Family & Friends Opinions on How You Look

My boyfriend says absolutely nothing about my appearance, either positively or negatively (unless we're getting frisky, and then he will call me "sexy," but I think that has more to do with the sex than with my actual body). This can be somewhat demoralizing, especially in the past four months - I've been doing a pretty steep cut and have lost about 20, 25 lb since then. It would be pleasing once in a while to hear an acknowledgement that my loss is visible and that I look good. That being said, I know I look good, and my cut is about me, my fitness performance, and my health, not about him. It's not his responsibility to constantly reaffirm my awesomeness. I'm more than capable of doing thst for myself.

He is obese and I think my loss makes him even more dissatisfied with his own body. He often disparages his weight, and when he is mentally ready to lose, I will be here to support him. And until then, I will contunue to support him. We very much have a "live and let live" relationship, so it would be pretty out of character for him to comment one way or another, and I'd rather have no response than a negative reponse.

My mom is generally the most unhelpful, as she tends to dismiss any success I have. I commented once that my swim suit was getting baggy because of my weight loss, and she assured me that it was just because "the suit stretched out." She also has commented negatively on my "bony sternum." My favorite, though, is that she has also warned me against "over-exercise," and keeps giving me books with female characters who have a startling revelation that being fit and in good shape is only conforming to societal pressure and not actually mentally or emotionally healthy, and they're all so much happier when they stop caring about their physical health. It's weird. I don't hold it against her because, again, she is someone who is unhappy with her own body. It also helps that I live a thousand miles away from her.

ETA: I am much more bothered by negative comments about my performance than about my appearance. I still remember very vividly telling my then-boyfriend how many push-ups I could do - this was years ago and I was new to fitness and excited about my accomplishment. He told me "I bet you're doing them wrong." I wanted to punch him in the face. There's a reason he is an ex (well, many).

People tell me I starting to look too skinny....like really? I am still Over weight at 156.5 and 5'5" tall. I am NOT too skinny. But they are used to see me as a little rounder. I used to be in the 180s. So to them I look very different.
My husband is supportive as he is trying to lose weight as well. It really helps doing it as a team.

Greatly depends on who and what.
My mother started saying I was skinny minnie when I was still nearly BMI 27 So really very much in the overweight category! In all fairness it had a lot to do with her own weight issues at the time and because I could prove that I was not skinny by any means it quickly stopped. In fact it opened her eyes and she went on a journey too - She is still very overweight (I suspect still obese) but at least no longer morbidly obese and her health has improved dramatically after losing over 20Kgs
My MIL told me to stop at around BMI and she got a rebuke form both my husband and me that it was not her place to tell me when I needed to stop or not. My husband told her that I know what I am doing period.
My husband, simply asked what I wanted to achieve and only encouraged me to to do it in a healthy way. He loves the fact that I have built muscle and sees what it had done to my self-esteem. He only concerns himself if he feels I go too obsessive and he tells me so. At present he is very supportive on my maintenance and the way I look after myself on that. He appreciates it when I tell him to take it easy on the meals for a week when I am entering the upper end of my maintenance range and knows when I am at the bottom and will help me then too.

Opinions are like a_s_sholes everybody has one. They said I was too fat at 230, now they say I am too skinny at 175. Lol. You can't win. I have learned to just do me and ignore everyone else. I am not even close to how I want to look and I am sure there will be more 'opinions' along the way. I just put my blinders on and forge ahead.

Yes, my mother does. I was about 30 pounds overweight. I got sick (didn't know I was sick) and was dieting and lost it all really quick. It wasn't gradual. I lost over 35 pounds in like 3 months. I've been on the road to gaining back muscle currently but my mom and sisters always comments on how I look.
Both my mother and my two sisters are at least 50 pounds or more overweight. (Not trying to lose weight) but they always comment on things like my butt or my extra skin or what not.