Treated Differently

I haven't noticed any difference in treatment. Then again I'm still 85 lbs. overweight. I have been told several times that I'm on fire due to losing weight and some other accomplishments.

Its a lose lose situation. When you heavy you get critisized and when your skinny its not much better. I get the your to skinny or the skinny ***** comments. Or the oh look you have no bum! lol Humans are a weird nothing is ever good enough. So do whats good for you and screw the rest.

When i would get on the dance machine before people would kinda chuckle...a fat bloke trying to do this lol...till i put it on expert and blew them away.

I don't get that look anymore. Not sure if its a good thing or not =/

I have had people at work respond to me differently - they seem to take me more seriously. I think that a lot of humans don't even realise that they subconsciously think fat people are undisciplined, weak, unfocussed, and unsuccessful, perhaps even less intelligent.

I know I don't do my nervous laugh as much as I did - so my own confidence improving is possibly also having an effect on how they see me.

My family stare at me a bit - and some are jealous and think I need fattening up! lol (I'm 5ft 7" and 195lbs so not exactly skinny!)

A couple of people have commented that I need to buy new clothes - but I'm not wealthy and I'm halfway on my journey so I'm buying anything until I reach my goal. I have a sewing machine and will take my clothes in.

I'm going to enjoy recycling my old fat clothes. I will never need them again. (Thanks Dr Pierre Dukan) :-)

Its a lose lose situation. When you heavy you get critisized and when your skinny its not much better. I get the your to skinny or the skinny ***** comments. Or the oh look you have no bum! lol Humans are a weird nothing is ever good enough. So do whats good for you and screw the rest.

YES! They make fun of you if they think you are too overweight...then when you lose weight, they say that you're too skinny. I hate it!

A little. I work with mostly men. They are more apt to hold the door open for me instead of just walk through it and let it shut, LOL. They seem to be more chivalrous.

A little. I work with mostly men. They are more apt to hold the door open for me instead of just walk through it and let it shut, LOL. They seem to be more chivalrous.

Yes I have notice this too!

As with everything there is good and bad to both sides i was miserable as a teenager i was very big at school and was taunted every day which made me feel really low this was obviously the down side to being big it makes u self concious and angrry and that never goes away im afraid no matter how much weight you loose that person inside u is still there but that is not a bad thing let me explain ...... when i was bigger i knew who were my real friends the people who looked past the outside and saw me for me no matter what size i was that is what i held onto and that is what meant more to me in the whole world at 16 i was a size 22 uk by the time i was 21 i was a size 10 (was too skinny felt just as self concious as when i was bigger ) treated totally different tho people who i would see out at clubs or bars could not believe it was me some were the exact people that ridiculed me at school but this time they wanted to be friends with me or tried chatting me up and although this made me feel god in one way it made me doubley angry like hey u didnt want to know me then so why now ! i am now 34 and a size 14 i feel comfortable but am still self concious but i am and alway will be a mentally larger person in my head people can be so cruel out there or is it uneducated???? it comes with learning to accept who you are be happy with that and not to pay attention to nievity from other people and have friends that love you for you not what size or shape or how u look thats when u find true happiness xxx sorry for waffling but your post most deff caught my eye x

I haven't noticed a whole lot yet. But I can say this - when I lost a lot of weight a long time ago (went from about the weight I am now, to what my goal weight is!) I noticed a little different treatment...just people generally nicer, more friendly, more likely to talk to me or help me. But when I started to gain all that weight BACK I definitely noticed a huge difference. I no longer got doors held open for me, I'd smile at people and they'd ignore it, it was like I was suddenly invisible or just too fat to be treated like a person.
The only thing I've noticed so far with my loss, is that my FIL who is all about looks and has reamed my hubby for "not marrying for beauty or money" like he taught him to do....is now a bit kinder to me at times. I have a feeling the thinner I get, the nicer he'll get. lol

The first time I lost a lot of weight, it seemed everyone wanted to point it out a work. Three or four times a day I'd hear 'Oh, wow-- what's your secret?' and comments like 'the incredible shrinking woman!' Most of these comments came from women, and mostly older women at that. Motherly figures trying to be very supportive, bless their hearts.
Believe it or not, even that positive attention made me feel uncomfortable. It made me feel like I was being stared at more-- especially in the lunch room. And since I heard it so much, I feared if I ever fell off the wagon, I would be the talk of the town. I've never been one that liked being the center of attention for ANY reason.
Call me a product of a lifetime of low self-esteem, but when you continually hear surprised exclamations of 'Wow! You're looking so good!' it makes me feel like saying, 'Just how hideous was I before?'

Well, im still 256lbs, so im 85lbs overweight still, so I haven't been treated any differently by men so far, but im getting really irritated by ppl around me saying how great I look, and how proud they are of me and yadda yadda. Yea I've went from 325 at one point down to what I am now, I know, why u gotta remind me everyday? I was prepared for it once I got near goal weight, but I guess not all along the way..im still pretty overweight and to get compliments about how great I look when im still so insecure about my body just messes with my head.

I noticed people treat me nicer and guys flirt more... and the ones at the gym like to stare at my *kitten* more thats for sure!

For the most part though people don't notice unless I'm wearing really tight reveling clothes, then it's oh you look amazing and blah blah blah. When I say I lost 25 pounds i get Wow.. thats a lot of weight! Being on here though and seeing what everyone else has done, my 25 pounds seems measly at best!

Wildon, dude... I do not envy the sh*tstorm that's coming your way.

Wildon, dude... I do not envy the sh*tstorm that's coming your way.

He was being honest. I don't see the problem.

I started putting on weight sort of purposely in a sort of subconscious type of way. I absolutely hated the way boys/men would look at me and treat me when I was thin - like that's all that mattered. At least when I was more overweight, I generally knew who my real friends were and that a guy liked me for me. Once I had my initial weight loss, I started noticing more of that attention again. Cat calls and crap. I expect more once I reach my goal weight, but now it doesn't have the same effect on me psychologically that it once did, basically I can ignore it and write those people off. I also think that people judge what overweight people eat WAY more than skinny people. Each person could be eating or buying the same food, but I think others judge the overweight person - like they shouldn't be eating that if it's a sweet or something, even though skinny does not equal healthy.

Notice a pattern here? Most of us don't appreciate the way many men choose to express their appreciation of our bodies. I only hope to find a man to make my life partner who knows how to be a gentleman, but also how to make me feel sexy without being degrading.