"Grr" to PPL want to lose weight but dont want to do the wor

all I know is I had years of working on being over weight.... and nothing gave me the same feeling as losing it. I loved what I ate but realized that I just ate too much. I am ready now to lose weight and I am sure I made 100 excuses when I was not ready. I have had several people try to lose weight "with me" but I realized that when they gave up they were not ready. I am ready and I am not hodling back with them. PEACE OUT!

EXACTLY!

Many, many people who want to lose weight but don't want to put in the effort will say the same thing she said - essentially life is short and I want to enjoy it. It is a truly scewed vision of a happy life to think that that means eating whatever you want because it tastes good. There is no long term vision there - no recognition of the health problems that could ensue and the fact that your loved ones may lose you much sooner. Unfortunately, many people think that in order to be healthy you have to eat "rabbit food" or whatever ridiculous phrase they want to use; they don't recognize you can have your indulgences, but in moderation. And you know what? That moderation makes an indulgence that much more enjoyable because it's not an everyday thing - so I enjoy my food even more than they do eating it every day. You can't help someone who isn't ready, we just have to focus on ourselves sometimes, no matter how much we wish someone we care about would change.

I usually just joke about it and say "No thanks, I'm trying to quit." It gets a good laugh while it also gets the point across.

My line manager is like this. She's been going to slimming world since before I started working there (this is my 3rd year) and she's always moaning about not being able to loose weight. She was asking me tips the other day on how I'd managed to loose my weight so I told her about the MFP app etc etc then she was like "i think I'll go get a bacon sandwich" - nevertheless comes back with a fried egg in that too. The bacon sandwich thing is pretty much daily.

The other thing is she'll eat crap like powdered potato with a HUGE handfull of cheese in it. Or then half a bag of split peas, because they're good for you.

She even got referred to the gym by her GP - so it was free - and she went all of like 4 times. Her GP has referred her again but she's had to go on a waiting list. She has a massive list of health problems but I think she's more content to just sit and moan about them than actually sort her weight out and probably save herself a lot of pain.

Its so frustrating

Some people just aren't ready, but they might think they are, and then they get frustrated.

Exactly, been there...done that.

Sounds like she gave up before even trying! I used to make excuses all the time, even after i asked a friend to help me...then she reminded me "YOU asked ME for help...now get up and lets do this" That week, I bought an elliptical and started on MFP..here I am 4 months later and 40 lbs lighter....its slowed down a bit on the working out, but I am still making sure I am doing a minimum of twice a week...I still watch what I eat and am seeing weight loss.....Keep up the good work and kudos to you for rejecting the fast food offer! (that was always hard for me...but not no more!)

For those that think I was "snarky" - As dispatchers that work in a high stress closed enviroment we are all "Type A" personalities. No harm No foul. Also some background on that comment, we debated it weeks ago, along with "Better than sex Cake" and the validity of those statements. It was a rowdy discussion about whether or not food can meet emotional needs. I

Her response is one of defeat. She has decided its easier to settle than make a difference in her behavior. She is late 30's, 180-190lbs and 5ft5, divorced. She eats fast food at work repeatedly and she does not order healthy. After almost every meal she will say "Steph, why did you let me order that?" Then I sit here feeling guillty.

There I think that covers the "NAY Say-ers"

I wish her luck, but I cant be her cheerleader when she is on the wrong side of the losing game.

You feel guilty because she blames her food choices on you? That makes no sense. If you really are a type-A personality, then you'd tell her to either stop blaming you for her unhealthy eating or do something about it. I'd never let *anyone* make me feel guilty for something I didn't do directly.

For those that think I was "snarky" - As dispatchers that work in a high stress closed enviroment we are all "Type A" personalities. No harm No foul. Also some background on that comment, we debated it weeks ago, along with "Better than sex Cake" and the validity of those statements. It was a rowdy discussion about whether or not food can meet emotional needs. I

Her response is one of defeat. She has decided its easier to settle than make a difference in her behavior. She is late 30's, 180-190lbs and 5ft5, divorced. She eats fast food at work repeatedly and she does not order healthy. After almost every meal she will say "Steph, why did you let me order that?" Then I sit here feeling guillty.

There I think that covers the "NAY Say-ers"



I wish her luck, but I cant be her cheerleader when she is on the wrong side of the losing game.

I seriously think that you should ask yourself where you were before you decided it was your time. To me, it sounds like you've made this woman's life too much of your own if it's affecting you so much, and you feel like you have all of this explaining to do to everyone else. Like all of her personal information you just added to your post, my opinion of this whole situation doesn't change now that I know her marital status and the fact that she's 5'5". Just do your thing, don't worry about hers!