"But you look so fat"

That honestly sucks! It can be so discouraging when someone makes a negative comment but when that happens to me, I just think about how that’s a reflection on THEIR character (no offense to your grandma or anything but that’s mean).

I think your motivation to work out and be fit is your personal victory regardless of how people see it. Try not to let people affect that and do these things for yourself. Best of luck with your fitness journey and remember that you CAN do it!!

My grandmother is usually quite deliberately nasty to people around her, so I'm used to it and I don't let it get to me. When someone feels compelled to be mean, it's about them, not about you. So, I would have just said "thanks grandma" with a big smile...she hates it when no one is upset by her comments...but if you get upset, then she becomes the victim and she "didn't mean it like that" and you are "just too sensitive", very typical pattern, she refuses to acknowledge that you have any right to your own feelings and goes out of her way to make sure that she never has to accept responsibility for anything she says...in any case, it likely has nothing to do with you or how you look, and if you are worried about how your weight loss looks, then take measurements and photos FOR YOU!!!

Everyone else can just get bent if they aren't being helpful.

OK. Stuff like this pushes our button because we have that button. If GM had said something about you having 2 heads how would you react?
Bet it wouldn’t matter b/c you don’t have a 2 heads issue with yourself.

I think weightloss takes place in our heads.
Don’t know why this is, but our own brains are really out to wreck us. Any bit of self doubt, any indication that our WL expectations aren’t being met and our brains jump up- AHA! See, I told you so! Failure!

Push back. According to your post, your program is working just fine. Stick to the facts. If you have a working program, it’s just a matter of time. Don’t let this rattle you.

There's family, then there's everyone else. Family will usually tell you without blinking an eye. Why? Cause you really can't disregard them because of a comment.
Now HOW YOU RESPOND, matters. Personally, I don't care if people like what I where, how I look, how I laugh, etc. That's me. If it bothers them, then it's their problem. Do you. Don't worry about what others say.

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My grandmother. That whole side of that family is very thin. Runners, swimmers, fashionistas. I happen to have one cousin who's bigger than the rest, always has been. She has always been a healthy, normal size, just bigger compared to the rails of other relatives. All my grandmother could say about her, "she's fat". When she graduated high school, she got a full scholarship to the best engineering school in the country. Grandmother: "she's fat". Then she became an amazing professional artist, supporting her and her 3 daughters with her work. Grandmother: "she's fat". Mind you, she's also a competitive runner. I felt so much shame for my grandmother to only focus on one, pointless, thing and miss out on knowing an amazing person.

Those hurtful things are extra hard to hear from someone close, especially someone you respect. Whenever a loved one says something hurtful to me, I think of my cousin, and remember how silly those hurtful words sound when you are on the outside.