the matters.....:)0
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Well, my story isn't just about losing weight. Since October 2010, I have totally changed my lifestyle around to a more Paleo style of food. This has led to a more active life in general and it has positively impacted my immediate family as well as many of my friends. Yes, I lost weight, but I also lost: fibromyalgia, extreme fatigue that no amount of sleep could solve, joint problems, iron deficiency anemia, periods that would last for 2 to 4 months at a stretch, many of my troubles with my ovaries, skin problems, abdominal swelling, gut troubles, a perpetual fever, uncontrollable asthma, constant allergies that no anti-histimine would remedy, a rheumatologist, gut doc, asthma doc, allergy doc AND all those excess medical bills.
There is more, but that is it in a nut shell. My son has Autism and is 11. With the dietary changes (since January 15th for him), he has lost all of his excess weight (30 pounds), gut troubles that he has had since 10 months old, inflammation, MELTDOWNS (BIG deal), and has lost some of his social deficits. He really plays now---PLAYS. Before it was just a neverending stream of stims. He runs and plays outside. He can focus enough to play a video game with a story line. No kidding. That's a big deal. My daughter is 3 1/2 years old. Since changing her diet, she has lost her gut problems (that started at 26 months) and skin troubles including a perpetual butt rash (she had it for over a year and no cream or antibiotic could fix it).
My husband hasn't totally gotten on board with our diet. He still eats whatever he likes at lunch---just a smaller portion. So far, he has maintained a 50 pound loss.
Here is what we have GAINED:
I have gained my life back. I feel better than I can ever remember feeling. My family has gained health and peace. My son SLEEPS---all night! HUGE deal.
People that know us all make the standard "WOW! You guys look great!" comments, but then they also compliment my son's progress. THAT'S the best thing. He interacts with people in ways that he never could before. It is amazing what food does to and for our bodies.0 -
Let me think. Umm, me, me and maybe ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't care about what anyone else says or thinks. I lost the weight because I hated MYSELF!! And now, I don't hate myself!!!!0
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My girls care and notice. Hubby not so much!
But my girls are 10 & 13 and the oldest is seeing Mommy have muscles again and she wants those for her Vanguard.0 -
I had a regular customer come into the shop today
(hadn't seen her in a couple months) her first words were
Wow you get younger every time I see you
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People at work notice everyday. I do like hearing the "Great Job" "look at skinny" and one upper management guy/friend also motivates me but letting me know that "you've come too far to slack off now" when I am trying to find a donut in the building.
But mostly I care. I have felt a change in my whole attitude now a days. Doing it for me and me only. :flowerforyou:0 -
went out with some old school friends recently and the first thing i was greeted with was "are you losing weight" and I said YES I am but I have been dieting all my life so they are used to my weight going up and down.The only person who really cares this time is me,my husband loves me for myself and does not give a jot how much I weigh,in the past this has been my stumbling block.Now I realise that I have to care because the first person we should all care about is ourselves only we can live this life in a healthy happy way .0
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Luckily, I have a great support system and get compliments from co-workers, friends, family on a pretty regular basis. But my favorite thing is how hubby makes sure everyone that comes to visit notices and comments on my weight loss. He's like "look at her, isn't she doing great?!" LOL! It's adorable...
ETA: Yeah, ultimately I'm doing this for me but it sure is nice to hear the input from others!0
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