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NorahsDaddy
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How's that for an opening.
Just got back from my homeopath and she highly recommended this site. To make a long story short, I've been battling obesity for quite some time and I'm on the brink of just throwing my arms in the air and saying, to hell with it. I'm a fat slob.
I know psychology plays a huge role in my lack of success. It's not like I haven't been trying though.
I don't drink, don't smoke, don't do drugs and recently became a vegetarian. And next to nothing to show for it.
Sorry about the whining. Hope things are better with those who read this.
Laugh later.
Randy
Just got back from my homeopath and she highly recommended this site. To make a long story short, I've been battling obesity for quite some time and I'm on the brink of just throwing my arms in the air and saying, to hell with it. I'm a fat slob.
I know psychology plays a huge role in my lack of success. It's not like I haven't been trying though.
I don't drink, don't smoke, don't do drugs and recently became a vegetarian. And next to nothing to show for it.
Sorry about the whining. Hope things are better with those who read this.
Laugh later.
Randy
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That's the spirit! jk
Don't give up, man. I don't really know what a homeopath is (sounds like a super hero), but if she recommended this site to you, then she's alright in my book. There's tons of knowledge and motivation to be had around here. Good luck!6 -
It's not the alcohol, smoking, drugs, or meat that causes weight gain, it's the number of calories that you eat. What will create weight loss is a calorie deficit. Put your stats and goals into MFP, get a calorie goal, log accurately, and consistently hit that goal.28
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I second what pp said. Be consistent about logging your calories, staying under calorie goals (dont beat yourself up if you go over occasionally, just get it right the next meal/day) and try to get some exercise. Walking, jogging, pilates, yoga....Fitness Blender on YouTube has awesome free workouts for any level of fitness. It's a journey... It takes a while but it's worth it for sure.9
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I’ve definitely had that attitude before. I don’t know what it is, but something recently switched in my brain. I’m committed to losing the weight now! I hope it happens for you too. Give MFP an honest shot. Just seeing the calories and nutrient levels will make you think twice about what you put in your mouth.
Btw, if anything I *gained* weight being a vegetarian. Carbs aren’t meat, haha!
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Really appreciate all your thoughts. So nice to meet people who care. I think so much of it comes down to psychology though.
I'm 63 and feel like I should be winding down instead of ramping anything up. Also, being brought up to not care for myself has an affect too. Won't bore anyone with the details, but while there was no physical abuse, there was very serious neglect that has lasting effects.
Thanks for caring.8 -
Us old folks can get fit, too! It's never too late. Some of the older people on this site are some of the fittest!
I look at it like this - now that I'm older and my kids are grown I can spend more time working on myself, my fitness, all the things that I like to do. Being more physically fit gives me the energy to have fun with the grandkids, travel and basically just get more out of life. You can "wind down" and sit in your recliner and watch TV or you can "ramp up" go out there and enjoy life!
The fact that you see a homeopath shows that you believe in natural solutions. Getting fit is within your power!
Just curious - why did you decide to become a vegetarian? Vegetarianism isn't necessarily a measure of good health. I know plenty of overweight vegetarians. Losing weight is all about creating a calorie deficit, regardless of what you're eating.8 -
I used to feel that way too-I'm chubby and so what? I've tried so many ways to lose weight and failed. For some reason, this time it just clicked. I am getting to where I love to walk, I do two miles at least once a day if not twice. I'm 55 and after being a wife, raising kids, working (I'm retired) it is time for me! If I don't put myself first-no one else will. I'm down 31# since mid-January. Of course in the beginning of my weight loss-I wanted to be farther along at this time, but so happy with that. I have never lost that much weight before and I'm so proud of myself for getting there and still going! YOU CAN DO IT! Take it one day at a time and before you know it, you will have changed your habits and your lifestyle. Good Luck on your journey to a healthier you!8
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janejellyroll wrote: »It's not the alcohol, smoking, drugs, or meat that causes weight gain, it's the number of calories that you eat. What will create weight loss is a calorie deficit. Put your stats and goals into MFP, get a calorie goal, log accurately, and consistently hit that goal.
This.
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Psychology can be overcome and at 63 it's not too late! You can do it! Add me if you want a friend
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RaeBeeBaby wrote: »Us old folks can get fit, too! It's never too late. Some of the older people on this site are some of the fittest!
I look at it like this - now that I'm older and my kids are grown I can spend more time working on myself, my fitness, all the things that I like to do. Being more physically fit gives me the energy to have fun with the grandkids, travel and basically just get more out of life. You can "wind down" and sit in your recliner and watch TV or you can "ramp up" go out there and enjoy life!
The fact that you see a homeopath shows that you believe in natural solutions. Getting fit is within your power!
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Just adding.. hardest lesson I had to learn was that yes, getting fit/healthy does feel selfish...(it did for me) BUT... not if you think of it as something you are not just doing for you, but for your family as well, setting an example, establishing some boundaries (those are good things), as well as ensuring you are around alot longer and don't miss anything they are doing in the future!
I plan on living as long as possible, in as healthy a body as I can, so I can bug them for a very long time. LOL.
You are in the right place now... one little step at a time is a very good thing!
Welcome!
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Becoming a vegetarian will not necessarily help you achieve weight loss unless you can also stay away from simple and complex carbohydrates (sugar, flour, white potatoes, white rice, white bread, etc. etc.) as well. Make sure you read the labels because there are a lot of hidden sugars in foods. This website can definitely help you keep track of everything.
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Mrswarunek71914 wrote: »Becoming a vegetarian will not necessarily help you achieve weight loss unless you can also maintain a calorie deficit. stay away from simple and complex carbohydrates (sugar, flour, white potatoes, white rice, white bread, etc. etc.) as well. Make sure you read the labels because there are a lot of hidden sugars in foods. This website can definitely help you keep track of everything.
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Mrswarunek71914 wrote: »Becoming a vegetarian will not necessarily help you achieve weight loss unless you can also stay away from simple and complex carbohydrates (sugar, flour, white potatoes, white rice, white bread, etc. etc.) as well. Make sure you read the labels because there are a lot of hidden sugars in foods. This website can definitely help you keep track of everything.
Vegetarians, including those who eat simple and complex carbohydrates, lose weight the same way everyone else does -- through a calorie deficit.
And I'm not even sure how one would *be* a vegetarian while staying away from carbohydrates -- you'd not just be eliminating sugar and flour, but also whole grains, fruits, vegetables, and beans. Dairy products would also be out due to the carbohydrates in them. What would you be eating exactly?13 -
Mrswarunek71914 wrote: »Becoming a vegetarian will not necessarily help you achieve weight loss unless you can also stay away from simple and complex carbohydrates (sugar, flour, white potatoes, white rice, white bread, etc. etc.) as well. Make sure you read the labels because there are a lot of hidden sugars in foods. This website can definitely help you keep track of everything.
Really?
So the 70+ pounds I lost while eating all of those things (and lots of other carbs as well) is just an illusion and didn't really happen?
I'm shattered. Shattered, I tell you.
Now for the truth: Weight loss is a result of calorie deficit (consuming less calories than you expend). Not cutting out carbs/sugars.12 -
WorkerDrone83 wrote: »That's the spirit! jk
Don't give up, man. I don't really know what a homeopath is (sounds like a super hero), but if she recommended this site to you, then she's alright in my book. There's tons of knowledge and motivation to be had around here. Good luck!
Homeopaths are pretend doctors who sell supplements and "cures" because Big Pharma is evil and only about the money.12 -
Fellow Veg here. I find myself being a carb-etarian more often than a vegetarian. Working on changing that mindset. Feel free to add me if you like; I know the struggle. Been overweight my whole life.0
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keep it simple
get a scale and weigh your food
log your food
stay in your calorie allotment
exercise is not necessary to lose weight. but it does give a few more calories to eat a day which is nice.
read all the stickies on the forums
remember it took time to get here and it will take time to lose weight2 -
Randy, please do not give up! You are NOT screwed, and it is most certainly NOT too late! The only time it's too late to do anything is when you're dead. You are not dead, so you still have hope. You can still do this! I have been obese for most of my life, I have lost 124 pounds and when I say that losing weight is definitely possible, I'm speaking from experience. Losing weight is hard, but not impossible. It CAN be done, and once that ball gets rolling, you will be so glad you decided to stick with it!1
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Have you considered counseling to help you get past the "psychology" that you recognize as being part of the issue? A good cognitive behavioral therapist could probably help you a lot, and it likely wouldn't take a ton of sessions, either. Look into it.
And PS 63 is pretty young, especially if you start taking care of yourself. Personally I'm aiming to live to at least 120. Who knows, you may only be halfway done with life! But even if you are closer to the end than that, why not maximize the time you have left? My FIL just died last week at 67 from leukemia, which was brought on by the chemotherapy that cured his lymphoma 30 years ago. He knew that was a risk of the treatment. But you know what? He lived the crap out of the 30 years he was given. He finished raising his boys, saw both of them get married, he got to know all 6 of his grandchildren, he retired from being a sheriff's deputy and took equestrian classes with his wife just for fun, rode a horse through the Grand Canyon, joined a cowboy shooting society, and celebrated 44 years of marriage before he died. He helped us celebrate my daughter's 20th birthday, his oldest grandchild. Stop looking at yourself as if your life is over and you should be winding down. So the early part of your life sucked. That doesn't mean it has to destroy the rest.9 -
I hope 63 isn't close to the end...I am 68! 7
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