How does it feel to be single?

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  • projectsix
    projectsix Posts: 5,088 Member
    It feels like you're sort of in life in a 3rd party viewpoint watching it, instead of experiencing it with someone while waiting for that someone to come along.
  • xFunctionalStrengthx
    xFunctionalStrengthx Posts: 4,928 Member
    Nothing wrong with being single. Have been single for almost 6 years now, with a couple of short relationships since my divorce.

    I'm happily single, doing my own thing. Have yet to meet someone who would make me not want to be single.
  • FabulousFantasticFifty
    FabulousFantasticFifty Posts: 195,832 Member
    SurfyPantz wrote: »
    The winter nights are the hardest time for me. But hope floats and I will follow my heart, even if it takes me to the other side of the world, to be with some sweet n lovely <3

    Maybe when we swap houses ;) You will find yours in Colorado and I'll find mine in New Zealand :smiley:
  • KiwiLifter
    KiwiLifter Posts: 115 Member
    15 years single. The pros outweigh the cons for me.
  • beagletracks
    beagletracks Posts: 6,034 Member
    edited April 2018
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    Well, I planned on this for dinner, but was too exhausted to press the buttons on the microwave so I had a bowl of Grapenuts with soy milk instead. (In case any of you tired old married folks with kids were getting jealous.)

    Just kidding. I actually spent the evening at a fabulous gala sipping champagne and nibbling on canapés while hobnobbing with the glitterati. It felt GREAT.
  • beagletracks
    beagletracks Posts: 6,034 Member
    SurfyPantz wrote: »
    The winter nights are the hardest time for me. But hope floats and I will follow my heart, even if it takes me to the other side of the world, to be with some sweet n lovely <3

    This is just lovely <3
  • Versicolour
    Versicolour Posts: 7,164 Member
    Some days are good and some days are bad. Sometimes I appreciate not having to deal with another person and sometimes I miss having someone to share the little moments with. I have been single for a year, separated for a year and a half, and alone in company for about 7 years. This is far better than any other time
  • beagletracks
    beagletracks Posts: 6,034 Member
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    Being single feels a hell of a lot better than being in a deadend, miserable, toxic relationship!! Some days are better than others. I have plenty to keep myself busy most days, but there are times, like last night, when the weather was perfect for a late night stroll just talking about life. I wished for about 5 minutes I had someone to do that with. I sometimes wish when there were certain events in town I wasn't a 3rd or 5th wheel or going alone.
    I have learned a lot about myself though. I have pretty much been in some sort of relationship from 15-35. Now it is time to learn how to make ME happy, not give up everything trying to please someone else. Sometimes this leaves me feeling lost, but ultimately I will grow and flourish!

    Well said! I miss having someone to travel with the most. <3
  • LittleLionHeart1
    LittleLionHeart1 Posts: 3,655 Member
    km8907 wrote: »
    Good days and bad days. I'd love to be in a relationship with the right person but if that's not in the cards than I'm ok being single. I have my friends and family. Having a partner is no promise that you won't die alone in a nursing home, same thing as having kids doesn't mean they'll visit you there. I can do whatever I want with no one to consult with but myself and my bank account.

    Many kids and grandkids won't. And there's the breed that will. No matter what. :)<3
  • activities1
    activities1 Posts: 3,475 Member
    I’m about to find out!
    I do love the alone time but hate not having the travel buddy.
  • TonyB0588
    TonyB0588 Posts: 9,520 Member
    MrSith wrote: »
    Simple question. How do you feel about being single? How long have you? how do or did you adjust?

    Can't remember. That was 30 years ago.
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    I have honestly not been single very much in my adult life. There were 2 years post-college and then less than a year between my divorce and meeting my current husband. I think of myself as being comfortable with being single and then it's a little odd when I look at the actual amount of time I have been single. Partly, I believe it's because in my first marriage (10 years) I did a lot of things independently from my husband and we didn't share many hobbies or interests.

    Anyway...I think it is important (single or not) to enjoy your own company. Cultivate your interests and practice self-care. It makes you a stronger & happier person. I strive to do this even when in a relationship/married, but I think being single gives you even more time and energy to spend on it.
  • jaycanchu
    jaycanchu Posts: 265 Member
    Technically still married, but she moved out like a thief in the night 6 months ago.
    I miss the little jokes we had between us, and stuff like that all the time, but am really enjoying the freedom to do as I please, and workout when, and as much as I want.
  • jaycanchu
    jaycanchu Posts: 265 Member
    spanish_liza wrote: »
    It has its good and bad days


    Being 3rd or 5th wheel. Kinda sucks but hey whatever

    That is definitely the worst part, but it seems if you aren’t willing to be a third wheel, you don’t do out.
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  • andreascjonsson
    andreascjonsson Posts: 433 Member
    ive been single for 1year and 2 months and im really not looking for anyone. Being single feels great since i never been it in my adult life before me and my latest ex broke up.
  • sniper300_Rum
    sniper300_Rum Posts: 1,073 Member
    It kinda sucks
  • honeybee__12
    honeybee__12 Posts: 15,688 Member
    After 35yrs of marriage and living with him from 17 to 50 I do enjoy not having anyone to answer to but myself.
    But being single for years now, I'm tired of being alone.
    I miss having my best friend to share with.
    Also, I miss the ability to get laid whenever I want, dang do I miss that!
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  • andreaen
    andreaen Posts: 365 Member
    I have been single more or less all my life, and I am very happy with that. No responsibilities, no strings :) That being said I have many flings, but it's never been serious. I also have bad intimacy-anxiety, so that's probably also a big part of it.
  • MsKim36E
    MsKim36E Posts: 77 Member
    I’ve been single for 6 years and most the time I’m good with it, but there are times when I really wish I could have someone to cry on their shoulder or just have hold me when its been a rough day.
  • corinasue1143
    corinasue1143 Posts: 7,464 Member
    Heaven, I'm in heaven! Divorced in 1990. Never dated since then. Not interested.
  • projectsix
    projectsix Posts: 5,088 Member
    edited April 2018
    corinasue1143 wrote: »
    Heaven, I'm in heaven! Divorced in 1990. Never dated since then. Not interested.

    Okay, we're all thinking the same thing so I'll be the one to ask.

    What about libido and sex? Are you asexual?
  • dnunny70
    dnunny70 Posts: 411 Member
    I have been single for 5 years...dated a couple guys for a few months off and on. I have full custody of my boys,so I am not alone. I would like a partner...but haven’t met the right one, yet.
  • beagletracks
    beagletracks Posts: 6,034 Member
    km8907 wrote: »
    projectbradley wrote: »
    corinasue1143 wrote: »
    Heaven, I'm in heaven! Divorced in 1990. Never dated since then. Not interested.

    Okay, we're all thinking the same thing so I'll be the one to ask.

    What about libido and sex? Are you asexual?

    That's what toys are for.

    <3
  • activities1
    activities1 Posts: 3,475 Member
    km8907 wrote: »
    projectbradley wrote: »
    corinasue1143 wrote: »
    Heaven, I'm in heaven! Divorced in 1990. Never dated since then. Not interested.

    Okay, we're all thinking the same thing so I'll be the one to ask.

    What about libido and sex? Are you asexual?

    That's what toys are for.

    Omg... thunderstick every women’s (or should be) go to
  • T_143
    T_143 Posts: 1,022 Member
    Avocado_AS5 wrote: »
    Things I miss about being married:

    Putting my ice cold feet on someone.
    Someone to check my oil and mow my grass.
    Extra help around the house.
    Readily available sex.
    That 2nd income!
    Someone to go to movies with.

    Things I DON'T miss about being married:

    Constant pointless bickering.
    Sharing a bank account.
    Having to check in with someone where I am, when I'll be home etc.
    Being made to feel inferior because my income is smaller therefore I'm not contributing as much.
    Dealing with crappy in laws.
    Having to choose an ice cream flavor I don't even like.
    Watching dumb movies or stupid shiz on tv.
    Listening to crappy music in the car.
    Soreness in my eyeballs from rolling them 8000 times a day.
    The stinky farts and thunderous snoring.


    Was married 15 years and have been single for 3.
    I'm so cool being single right now.

    I agree with so much of this!

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