Thoughts

Avocado_Angel wrote: »

777Gemma888 wrote: »

Further to SuperOrganism2's suggestions ...

I realise you'd rather he does some foot work for his own future, but in reality he might not have an inkling of "where to from here? ". He has withdrawn with silent rage, because he is scared. He is still a child.

Have you considered looking up Coding and Hacker BootCamps held weekly at some libraries and on Saturdays by some tech companies for children 11-19 years?

How about taking him to the Military Recruitment Office? The men/women at those centers are super accommodating. A friend who is 27 now, and a USN Master Chief in the Navy told me they might even consider paying him a visit at home, to talk to your brother. No judgement or preordained ideas about the back story. If you ask politely, they can share parts of military life he might be interested in, where being on the net and around tech becomes an earning avenue. They might be the figures of respect and fatherhood he needs. I had naval officers who were taught by my father, go to my brother's school when he wasn't listening to me ... He refused to fill in University applications and scholarships/grants forms with me ... I was adamant, "if you're not going to Uni, you're joining the military. Officer training starts in 2 months." He ended up in the Royal Marines after his LLB Hons, then returned for his Masters later. He found his brotherhood in the military . Sometimes men can get through, when we their big sisters are perceived by them as thorns or wannabe mother figures who AREN'T their mothers.

You're his adult sister. You have been through life's trials. You want him settled and independent. Sometimes all they need is direction ... A not so obvious nudge.

I could always look into it and it's something I'l discuss with him. Thank you it was nice to hear a view point from someone in a similar situation, and sincerely guys, thanks for all the comments and opinions I'm feeling a bit better and have some more steam in me to forge ahead.

Avocado_Angel wrote: »

_barefoot_ wrote: »

I think military will be perfect for him .

When I told my bf that my bro had been talking to this guy about military stuff, my bf was quick to remind me about the days I would also say "I will join the military" back in the days i wasn't well. I didn't know what I wanted to do and I think maybe my bro is in a similar situation. But without wanting to sound sexist, he's a guy so is the military more of a male thing ? Or is he just craving some stability and routine in his life? I don't know how I feel sending my bro into a potentially life or death situation cos he was talking about front line. Couple that with his talk of suicide I'm like Wooooooah hold the phone.

It can't be easy for him. The world is a crazy place to live. My only issue is I'm dealing with my own *kitten*. Trying to find the balance is crazy hard. But yeah, him saying he is thinking about army is a good thing but I will have a good chat with him and see what he says. His perceptions of the world are probably skewed. In fact, in the past I have said to him why don't you join the fire brigade, cos I know folk in there and a lot of the time is spent sitting around lol apart from when your having to tend to fires and all that *kitten* lol my brother totally recoiled at the thought of being put in danger so the thought of him standing with a gun on front line, well.