Think I’m pissing everyone off?...
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I experienced the same issue with coworkers and friends.
You’re opened up to a new world and a wealth of knowledge. You want to discuss it and share it all the time, the best thing you can do is try and make gym buddies.1 -
I understand...I try now to just share with my hubby. He's proud of me and impressed with how strong I'm getting.. But sometimes I still will post a pic to my sisters of me doing chin ups:) I never could do them in my entire life but I can now... Or me hip thrusting 335 lbs was the latest I shared with them. But in reality they don't want to know. So I share with hubby and some at the gym that I've gotten to know. Trying to not talk about it to my sisters and friends is what I do now. Discov ering this community on mfp is pretty cool too.2
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I sort of have that problem. I was shocked at how easy it was to make healthy changes, I had always believed that if it isn’t ridiculously hard then you’re not doing it right. I feel like I found the secret to happiness and I want to share with everyone I know.
But I also remember what it was like to look at all those “fitness crazies” and hate them a little bit. They were incredibly annoying (let’s be honest some of us still are) so when I’m chatting with a friend and they’re complaining about something that my experience tells me could be fixed or at least improved with a few healthy lifestyle changes it’s really hard to keep my mouth shut. “I could be helping them! I wish I had known 10 years ago what I know now!” But the thing is, I sort of did know it. I just didn’t want to hear it, so I ignored it, it was a lesson I had to learn on my own. These people don’t want to hear it either, they already know the benefits exist, they just aren’t ready to accept it.
If I just can’t keep it in, I’ll mention casually that my morning run kicked my butt, or that I’m sore from my boot camp class, and then based on their reaction I’ll know if it’s okay to proceed. If someone asks me directly about the changes in my physical appearance I’ll tell them, but again based on their reaction I don’t always go into more detail.
At first I felt like telling the whole world. “Hey I lost 5lbs, tell me you noticed!” “Check out the muscles on my arms! I’m not even flexing!” “Did you know plain Greek yogurt is just as good as sour cream, but way less calories?!”6 -
So since January I’ve decided to go back to the gym and get fit!
But I think I’m getting obsessed and I wanna talk about gym and fitness and food all the time! Only to keep me motivated and because I’m loving it at the moment... but all my friends and my boyfriend especially hate me right now because they’re getting sick of it hahaha.
I can see where they’re coming from, but I need friends so I can have these discussions with!
Just wondering if anyone else is annoying people with this aswell?... ha!
Do you have a group of girlfriends, all with kids, except you? And all they talk about when you're together is their kids? It's cute for about 2 minutes, then it's really not....yeah, it's like that.
If your friends want to know, they'll ask.11 -
melissa6771 wrote: »@JoRocka I could've written your posts. I am the same way! It's so hard to be any different. Every morning i tell myself I will keep it shut, and then, voila... same *kitten* different day. Lol
riding that over sharing struggle bus together!!!1 -
So since January I’ve decided to go back to the gym and get fit!
But I think I’m getting obsessed and I wanna talk about gym and fitness and food all the time! Only to keep me motivated and because I’m loving it at the moment... but all my friends and my boyfriend especially hate me right now because they’re getting sick of it hahaha.
I can see where they’re coming from, but I need friends so I can have these discussions with!
Just wondering if anyone else is annoying people with this aswell?... ha!
All the time, I get the eye rolls, they change the subject, or they find something else to do in the middle of the conversation. I have noted that generally it is the ones that are not at a healthy weight and don't have the motivation or ambition to change. I just continue and don't care....2 -
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This is what I use MFP and a separate instagram account for. Majority of my friends don't what to be lambasted with workout posts and food pics, but the community here do and on my IG account do. Check out Meetup.com in your area, there may be some active groups so you can meet some people with similar interests. I signed up to a couple of hiking and yoga groups. I stick to other topics with my close friends and family and on other social media.1
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Heck yeah, the ones around us can't be bothered listening...that's what this forum is for
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The first time I lost a big chunk of weight about 7 years ago I had a coworker just explode at me and yell at me to stop talking about fitness/calories. I was so stunned, I had NO idea I was talking about it that much and annoying her. I really wish she had talked to me about it before she exploded though it was so embarrassing.
Now I'm trying very hard to not talk about it with friends or coworkers, I haven't lost enough yet for people to notice so that helps. My husband is the worlds most patient man but I do try to not just talk about my fitness journey with him.2 -
I preach like it's the gospel. If you don't like it don't listen. If I can be part of changing at least one person's life then it is worth it! So far my brother in law and his wife made the change to Paleo after asking me about my huge success. I will spread the word! CAN I GET AN AMEN!5
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Yeah I try to keep it on here, friends, family and coworkers will get annoyed because they either aren't into it so will be bored by you, assume you're humble bragging or assume you're trying to make them do it too (which you admitted you are)
So don't unless they ask, they know now so they'll ask if they're curious or want to join in, in the meantime join some group classes so you can get fitness buddies or just vent on here. As much as I enjoy talking about it and telling people how fit I feel and how much weight Ive lost and I'd love them to get on board, people don't want to hear about it.
It doesn't make anyone a bad person for wanting to talk about it but we are basically no different to stamp collectors and no one wants to hear about someones new 1927 upside down stamp every single day and what it took for them to find it and how they should start collecting and blah blah blah snore. Lets keep our fitness nerdery to here where it's appreciated, don't worry if they get interested they'll come to you.
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I just think of my brother, who is into genealogy and sounds like he's reading Genesis when he gets going - "So and so begat so and so, who then had fifteen sons, so and so and so and so and so and so and these are all your seventeenth cousins twenty times removed" ad nauseam until I want to scream.
I don't want to be that boring, so I generally don't talk about it unless someone asks. Even then, watch their eyes to make sure they aren't glazing over.5 -
So since January I’ve decided to go back to the gym and get fit!
But I think I’m getting obsessed and I wanna talk about gym and fitness and food all the time! Only to keep me motivated and because I’m loving it at the moment... but all my friends and my boyfriend especially hate me right now because they’re getting sick of it hahaha.
I can see where they’re coming from, but I need friends so I can have these discussions with!
Just wondering if anyone else is annoying people with this aswell?... ha!
Oh hell yea! I am boring everyone and I can see visible annoyance on their face. I do go overboard though, when my other half and his friend have McDonalds and I make a statement such as "You keep eating your burgers, I'll keep putting on muscle". I mean, it's self-inflicted in my case.
But in all seriousness, I get it. I find it hard not to mention exercise 24/7, so I let lose on the forum and get it out of my system lol1 -
So since January I’ve decided to go back to the gym and get fit!
But I think I’m getting obsessed and I wanna talk about gym and fitness and food all the time! Only to keep me motivated and because I’m loving it at the moment... but all my friends and my boyfriend especially hate me right now because they’re getting sick of it hahaha.
I can see where they’re coming from, but I need friends so I can have these discussions with!
Just wondering if anyone else is annoying people with this aswell?... ha!
Oh hell yea! I am boring everyone and I can see visible annoyance on their face. I do go overboard though, when my other half and his friend have McDonalds and I make a statement such as "You keep eating your burgers, I'll keep putting on muscle". I mean, it's self-inflicted in my case.
But in all seriousness, I get it. I find it hard not to mention exercise 24/7, so I let lose on the forum and get it out of my system lol
Eating burgers stops one putting on muscle?
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Anything is boring and annoying if you aren't into it and the person goes on and on and on. You have to dial back and converse more on topics of shared interest.
Post about it here. Find some new fitness focused friends.5 -
I try to only talk weight on here or in my FB groups...
Anymore everyone is annoyed or jealous and I'm tried of the flack..(your too skinny F-U see my muscles! It's called STRONG! put that taco down and run a few laps and stop blaming hormones *kitten*!)
I don't share update pics or anything on FB anymore nothing..
I don't even go out hardly cause someone will have something to say to me.. so
But I WAY like being a loner size 6 without drama.. than being an 18, with mass drama anymore so lol
I'm cool with it!1 -
If someone asks you to cut back on how much you talk about ANYTHING, then you should unless you want to become that person who everyone avoids.0
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That's why I come to this forum. It helps me annoy people I care about IRL less.
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melissa6771 wrote: »@JoRocka I could've written your posts. I am the same way! It's so hard to be any different. Every morning i tell myself I will keep it shut, and then, voila... same *kitten* different day. Lol
riding that over sharing struggle bus together!!!
Oh, man. Scooch over, eh?
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Even though I'm on Facebook, I rarely share any of my lifting accomplishments, but I am in a powerlifting facebook group that allows me to overshare with like-minded people, of course there's always the MFP forums.0
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I personally don't think it seems very fair for them to get annoyed. You are clearly passionate about this. I personally love seeing and listening to someone talk about something they are so passionate about, and I do the same thing. I'm sorry they are being like that, but at least you have all of us here. 1
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I am 70 and I swim an hour or more every morning and run most afternoons mostly because I love it but also because I do it alone and enjoy it for myself. In the beginning people asked what I did to lose all the weight and I found as I started to tell them their eyes would glaze over they didn't have any interest. Now I find my friends, people my age just want to know " Why the hell do you still do this at your AGE?" not deserving for an answer so our conversations stick to " nice day isn't it?"
So enjoy yourself and do your thing life in the gym is one thing and your outside life is another people who really care about you will tolerate some gym and food talk and the others who wont maybe don't care enough about you for you to care about them1 -
cmriverside wrote: »melissa6771 wrote: »@JoRocka I could've written your posts. I am the same way! It's so hard to be any different. Every morning i tell myself I will keep it shut, and then, voila... same *kitten* different day. Lol
riding that over sharing struggle bus together!!!
Oh, man. Scooch over, eh?
Plenty-O-Room on this bus my friend. We can bore each other to death with our very exciting personal over sharing.4 -
Get. Personal trainer and dietician to unload on. It’s their job to talk about food and fitness
My personal trainer gets my texts when I am excited about anything fitness related. He also gets my whining when things aren't going well with my diet or exercise...poor guy. I used to tell my friends, but when I hit a PR on something and tell them they would just look at my like I was crazy to be excited about anything that happened in the gym.
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Secretnotes wrote: »I just think of my brother, who is into genealogy and sounds like he's reading Genesis when he gets going - "So and so begat so and so, who then had fifteen sons, so and so and so and so and so and so and these are all your seventeenth cousins twenty times removed" ad nauseam until I want to scream.
I don't want to be that boring, so I generally don't talk about it unless someone asks. Even then, watch their eyes to make sure they aren't glazing over.
This helps me..lol...I will try to remember how I feel when one of my kids goes on and on and on and on about Roblox or Minecraft!!!
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seltzermint555 wrote: »It got to the point that I started NOT talking about any of it. I really just don't mention it to friends anymore. One friend likes to tell me what she eats every day and it's a parade of chain restaurant meals with ice cream and donuts after, then cocktails...when I see her and have lost a little more weight she's "offended I don't share my tips"...I gave up on that years ago tbh.
THIS!
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livingleanlivingclean wrote: »So since January I’ve decided to go back to the gym and get fit!
But I think I’m getting obsessed and I wanna talk about gym and fitness and food all the time! Only to keep me motivated and because I’m loving it at the moment... but all my friends and my boyfriend especially hate me right now because they’re getting sick of it hahaha.
I can see where they’re coming from, but I need friends so I can have these discussions with!
Just wondering if anyone else is annoying people with this aswell?... ha!
Do you have a group of girlfriends, all with kids, except you? And all they talk about when you're together is their kids? It's cute for about 2 minutes, then it's really not....yeah, it's like that.
If your friends want to know, they'll ask.
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That's why I'm on these forums, so I don't bother others with it. I hate when relationships change. Sometimes it's unavoidable, but I would rather not be the instigator. Health and fitness are a good thing, but when it's not a common interest the talk can get boring and annoying and people can't relate. It's okay to be excited about something, but it feels self-centered to not notice the needs of others around me to communicate and relate. There is more to life than dieting. In fact I go out of my way to not let this part of me affect anything else in my life. I have a good life and great relationships, and disturbing that for some idle chatter isn't worth it.2
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livingleanlivingclean wrote: »So since January I’ve decided to go back to the gym and get fit!
But I think I’m getting obsessed and I wanna talk about gym and fitness and food all the time! Only to keep me motivated and because I’m loving it at the moment... but all my friends and my boyfriend especially hate me right now because they’re getting sick of it hahaha.
I can see where they’re coming from, but I need friends so I can have these discussions with!
Just wondering if anyone else is annoying people with this aswell?... ha!
Do you have a group of girlfriends, all with kids, except you? And all they talk about when you're together is their kids? It's cute for about 2 minutes, then it's really not....yeah, it's like that.
If your friends want to know, they'll ask.
Sadly, I've lost a couple of friends to this a few years back. We just drifted apart because it was a complete shift in interests, conversations, and activities.1
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