Frustrated with my shape :(

I think most of us are way harder on ourselves than we should be. I don't see any of the things you're pointing out about yourself.. not as flaws, at least. I would LOVE to look like you.. I know, maybe not super helpful coming from someone needing to lose a lot of weight, but I'm sure I'm not the only one who would be envious of your body. You're working on building the muscles you want.. Muscles build SO slowly. You're on the right track, though, so keep at it and try to love yourself as you are and as you will be.

I see a waist. It's a bit higher due to your body shape, but it's definitely there and nothing to complain about!

That's a really cute suit, but try on several different styles. The style, cut, and shape of the suit itself makes a huge difference. Try a higher waist bottom or one with higher cut in the leg, etc.

You look great! Just like regular clothes you have to find the style and shape of suit that flatters your specific body.

nettiklive wrote: »

BZAH10 wrote: »

I see a waist. It's a bit higher due to your body shape, but it's definitely there and nothing to complain about!

That's a really cute suit, but try on several different styles. The style, cut, and shape of the suit itself makes a huge difference. Try a higher waist bottom or one with higher cut in the leg, etc.

You look great! Just like regular clothes you have to find the style and shape of suit that flatters your specific body.

I tried on a whole bunch, this was actually the least horrible of them lol. The others were way worse. Also tried on some one pieces which were pretty terrible too

Doubtful. We are all our worst critics and I think you're being WAY too hard on yourself! When you look at yourself in the mirror respond to the image as you would a friend or even a stranger. It sounds odd, but it works.

You certainly don't need to cover up but they do make some really cute cover-up skirts if that would make you feel better. Either way, find something you're comfortable in and OWN it.

While your shape mostly comes down to genetics and how your muscle and fat is distributed, you can change that to an extent with muscle building. You can create an illusion of a smaller waist with larger lats and glutes for example.

The thing about recomp, while it is great, it can be slow (so 6 months is not a lot of time).. and being so lean as you seem to be, changes can be very minimal and in some cases less optimal (obviously not impossible, but results will vary). It will depend on your ultimate goals of course what you want to do.

Also the suit.. maybe if you go for something more high cut, different top style. Also if you go to a bikini shop where the lighting is better ! Bad lighting can be really discouraging no matter the body shape.

You look great, girl! I'm in kinda the same situation as far as being very short-waisted. You are way leaner than me, though. Also, Target swimsuits are all pretty ill-fitting and they have THE most unflattering dressing rooms (imo).

You look amazing! You absolutely do have a waist - a beautiful one at that. I do see what you mean about feeling bony, maybe go for something more mix and match and have a longer top? Show off your flat abs and your lovely legs. If that's you in bad lighting, you're going to look fabulous on the beach.

The way you described yourself vs the picture is night and day . You have a poor self image , you are gorgeous and rocking that suit ))

Black duct tape could make that suit^^^
A save a few bucks and perfect for hair removal.

The changing room mirrors/lighting wildly confuse me, it's like the shops do not want peoples money, lmao

jemhh wrote: »

I agree that it's the suit, not you. I would try elsewhere for a suit. Try on a few that you don't particularly like on the hanger, even. I've discovered quite a few outfits that I like on me but when I saw them on the hanger thought "there's no way."

Excellent point.

I think you look great and I'm sad you don't agree and no one needs a tan to look good!

You look fine.(Great, actually.) The bad lighting in that fitting room is playing tricks on your mind. I always think of fitting room mirrors like evil funhouse mirrors. I'll try stuff on and discover rolls I didn't even know I had! I'm sure you'll find a bathing suit you'll feel confident in, you may just have to keep shopping. Since everyone's body is different, you may find some place where nothing fits right. And, that's okay. It's their selection. Not you. I've tried on heaps of clothes and walked out with nothing because there was something that was just a bit off on every piece. Happens to all of us I'm sure. Try not to be down on yourself.

Some of my strategies? I try to position myself in different ways in the fitting room to combat the funhouse lighting. Sometimes it helps to stand back a bit and look from a different angle. I'll also try stuff on that I like but am not sure will look good on me. Sometimes I'm pleasantly surprised! Sometimes I'm like "lol, nope". If I have any "maybes" I'll take a pic in the fitting room and then show it to my husband. It's sometimes good to have an outside eye. They may not see what you see and point out why that item looks great (or sometimes not so great). Also if you think it maybe looks okay, but aren't sure, save your receipt and try it on at home. The better lighting and good mirror at home could make all the difference to what you are seeing. If I saw you on the beach I wouldn't be seeing a single thing you pointed out. Neither would anyone else. Usually, people are too absorbed into their own self to worry about other people anyways. Find one you like, and just think to yourself "Screw them! I look great and I know it!" If you don't believe it, just fake it. Fake confidence eventually turns into real confidence and no one from the outside will know the difference. Tell yourself you're beautiful enough, you will eventually come to know it's true.

Honestly, you look good. I'm in the same boat with the no waist and wide love handles thing, but you look far better than I currently do. And you have more hip. Rock that bathing suit because you look damn good.