Temptation In The Home...

JaneAero wrote: »

I find it really difficult because my husband pays the food bill and he always buys fatty, frozen or cheap things, like sausages, burgers, chips etc.

If I tried to steer him towards the fruit, vegetables, or salad, he would buy it for me occasionally, but complain about the expense.

Because I was the only one eating it, it would often go off before I could finish the container or packet and then he would say I told you you wouldn't eat it, what a waste of money.

I got round this by continuing to put in the trolley breakfasts and dinners only.

I buy boxes of healthy cereal, or bagels that can be frozen, cartons of fresh juice, eggs, for breakfast. Nothing that can go off.

Dinners.. I put 4 or 5 frozen weight watcher dinners in the trolley every week, they can't go off and the rest of the time I make something like an omelette or a baked potato.

Lunchtime... I pay for my own food that he will never buy in a million years. I do have a lot of waste because I'm the only one eating it , but I'm the one paying for it so he can mind his own business, he can no longer complain about things going off , or going to waste.

I tend to spend most of my part-time wages now on healthy lunches , it all adds up.

Everything is about £1 per item: a bag of spinach, a packet of Mini plum tomatoes, a packet of feta cheese, an avocado.
(I only have a Sainsbury's near me nothing cheaper and it's always around £1 an item).

This means I can't have a huge variety of different items at any one time, so it makes cooking from scratch, or complicated recipes that require multiple ingredients impossible for one person.

I try not to spend more than £7 a week on lunches.

So I might buy two tins of Weight Watchers soup in Poundland, a bag of apples, some folded flatbreads, a tub of cottage cheese, celery sticks, mini plum tomato's, spinach one week.

The following week I'll buy different items for variety.

I don't have to worry about him eating it as he's not interested.

Likewise he sits and eat all his unhealthy food in front of me, his biscuits , crisps and sweets, he makes no effort to hide any of it away, interestingly he always finds the money for the things he wants to eat, for his food and the unhealthy extras.

I think it's obvious from reading this we are not happily married, he's not particularly nice to me, but I'm 58 and feel too old to start again at my age.

I am determined to lose weight ,but it is quite difficult because he doesn't give me any feedback on my appearance and even if I was a perfect size 10 , he still wouldn't be interested.

I'm now focusing on losing weight for my health rather than worrying about looking nice, looking nice for me is tied into my husband thinking I look nice as well, but he doesn't care.

Perhaps when I do get to my target weight and I look better I will be happy with my appearance and won't care what he thinks anyway.

Thanks for letting me get this off my chest because I struggle with not just losing weight and binging but also my appearance my self-esteem just everything