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fredk0522
fredk0522 Posts: 79 Member
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Is it appropriate to be married and have married members of the opposite sex (or same) as close personal friends?

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  • fredk0522
    fredk0522 Posts: 79 Member
    laprimaJenny wrote: »
    Only from 9-5 on week days.

    At work?
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  • J3Ramos23
    J3Ramos23 Posts: 43 Member
    Yes I think so, as long as you dont pass your boundaries
  • J3Ramos23
    J3Ramos23 Posts: 43 Member
    SabotageinStilettos wrote: »
    Sure, as long as there’s no funny business

    Yes perfect way to explain that
  • fredk0522
    fredk0522 Posts: 79 Member
    SabotageinStilettos wrote: »
    Sure, as long as there’s no funny business

    Would it be cause for jealousy just the same?
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    I'm married and have multiple friends who are men. Have had no issues so far. Pretty sure this is an individual thing and not strictly "you must do this in a relationship or else".
  • saragd012
    saragd012 Posts: 693 Member
    Absolutely. I've never understood the logic that those friendships inherently inappropriate when in a relationship. I don't know about anyone else, but whether I'm in a relationship or not, my clothes do not spontaneously fall off my body when I'm in the presence of my preferred gender. When I'm in a monogamous relationship I'm fully aware of appropriate boundaries, and no friendship will/has ever suddenly make me forget those boundaries. Fortunately my wife agrees. I have had male friends who have been told by their girlfriends they could no longer spend time with me, just because I'm female. I find it frustrating and completely absurd, we mostly worked out in the gym together, if that's threatening to your relationship you have much bigger fish to fry.
  • peaceout_aly
    peaceout_aly Posts: 2,018 Member
    fredk0522 wrote: »
    Is it appropriate to be married and have married members of the opposite sex (or same) as close personal friends?

    Yes. Be friends with whoever you want. My best friends are men, married and single. It's never been a problem. If it were, the issue would be trust, not the friendships themselves.
  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    CanesGalactica wrote: »
    I'm married and have multiple friends who are men. Have had no issues so far. Pretty sure this is an individual thing and not strictly "you must do this in a relationship or else".

    Canes, you brazen hussy!
  • Amo_Angelus
    Amo_Angelus Posts: 604 Member
    I think it's a sad reflection of the marriage if you can't be trusted to have friends of the opposite gender personally...

    If you trust your partner then it's not an issue, if you don't then why are you married?
  • fredk0522
    fredk0522 Posts: 79 Member
    Amo_Angelus wrote: »
    I think it's a sad reflection of the marriage if you can't be trusted to have friends of the opposite gender personally...

    If you trust your partner then it's not an issue, if you don't then why are you married?

    Trying to figure that out
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  • fredk0522
    fredk0522 Posts: 79 Member
    newmeadow wrote: »
    So what girl do you want to be friends with on MFP and is she pretty?

    New here as of this week and really don’t know many yet
  • fredk0522
    fredk0522 Posts: 79 Member
    Or any I should say
  • fredk0522
    fredk0522 Posts: 79 Member
    Maybe I should ask if anyone needs one lol
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    SwannySez wrote: »
    CanesGalactica wrote: »
    I'm married and have multiple friends who are men. Have had no issues so far. Pretty sure this is an individual thing and not strictly "you must do this in a relationship or else".

    Canes, you brazen hussy!

    Lol, would not be the first time that's been lobbed my direction; probably won't be the last.

    I think people like to assume more is going on than is because they are severely bored... or have trust issues themselves.
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  • fredk0522
    fredk0522 Posts: 79 Member
    rickswifey83 wrote: »
    I think it is ok to have friends of the opposite sex, I didn't think it to be bad until my husband told me it was bad. I guess his own guilt drove him to feel that way because his experience with "friends" had benefits attached.

    Do you trust him now?
  • ChaelAZ
    ChaelAZ Posts: 2,240 Member
    I have plenty of female friends, but I don’t hang out with them like I used to. The friendship hasn’t changed but the dynamic of it has.

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