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kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »seltzermint555 wrote: »I was heating up my meal prep a few minutes ago, and I had a coworker walk by me stirring my plate of spaghetti. She looks down and says, "Oh, I see the diet is going well!" chuckles and walks away. I simply sighed.
My meal prep is below. It fits my macros, keeps me full, and frankly, why should I give up pasta to lose weight when I can eat it and still be at a deficit????
I've found that since my weight loss has become noticeable, the comments have started. It is almost since I started caring about what goes into my body, other people feel the need to also. Many are well meaning, "Oh I see you got the salad!" or " You are looking great, keep it up, don't quit" What many don't realize is that I have been at this for quite some time, and your perceptions on pasta aren't going to persuade me to eat like a rabbit. Good luck with whatever weight loss fad you try this month.
How often do you guys deal with this? What are some things you hear about what you eat/ your lifestyle that just get under your skin?
I would say that your calories are off here
How did you measure that 1/2" circle and how large was your zucchini? Also did you make your home made marinara and added up all the ingredients?
Maybe thats what she meant
Its your life and your weight loss journey. Move and carry on.
Meh, I highly doubt that is what her coworker meant.
I'd imagine the coworker thinks pasta = carbs = fattening aka "BUT that is not diet food".
Totally!
I usually don't even notice what my coworkers eat unless it smells really good & then I inquire to what they're eating.
Usually the only comments I get from coworkers is about my food scale or when I bring a big salad to work (the one salad fit in a Blue Bunny gallon ice cream container).
This made me laugh. I used to take my salad to work in huge margarine containers (poor man's tupperware). I can't believe how many people thought I was eating actual margarine for lunch.
Before someone freaks out about margarine, I inherited them from my grandma. I'm a real butter snob. 6 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »seltzermint555 wrote: »I was heating up my meal prep a few minutes ago, and I had a coworker walk by me stirring my plate of spaghetti. She looks down and says, "Oh, I see the diet is going well!" chuckles and walks away. I simply sighed.
My meal prep is below. It fits my macros, keeps me full, and frankly, why should I give up pasta to lose weight when I can eat it and still be at a deficit????
I've found that since my weight loss has become noticeable, the comments have started. It is almost since I started caring about what goes into my body, other people feel the need to also. Many are well meaning, "Oh I see you got the salad!" or " You are looking great, keep it up, don't quit" What many don't realize is that I have been at this for quite some time, and your perceptions on pasta aren't going to persuade me to eat like a rabbit. Good luck with whatever weight loss fad you try this month.
How often do you guys deal with this? What are some things you hear about what you eat/ your lifestyle that just get under your skin?
I would say that your calories are off here
How did you measure that 1/2" circle and how large was your zucchini? Also did you make your home made marinara and added up all the ingredients?
Maybe thats what she meant
Its your life and your weight loss journey. Move and carry on.
Meh, I highly doubt that is what her coworker meant.
I'd imagine the coworker thinks pasta = carbs = fattening aka "BUT that is not diet food".
Totally!
I usually don't even notice what my coworkers eat unless it smells really good & then I inquire to what they're eating.
Usually the only comments I get from coworkers is about my food scale or when I bring a big salad to work (the one salad fit in a Blue Bunny gallon ice cream container).
This made me laugh. I used to take my salad to work in huge margarine containers (poor man's tupperware). I can't believe how many people thought I was eating actual margarine for lunch.
Before someone freaks out about margarine, I inherited them from my grandma. I'm a real butter snob.
THIS! I grew up in a tradional Hispanic household, and all plastic/glass containers were reused for years. I didn't think twice about bringing leftover lasagna in a cottage cheese container until someone asked if I liked cottage cheese THAT much. lol8 -
Depending on my mood, I probably would've responded with "And for you too!" or "if you say so." When I stare at my co-workers lunches it's because I want some..... Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. I've had to share many a half capsicum with co-workers for the same reasoning haha.0
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quiksylver296 wrote: »kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »seltzermint555 wrote: »I was heating up my meal prep a few minutes ago, and I had a coworker walk by me stirring my plate of spaghetti. She looks down and says, "Oh, I see the diet is going well!" chuckles and walks away. I simply sighed.
My meal prep is below. It fits my macros, keeps me full, and frankly, why should I give up pasta to lose weight when I can eat it and still be at a deficit????
I've found that since my weight loss has become noticeable, the comments have started. It is almost since I started caring about what goes into my body, other people feel the need to also. Many are well meaning, "Oh I see you got the salad!" or " You are looking great, keep it up, don't quit" What many don't realize is that I have been at this for quite some time, and your perceptions on pasta aren't going to persuade me to eat like a rabbit. Good luck with whatever weight loss fad you try this month.
How often do you guys deal with this? What are some things you hear about what you eat/ your lifestyle that just get under your skin?
I would say that your calories are off here
How did you measure that 1/2" circle and how large was your zucchini? Also did you make your home made marinara and added up all the ingredients?
Maybe thats what she meant
Its your life and your weight loss journey. Move and carry on.
Meh, I highly doubt that is what her coworker meant.
I'd imagine the coworker thinks pasta = carbs = fattening aka "BUT that is not diet food".
Totally!
I usually don't even notice what my coworkers eat unless it smells really good & then I inquire to what they're eating.
Usually the only comments I get from coworkers is about my food scale or when I bring a big salad to work (the one salad fit in a Blue Bunny gallon ice cream container).
This made me laugh. I used to take my salad to work in huge margarine containers (poor man's tupperware). I can't believe how many people thought I was eating actual margarine for lunch.
Before someone freaks out about margarine, I inherited them from my grandma. I'm a real butter snob.
THIS! I grew up in a tradional Hispanic household, and all plastic/glass containers were reused for years. I didn't think twice about bringing leftover lasagna in a cottage cheese container until someone asked if I liked cottage cheese THAT much. lol
I was bummed when all my margarine containers bit the dust. They were the perfect size for a big ol' salad.1 -
Unfortunately, friends and coworkers still look at me like I'm some alien when I pass up the free pizza/thai food/ice cream/cookies/mexican etc and bring my own food to eat. If I am going to eat bbq, it is going to be from some family restaurant in the south, the free dry meat with a so-so sauce and some passable mac'n'cheese isn't appetizing.
I am in grad school; there is free food everywhere multiple times a week. I could probably get a couple lunches per week free if I ate pizza. I'd rather save my calories for wine and dark chocolate later, but people can't get it through their head that I can't eat everything I want all the time. I just don't feel like exercising that much and a lot of free food I don't find filling.0 -
Its funny how we can want to lose weight, but think that other people should not notice and not say anything. Our appearance drastically changes, but we want them to keep their eyes cast down to the ground. and keep their mouths shut. If they look at us, OMG! If they say anything OMG! Its an entirely unrealistic expectation, that "people should have no right to look at me when they notice what is going on right in front of their eyes, and they should have no right to speak to me about what I'm going through right in front of them." You're in their world too, come on. But this is a COMMON type of post, and it brings up very interesting psychological questions.
WHY DO YOU WANT TO CONTROL OTHER PEOPLE? Why do you want control over what they say? Is it because you are having to struggle to control yourself? And failing to control ourselves is what got us into the weight predicaments? And once we see we CAN control ourselves, that new desire to control our weight, that new need to control what we put in our mouths, seems to overflow to everything (and everyone) surrounding our weight loss.
Are you also finding yourself re-organizing closets? Because you've found self-control. But your new-found self-control can't extend beyond the borders of you. Focus on you, because other people aren't robots that have to dance to your tune, and look only where you agree them to look, and say only what you pre-agree with them to say to you. You have absolutely 0 rights to expect other people to say only things that you approve of.
You aren't going to control other people, its ridiculous to expect to. And nonsensical to get upset over what other people do or say....you can only control you. Get back to worrying about what goes in your mouth, not what comes out of theirs. Your mouth=your control, your choices. Their mouth=their control, their choices. And the two areas do not overlap, so stick to your own span of control.
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I have a coworker who comments on everything I eat. It's really annoying. If I have a donut, egg sandwich, piece of candy or anything that she "can't have" she's at my desk fawning over it. Her comments are usually "lucky! I wish I could have an egg sandwich! but it's too high in fat and I have to watch my cholesterol" "oh a donut?? aww I want one!" My comments are usually something like "yep, I was craving a donut today..." "this egg sandwich has a good source of protein that will keep me full all day" Most recently, I was having a mild case of low blood sugar, and was sucking on a Jolly Rancher to bring it up a bit and tide me over till lunch. She thought I was soooo lucky to be able to have a 25 calorie piece of candy in my mouth. I told her I was eating it to get my blood sugar back up, and wasn't sure how lucky that made me. She hasn't commented on my food in a little while, lol. The egg one annoys me the most, because I'm pretty sure there are worse sources of high cholesterol in her diet then the eggs she demonizes so much. Every recipe she has given me usually involves cream of mushroom soup and a packet of onion soup mix... Water off a ducks back though. Smile and nod is usually the best way to go, lol.
ETA: Then there's when my other coworker's offer me ice cream , pizza or other goodies they bring in. If I don't want any, or it doesn't fit my calories I just tell them I just ate or I'm still full from lunch. No one questions it. If I say that I'm watching what I eat they try to push it harder.. go figure.
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While I think others have given some great strategies for dealing with the coworker's comments, I still stuck back on why they even know you are on a "diet"?
Honestly, I never share my dieting or fitness stuff with casual coworkers and to do so only invites these type if comments. Food is such an emotionally charged issue for so many people.
If someone makes an unsolicited comment about what I'm eating, I pretty bluntly ask them why they think what I eat would be any other of their concern?
If someone asks if I've lost weight and what I'm doing, I just give a vague answer about managing my nutrition and intake and getting some exercise. This often causes some kind of question or comment like, Low Carb? Or, "what you really need to do is.......". I just answer with a terse I'm just fine with what I'm doing thanks." If they persist, my response is a variation in the one above, "why is my nutrition and exercise your concern." It is meant to discourage commentary and it does.4 -
Crafty_camper123 wrote: »
ETA: Then there's when my other coworker's offer me ice cream , pizza or other goodies they bring in. If I don't want any, or it doesn't fit my calories I just tell them I just ate or I'm still full from lunch. No one questions it. If I say that I'm watching what I eat they try to push it harder.. go figure.
In these situations, I just give a simple and pleasant "no thanks". I feel no need to justify or explain why I do or don't want to eat something.
As far as your coworker goes, I would have to set some boundaries with that person regarding commentary on what I eat.
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I'm lucky enough I don't get too much of this at work, there are a lot of us in the same boat here. Several people walk on their breaks and are generally watching what they eat. The worst for me is at home. It's not what's said, it's what is done. My mother lives with us since she lost her job and can't afford to live on her own. She's diabetic, but she has no problem trying to sabotage my weight loss by making things that I will not eat, and then trying to guilt my kid into eating it too when he, my husband and I are all changing our lifestyle together. If only she would follow our lead...
I don't get it, some people just find joy in derailing your success...6 -
grammagrape wrote: »Its funny how we can want to lose weight, but think that other people should not notice and not say anything. Our appearance drastically changes, but we want them to keep their eyes cast down to the ground. and keep their mouths shut. If they look at us, OMG! If they say anything OMG! Its an entirely unrealistic expectation, that "people should have no right to look at me when they notice what is going on right in front of their eyes, and they should have no right to speak to me about what I'm going through right in front of them." You're in their world too, come on. But this is a COMMON type of post, and it brings up very interesting psychological questions.
WHY DO YOU WANT TO CONTROL OTHER PEOPLE? Why do you want control over what they say? Is it because you are having to struggle to control yourself? And failing to control ourselves is what got us into the weight predicaments? And once we see we CAN control ourselves, that new desire to control our weight, that new need to control what we put in our mouths, seems to overflow to everything (and everyone) surrounding our weight loss.
Are you also finding yourself re-organizing closets? Because you've found self-control. But your new-found self-control can't extend beyond the borders of you. Focus on you, because other people aren't robots that have to dance to your tune, and look only where you agree them to look, and say only what you pre-agree with them to say to you. You have absolutely 0 rights to expect other people to say only things that you approve of.
You aren't going to control other people, its ridiculous to expect to. And nonsensical to get upset over what other people do or say....you can only control you. Get back to worrying about what goes in your mouth, not what comes out of theirs. Your mouth=your control, your choices. Their mouth=their control, their choices. And the two areas do not overlap, so stick to your own span of control.
You seem fun at parties.21 -
grammagrape wrote: »Its funny how we can want to lose weight, but think that other people should not notice and not say anything. Our appearance drastically changes, but we want them to keep their eyes cast down to the ground. and keep their mouths shut. If they look at us, OMG! If they say anything OMG! Its an entirely unrealistic expectation, that "people should have no right to look at me when they notice what is going on right in front of their eyes, and they should have no right to speak to me about what I'm going through right in front of them." You're in their world too, come on. But this is a COMMON type of post, and it brings up very interesting psychological questions.
WHY DO YOU WANT TO CONTROL OTHER PEOPLE? Why do you want control over what they say? Is it because you are having to struggle to control yourself? And failing to control ourselves is what got us into the weight predicaments? And once we see we CAN control ourselves, that new desire to control our weight, that new need to control what we put in our mouths, seems to overflow to everything (and everyone) surrounding our weight loss.
Are you also finding yourself re-organizing closets? Because you've found self-control. But your new-found self-control can't extend beyond the borders of you. Focus on you, because other people aren't robots that have to dance to your tune, and look only where you agree them to look, and say only what you pre-agree with them to say to you. You have absolutely 0 rights to expect other people to say only things that you approve of.
You aren't going to control other people, its ridiculous to expect to. And nonsensical to get upset over what other people do or say....you can only control you. Get back to worrying about what goes in your mouth, not what comes out of theirs. Your mouth=your control, your choices. Their mouth=their control, their choices. And the two areas do not overlap, so stick to your own span of control.
Dang simmer down!
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kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »grammagrape wrote: »Its funny how we can want to lose weight, but think that other people should not notice and not say anything. Our appearance drastically changes, but we want them to keep their eyes cast down to the ground. and keep their mouths shut. If they look at us, OMG! If they say anything OMG! Its an entirely unrealistic expectation, that "people should have no right to look at me when they notice what is going on right in front of their eyes, and they should have no right to speak to me about what I'm going through right in front of them." You're in their world too, come on. But this is a COMMON type of post, and it brings up very interesting psychological questions.
WHY DO YOU WANT TO CONTROL OTHER PEOPLE? Why do you want control over what they say? Is it because you are having to struggle to control yourself? And failing to control ourselves is what got us into the weight predicaments? And once we see we CAN control ourselves, that new desire to control our weight, that new need to control what we put in our mouths, seems to overflow to everything (and everyone) surrounding our weight loss.
Are you also finding yourself re-organizing closets? Because you've found self-control. But your new-found self-control can't extend beyond the borders of you. Focus on you, because other people aren't robots that have to dance to your tune, and look only where you agree them to look, and say only what you pre-agree with them to say to you. You have absolutely 0 rights to expect other people to say only things that you approve of.
You aren't going to control other people, its ridiculous to expect to. And nonsensical to get upset over what other people do or say....you can only control you. Get back to worrying about what goes in your mouth, not what comes out of theirs. Your mouth=your control, your choices. Their mouth=their control, their choices. And the two areas do not overlap, so stick to your own span of control.
Dang simmer down!
Ahh but she makes a valid point.
I’ve lost 103 lbs in the last year.
Yes people in my office have noticed!
Yes some people have commented!
Yes some comments were less than brilliant.
I could care less, I’m just too busy working on me.6 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »seltzermint555 wrote: »I was heating up my meal prep a few minutes ago, and I had a coworker walk by me stirring my plate of spaghetti. She looks down and says, "Oh, I see the diet is going well!" chuckles and walks away. I simply sighed.
My meal prep is below. It fits my macros, keeps me full, and frankly, why should I give up pasta to lose weight when I can eat it and still be at a deficit????
I've found that since my weight loss has become noticeable, the comments have started. It is almost since I started caring about what goes into my body, other people feel the need to also. Many are well meaning, "Oh I see you got the salad!" or " You are looking great, keep it up, don't quit" What many don't realize is that I have been at this for quite some time, and your perceptions on pasta aren't going to persuade me to eat like a rabbit. Good luck with whatever weight loss fad you try this month.
How often do you guys deal with this? What are some things you hear about what you eat/ your lifestyle that just get under your skin?
I would say that your calories are off here
How did you measure that 1/2" circle and how large was your zucchini? Also did you make your home made marinara and added up all the ingredients?
Maybe thats what she meant
Its your life and your weight loss journey. Move and carry on.
Meh, I highly doubt that is what her coworker meant.
I'd imagine the coworker thinks pasta = carbs = fattening aka "BUT that is not diet food".
Totally!
I usually don't even notice what my coworkers eat unless it smells really good & then I inquire to what they're eating.
Usually the only comments I get from coworkers is about my food scale or when I bring a big salad to work (the one salad fit in a Blue Bunny gallon ice cream container).
This made me laugh. I used to take my salad to work in huge margarine containers (poor man's tupperware). I can't believe how many people thought I was eating actual margarine for lunch.
Before someone freaks out about margarine, I inherited them from my grandma. I'm a real butter snob.
The best container I used was the one that a frozen Party Punch starter came in. A coworker looked at me like I had five heads.3 -
I meal prep as well, and if I take something with pasta or potato -fitting into my calories and macros- Iol get, “You’re not going to lose weight eating carbs like that.” My response is to tell them that carbs aren’t bad and that I need them for the long distance running that I do. I think a lot of people hear about fad diets and think that the only way to lose weight is to restrict yourself instead of just moderating.5
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kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »seltzermint555 wrote: »I was heating up my meal prep a few minutes ago, and I had a coworker walk by me stirring my plate of spaghetti. She looks down and says, "Oh, I see the diet is going well!" chuckles and walks away. I simply sighed.
My meal prep is below. It fits my macros, keeps me full, and frankly, why should I give up pasta to lose weight when I can eat it and still be at a deficit????
I've found that since my weight loss has become noticeable, the comments have started. It is almost since I started caring about what goes into my body, other people feel the need to also. Many are well meaning, "Oh I see you got the salad!" or " You are looking great, keep it up, don't quit" What many don't realize is that I have been at this for quite some time, and your perceptions on pasta aren't going to persuade me to eat like a rabbit. Good luck with whatever weight loss fad you try this month.
How often do you guys deal with this? What are some things you hear about what you eat/ your lifestyle that just get under your skin?
I would say that your calories are off here
How did you measure that 1/2" circle and how large was your zucchini? Also did you make your home made marinara and added up all the ingredients?
Maybe thats what she meant
Its your life and your weight loss journey. Move and carry on.
Meh, I highly doubt that is what her coworker meant.
I'd imagine the coworker thinks pasta = carbs = fattening aka "BUT that is not diet food".
Totally!
I usually don't even notice what my coworkers eat unless it smells really good & then I inquire to what they're eating.
Usually the only comments I get from coworkers is about my food scale or when I bring a big salad to work (the one salad fit in a Blue Bunny gallon ice cream container).
This made me laugh. I used to take my salad to work in huge margarine containers (poor man's tupperware). I can't believe how many people thought I was eating actual margarine for lunch.
Before someone freaks out about margarine, I inherited them from my grandma. I'm a real butter snob.
The best container I used was the one that a frozen Party Punch starter came in. A coworker looked at me like I had five heads.
I’m a container hoarder. Lmao I collect the Greek yogurt containers, the container my blue cheese comes in, and sometimes if a Chinese take out has durable containers I’ll save those too. Haha You can never have enough tubeware.2 -
Unfortunately people are threatened by others success. Stay heavy and they comment, get heathy ans they comment. Point is , they will always have something to say. Just realize it’s more about themselves then you. Their insecurity .3
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Best plan is to ignore them or do like me contact your sarcastic side and if you think they mean it in a negative way, say something like "yeh so what you doing to improve yourself?"
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kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »seltzermint555 wrote: »I was heating up my meal prep a few minutes ago, and I had a coworker walk by me stirring my plate of spaghetti. She looks down and says, "Oh, I see the diet is going well!" chuckles and walks away. I simply sighed.
My meal prep is below. It fits my macros, keeps me full, and frankly, why should I give up pasta to lose weight when I can eat it and still be at a deficit????
I've found that since my weight loss has become noticeable, the comments have started. It is almost since I started caring about what goes into my body, other people feel the need to also. Many are well meaning, "Oh I see you got the salad!" or " You are looking great, keep it up, don't quit" What many don't realize is that I have been at this for quite some time, and your perceptions on pasta aren't going to persuade me to eat like a rabbit. Good luck with whatever weight loss fad you try this month.
How often do you guys deal with this? What are some things you hear about what you eat/ your lifestyle that just get under your skin?
I would say that your calories are off here
How did you measure that 1/2" circle and how large was your zucchini? Also did you make your home made marinara and added up all the ingredients?
Maybe thats what she meant
Its your life and your weight loss journey. Move and carry on.
Meh, I highly doubt that is what her coworker meant.
I'd imagine the coworker thinks pasta = carbs = fattening aka "BUT that is not diet food".
Totally!
I usually don't even notice what my coworkers eat unless it smells really good & then I inquire to what they're eating.
Usually the only comments I get from coworkers is about my food scale or when I bring a big salad to work (the one salad fit in a Blue Bunny gallon ice cream container).
This made me laugh. I used to take my salad to work in huge margarine containers (poor man's tupperware). I can't believe how many people thought I was eating actual margarine for lunch.
Before someone freaks out about margarine, I inherited them from my grandma. I'm a real butter snob.
The best container I used was the one that a frozen Party Punch starter came in. A coworker looked at me like I had five heads.
I’m a container hoarder. Lmao I collect the Greek yogurt containers, the container my blue cheese comes in, and sometimes if a Chinese take out has durable containers I’ll save those too. Haha You can never have enough tubeware.
Although I do my own meal prep, I also supplement my boring meals with a meal prep service. The meals come in the black container with the clear lid. They are the perfect size and now I have a cabinet full of them.3
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